Wedding Do you ever feel emotional about something DUMB?

[rockzilla]

If you haven''t read my dress backstory (fell in love with a dress that turned out to not be as flattering in photos of me as I thought it looked in real life) this might not make sense...

So, this week I decided that the Valentina was just not doing it for me...even though I am crazy about the lace, it was not the most flattering for my figure. I tried on many more dresses (some, like the monique lhullier, were more flattering but not ''quite right'') and I am 90% sure I am going to go with one of the first dresses I tried on, the Amy Kuschel ingrid (both flattering and having elements that I want, but not 100% lace). Also, the Valentina, while made with amazing french lace, had a polyester lining (POLYESTER! on an almost $5K dress!)

So then, why, when I have decided all this, do I get a pang in my gut when I get an email this afternoon from the consultant saying the valentina is on a list to be discontinued? Almost tearing up a little? How can I be so emotionally attached when I decided it was not the one?

ARGH!

 

[Gypsy]

Aww honey. If I'm recalling correctly dress shopping is one of the first 'bridal' things you are doing in the planning, and when you went shopping you were concerned about finding a gown... and then you tried the Valentina on... and you FELT like a BRIDE... like it was REALLY REAL. It was probably a very emotional moment. And its sad that the dress that gave you that feeling is being discontinued.

It's like when people get emotional throwing out some dinged up beat up thing they've had around the house -- not because of the thing, but because of what it reminds them of. It's not the right dress for you. But that doesn't mean that you can't be sad and emotional.

And God Knows it doesn't have to be rational. Actually now you mention it and I think about it... the first dress I feel in love with is probably long discontinued, and thinking that... makes me sad too.

 

[rockzilla]

Date: 6/20/2008 7:05:04 PM
Author: Gypsy
Aww honey. If I''m recalling correctly dress shopping is one of the first ''bridal'' things you are doing in the planning, and when you went shopping you were concerned about finding a gown... and then you tried the Valentina on... and you FELT like a BRIDE... like it was REALLY REAL. It was probably a very emotional moment. And its sad that the dress that gave you that feeling is being discontinued.

That is true...and I went with my mom, and they did the full ''bridal treatment'' -veil, fake bouquet, walking down the ''aisle'' (actually just their hallway), bridal consultants fawning over me...and the dress felt SO unique and high end and classy...all things I aspire to be

I will keep the magazine photos of the dress though...that is how I will remember it...

 

[Gypsy]

Definitely keep the pic for a while. It sounds like a good way to have a something to remind you, and it''s easy to store and doesn''t cost a dime.

 

[winston26]

Being on the verge of tears about anything during wedding planning is no surprise! I browsed through this book and it made me feel a little more "normal" about being on such an emotional rollercoaster! http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Emotionally-Engaged/Allison-Moir-Smith/e/9780452288034/?itm=7 I wished someone would have given it to me as soon as I got engaged though.

By the way, while in the store trying on MY actual dress that had finally come in, I saw the very first one I liked on the sale rack! It drove me nuts, even kept walking over to touch it. MOH had to say "it''s OK, let it go!"

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I agree, it''s he overall stress of weddings and whatnot. It happens. I cry over so many dumb things these days, and I didn''t used to be a crybaby. FI is just used to at this point. I''ve developed so many new fears and stuff, it''s silly I think, and embarrassing.

 

[calidaisy]

oh, i totally know what you mean.
i still think about the first (two) dresses i fell in love with before i bought my dress.

and ... i almost bought the first one i fell in love with couple weeks ago when i got a call from the store telling me that they''re closing down and would sell me the sample for around $1000 (i''m a 2-dress bride as is, not to mention i don''t have $$$ to waste! ;p).

nevertheless, i feel sad wondering if anyone ended up buying that sample, because i feel like, in a way ... that was my dress. it was the first dress that made me feel like a bride!