Wedding Do you believe in fate?

[honey22]

quick background ladies - DF and I have been together since high school, his Dad passed away a few months before we got together, so I never had the honour to meet my FIL. Something I will regret I guess, as he is very highly spoken of and my MIL insists he would have loved me.

Anway, he used to love Akerbilk (spelling?! I am so bad). He used to play his music all the time and was very special to him. It was played at his funeral etc, and the family always thinks of him when they hear it.

Fast forward to this weekend, we were at Precious Metals in Brighton (Holloways Diamonds) trying wedding bands on and DF found a gorgeous band that looked great on him. And got stuck! I giggled and said that is must be a sign. I turn around and DF is smiling with this beautiful smile on his face and he says, so this music is a sign - I couldn''t believe it, Akerbilk was playing! His Dads favorite song. I know it''s daggy but I feel like it was his Dad giving his blessing for our marriage!

Am I mad? I guess I feel really touched by this. His Mum is thrilled, she had a little teary on the phone when I told her. No, we didn''t buy the ring, but I can''t shake the feeling that it is meant to be. I think we have found his wedding band.

On a side note, do you think it''s ok to play some of his favorite music at the wedding? I want to honour him in some way but i don''t want the family to be miserable?

 

[Lynnie]

Hi honey! I think that your story is absolutely heartwarming, and I totally believe "coincidences" like yours are more than coincidences. Does that make sense? I would take it as a sign that your FIL is blessing your wedding as well.

I think that honoring your FIL with music is a lovely idea.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 8/25/2008 5:39:36 AM
Author:honey22
quick background ladies - DF and I have been together since high school, his Dad passed away a few months before we got together, so I never had the honour to meet my FIL. Something I will regret I guess, as he is very highly spoken of and my MIL insists he would have loved me.

Anway, he used to love Akerbilk (spelling?! I am so bad). He used to play his music all the time and was very special to him. It was played at his funeral etc, and the family always thinks of him when they hear it.

Fast forward to this weekend, we were at Precious Metals in Brighton (Holloways Diamonds) trying wedding bands on and DF found a gorgeous band that looked great on him. And got stuck! I giggled and said that is must be a sign. I turn around and DF is smiling with this beautiful smile on his face and he says, so this music is a sign - I couldn't believe it, Akerbilk was playing! His Dads favorite song. I know it's daggy but I feel like it was his Dad giving his blessing for our marriage!

Am I mad? I guess I feel really touched by this. His Mum is thrilled, she had a little teary on the phone when I told her. No, we didn't buy the ring, but I can't shake the feeling that it is meant to be. I think we have found his wedding band.

On a side note, do you think it's ok to play some of his favorite music at the wedding? I want to honour him in some way but i don't want the family to be miserable?

Honey, I absolutely do believe in fate, it was meant to be!

Here is a lovely Acker Bilk song just for you.

 

[Deelight]

Date: 8/25/2008 5:47:34 AM
Author: Lorelei

Date: 8/25/2008 5:39:36 AM

Author:honey22

quick background ladies - DF and I have been together since high school, his Dad passed away a few months before we got together, so I never had the honour to meet my FIL. Something I will regret I guess, as he is very highly spoken of and my MIL insists he would have loved me.


Anway, he used to love Akerbilk (spelling?! I am so bad). He used to play his music all the time and was very special to him. It was played at his funeral etc, and the family always thinks of him when they hear it.


Fast forward to this weekend, we were at Precious Metals in Brighton (Holloways Diamonds) trying wedding bands on and DF found a gorgeous band that looked great on him. And got stuck! I giggled and said that is must be a sign. I turn around and DF is smiling with this beautiful smile on his face and he says, so this music is a sign - I couldn''t believe it, Akerbilk was playing! His Dads favorite song. I know it''s daggy but I feel like it was his Dad giving his blessing for our marriage!


Am I mad? I guess I feel really touched by this. His Mum is thrilled, she had a little teary on the phone when I told her. No, we didn''t buy the ring, but I can''t shake the feeling that it is meant to be. I think we have found his wedding band.


On a side note, do you think it''s ok to play some of his favorite music at the wedding? I want to honour him in some way but i don''t want the family to be miserable?

Honey, I absolutely do believe in fate, it was meant to be!


Here is a lovely Acker Bilk song just for you.

Ditto to that and yes I think the music will be a nice touch.

 

[bee*]

I think that''s definitely fate. Playing the music at your wedding is a lovely idea-if you''re not sure about it, maybe mention it to FMIL and see what she says.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I''ve felt that way before when someone who is gone''s favorite song plays at a curious time when I am at a crossroads or up for a huge change. I do believe in fate. Also, I think playing a song in your FIL''s memory would be wonderful!

 

[honey22]

Date: 8/25/2008 5:47:34 AM
Author: Lorelei

Date: 8/25/2008 5:39:36 AM
Author:honey22
quick background ladies - DF and I have been together since high school, his Dad passed away a few months before we got together, so I never had the honour to meet my FIL. Something I will regret I guess, as he is very highly spoken of and my MIL insists he would have loved me.

Anway, he used to love Akerbilk (spelling?! I am so bad). He used to play his music all the time and was very special to him. It was played at his funeral etc, and the family always thinks of him when they hear it.

Fast forward to this weekend, we were at Precious Metals in Brighton (Holloways Diamonds) trying wedding bands on and DF found a gorgeous band that looked great on him. And got stuck! I giggled and said that is must be a sign. I turn around and DF is smiling with this beautiful smile on his face and he says, so this music is a sign - I couldn''t believe it, Akerbilk was playing! His Dads favorite song. I know it''s daggy but I feel like it was his Dad giving his blessing for our marriage!

Am I mad? I guess I feel really touched by this. His Mum is thrilled, she had a little teary on the phone when I told her. No, we didn''t buy the ring, but I can''t shake the feeling that it is meant to be. I think we have found his wedding band.

On a side note, do you think it''s ok to play some of his favorite music at the wedding? I want to honour him in some way but i don''t want the family to be miserable?

Honey, I absolutely do believe in fate, it was meant to be!

Here is a lovely Acker Bilk song just for you.

Lorelei - you just send shivers down my spine!!! That''s the one, his favorite song!!! I am getting a little teary here - weddings make me so emotional.

 

[honey22]

Thanks for your advice ladies, I have spoken to FMIL and she thinks it would be lovely. Maybe we could use it as our first dance song.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 8/25/2008 5:39:36 AM
Author:honey22
quick background ladies - DF and I have been together since high school, his Dad passed away a few months before we got together, so I never had the honour to meet my FIL. Something I will regret I guess, as he is very highly spoken of and my MIL insists he would have loved me.

Anway, he used to love Akerbilk (spelling?! I am so bad). He used to play his music all the time and was very special to him. It was played at his funeral etc, and the family always thinks of him when they hear it.

Fast forward to this weekend, we were at Precious Metals in Brighton (Holloways Diamonds) trying wedding bands on and DF found a gorgeous band that looked great on him. And got stuck! I giggled and said that is must be a sign. I turn around and DF is smiling with this beautiful smile on his face and he says, so this music is a sign - I couldn''t believe it, Akerbilk was playing! His Dads favorite song. I know it''s daggy but I feel like it was his Dad giving his blessing for our marriage!

Am I mad? I guess I feel really touched by this. His Mum is thrilled, she had a little teary on the phone when I told her. No, we didn''t buy the ring, but I can''t shake the feeling that it is meant to be. I think we have found his wedding band.

On a side note, do you think it''s ok to play some of his favorite music at the wedding? I want to honour him in some way but i don''t want the family to be miserable?

I would never question something like this. I really do believe in fate.

And I played that link of Lore''s. How utterly beautiful, and absolutely perfect for a first dance.

 

[Miranda]

Date: 8/25/2008 8:18:20 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 8/25/2008 5:39:36 AM
Author:honey22
quick background ladies - DF and I have been together since high school, his Dad passed away a few months before we got together, so I never had the honour to meet my FIL. Something I will regret I guess, as he is very highly spoken of and my MIL insists he would have loved me.

Anway, he used to love Akerbilk (spelling?! I am so bad). He used to play his music all the time and was very special to him. It was played at his funeral etc, and the family always thinks of him when they hear it.

Fast forward to this weekend, we were at Precious Metals in Brighton (Holloways Diamonds) trying wedding bands on and DF found a gorgeous band that looked great on him. And got stuck! I giggled and said that is must be a sign. I turn around and DF is smiling with this beautiful smile on his face and he says, so this music is a sign - I couldn''t believe it, Akerbilk was playing! His Dads favorite song. I know it''s daggy but I feel like it was his Dad giving his blessing for our marriage!

Am I mad? I guess I feel really touched by this. His Mum is thrilled, she had a little teary on the phone when I told her. No, we didn''t buy the ring, but I can''t shake the feeling that it is meant to be. I think we have found his wedding band.

On a side note, do you think it''s ok to play some of his favorite music at the wedding? I want to honour him in some way but i don''t want the family to be miserable?

I would never question something like this. I really do believe in fate.

And I played that link of Lore''s. How utterly beautiful, and absolutely perfect for a first dance.

Ditto! Your story gave me the chills. I think it would make a lovely first dance song. It sounds like you are marrying into a wonderful family. From your post I can hear the warmth between you and his mother.

Best wishes!

 

[honey22]

Thanks guys, it definately feels right for me, will have to see what DF wants.

And you are right, my MIL and I are very close. She has always told me that DF finding me so soon after his Dad passed away was the best thing in the whole world and how much I brightened up his world and brought the sunshine back into their family. She says that she never had to worry about Pat (DF) as much as the other kids as she knew he was ok with me. She is a bit loopy sometimes but I really do love her dearly. We are flying her up us on holidays in Oct. We are all staying at my parents place and going to organise our destination wedding (my parents live in a tropical paradise lucky things). MIL is so thrilled to be involved in the whole wedding planning process, and I really didn''t want her to be left out. I''m glad the three parents, who get on really well, can be together at this exciting time.

AND that brings me to another coincidence - I told MIL that we will have to go our for dinner the night before we leave at which ever resort we plan on getting married at to celebrate. She''s thrilled as that night just happens to be her 40th wedding anniversary (should Brian have still been with us). She''s really happy that we will be at our wedding venue to celebrate and she won''t be lonley that night. This is all meant to be I swear!!!!

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 8/26/2008 1:33:34 AM
Author: honey22
Thanks guys, it definately feels right for me, will have to see what DF wants.

And you are right, my MIL and I are very close. She has always told me that DF finding me so soon after his Dad passed away was the best thing in the whole world and how much I brightened up his world and brought the sunshine back into their family. She says that she never had to worry about Pat (DF) as much as the other kids as she knew he was ok with me. She is a bit loopy sometimes but I really do love her dearly. We are flying her up us on holidays in Oct. We are all staying at my parents place and going to organise our destination wedding (my parents live in a tropical paradise lucky things). MIL is so thrilled to be involved in the whole wedding planning process, and I really didn''t want her to be left out. I''m glad the three parents, who get on really well, can be together at this exciting time.

AND that brings me to another coincidence - I told MIL that we will have to go our for dinner the night before we leave at which ever resort we plan on getting married at to celebrate. She''s thrilled as that night just happens to be her 40th wedding anniversary (should Brian have still been with us). She''s really happy that we will be at our wedding venue to celebrate and she won''t be lonley that night. This is all meant to be I swear!!!!

It is all DEFINITELY meant to be Honey!! These '' coincidences'' are very special gifts, I have been very blessed to have experienced some myself.

 

[jcarlylew]

honey that story is so sweet! I have a strong feeling that everyone at the wedding would really appreciate and love you playing music in his father''s honor! and Alker Bilk is a fantastic artist, i loved listening to him when i was little.

 

[diamondfan]

Honey, I think that is adorable.

I think it might be just the right thing. No matter what you do his family will miss him, and paying subtle tribute to him should be a wonderful thing. Maybe talk to his mom and your DF about it, and see if there is a way to work it in to the wedding.

My dad died when I was 15. I never did anything in tribute to him at the wedding but something happened that to me was fate and made me feel as if he were there in spirit. But I did not think to do anything special for him, it was too hard for me.

 

[blissfulbride]

Trust me when you do feel things are fate they are. I was in the 4th grade with my fiance and even have a class picture with him. 15 year later we meet, and fell madly inlove at the first kiss. fate is indeed real !