Do you act your age?

[Indylady]

Date: 5/6/2010 8:00:14 AM
Author: HVVS

Date: 5/5/2010 1:33:07 PM

Author: canuk-gal

Date: 5/5/2010 11:55:51 AM


Author: HVVS


No. I am not Mom or Grandma, I am single, and I don''t have to worry about behaving to any standard just because, well, as a matter of fact, I do not have to be a role model, nor do I answer to anyone. Every day, I look at the middle aged small town moms here and I think: Thank G** I''ll never have to live that mundane life as everyone''s household servant.

HI:



You don''t have to be of a certain age or married, to act like a mean ole person. Sorry did I say that out loud?

HAHAHAHAHAHA! You think I''m mean??? DO YOU THINK I CARE!

My point is: No, I don''t have to act ''my age.'' I have the freedom and the drop dead money to tell people to drop dead. There is nothing ''old'' about that. There is nothing ''mean'' about that. It''s independence, and achievement, but not without costs, I''ll admit. Children, debts, having to do endless household chores, having to be the household servant, having to always account to someone, conform, act a certain way, serve, serve, serve, serve: People grow out of that at some point in life. I just happened to do that sooner than most women. If you are unhappy with your other life, remember that you are the one who signed up for it.

Are you ok?

 

[RaiKai]

Date: 5/6/2010 9:01:36 AM
Author: Porridge

Date: 5/6/2010 8:00:14 AM

Author: HVVS

HAHAHAHAHAHA! You think I'm mean??? DO YOU THINK I CARE!

My point is: No, I don't have to act 'my age.' I have the freedom and the drop dead money to tell people to drop dead. There is nothing 'old' about that. There is nothing 'mean' about that. It's independence, and achievement, but not without costs, I'll admit. Children, debts, having to do endless household chores, having to be the household servant, having to always account to someone, conform, act a certain way, serve, serve, serve, serve: People grow out of that at some point in life. I just happened to do that sooner than most women. If you are unhappy with your other life, remember that you are the one who signed up for it.

Delightful...you sure have us convinced that you're living the dream

I'd really stop wasting so much time getting all worked up about how unhappy you think everyone else must be.

Ditto.

I think you are confusing bitter resentment for independence. You portray such a negative view of other women, of men, and of relationships. Yup, must be very satisfying to live that way indeed.

I entered into a relationship of loving and respectful partnership between equal individuals, not into a master-slave relationship as you seem to believe that "most other woman" must be enduring. I never would have chosen the latter. It's rather saddening that you seem to believe the latter option is the ONLY option.

I don't read your post as strong and independent, rather as sad, hurt, and angry.

 

[canuk-gal]

Date: 5/6/2010 8:00:14 AM
Author: HVVS

Date: 5/5/2010 1:33:07 PM

Author: canuk-gal

Date: 5/5/2010 11:55:51 AM


Author: HVVS


No. I am not Mom or Grandma, I am single, and I don''t have to worry about behaving to any standard just because, well, as a matter of fact, I do not have to be a role model, nor do I answer to anyone. Every day, I look at the middle aged small town moms here and I think: Thank G** I''ll never have to live that mundane life as everyone''s household servant.

HI:



You don''t have to be of a certain age or married, to act like a mean ole person. Sorry did I say that out loud?

HAHAHAHAHAHA! You think I''m mean??? DO YOU THINK I CARE!

My point is: No, I don''t have to act ''my age.'' I have the freedom and the drop dead money to tell people to drop dead. There is nothing ''old'' about that. There is nothing ''mean'' about that. It''s independence, and achievement, but not without costs, I''ll admit. Children, debts, having to do endless household chores, having to be the household servant, having to always account to someone, conform, act a certain way, serve, serve, serve, serve: People grow out of that at some point in life. I just happened to do that sooner than most women. If you are unhappy with your other life, remember that you are the one who signed up for it.

HI:

I wanted to thank you for your post, but must admit I am at a loss to understand what you mean. I have no wish to be a pedant, but what is a "drop dead money"? I could understand if one was discussing end of life arrangements--but that is not the context of this thread; and from your previous post I know you would never use a "small town" colloquialism having so much disdain for anything of the like. Pray, enlighten me?

 

[Gailey]

Dear HVS,

I can''t say I have ever noticed any of your posts before, but you are certainly making headway with the couple you''ve made in this thread.

I wonder if you have any concept of just how superior and downright offensive you sound.

I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and suggest that perhaps you are just a little insensitive.

Perhaps you would feel more comfortable staying out of more personal threads and talking about small diamonds instead.

Warm regards

 

[Haven]

HVVS--My guess is that we''ve all just misinterpreted your tone on this thread. I say this because you were extremely kind and understanding with me when I once became unnecessarily defensive about a post of yours that I *thought* was in response to something I wrote, when it wasn''t really about me at all. You showed enormous grace in that thread, so I''m guessing that your tone just didn''t translate as intended in this one.

 

[Lilac]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:45:59 AM
Author: RaiKai

Date: 5/6/2010 9:01:36 AM

Author: Porridge

Date: 5/6/2010 8:00:14 AM

Author: HVVS

HAHAHAHAHAHA! You think I'm mean??? DO YOU THINK I CARE!

My point is: No, I don't have to act 'my age.' I have the freedom and the drop dead money to tell people to drop dead. There is nothing 'old' about that. There is nothing 'mean' about that. It's independence, and achievement, but not without costs, I'll admit. Children, debts, having to do endless household chores, having to be the household servant, having to always account to someone, conform, act a certain way, serve, serve, serve, serve: People grow out of that at some point in life. I just happened to do that sooner than most women. If you are unhappy with your other life, remember that you are the one who signed up for it.

Delightful...you sure have us convinced that you're living the dream

I'd really stop wasting so much time getting all worked up about how unhappy you think everyone else must be.

Ditto.

I think you are confusing bitter resentment for independence. You portray such a negative view of other women, of men, and of relationships. Yup, must be very satisfying to live that way indeed.

I entered into a relationship of loving and respectful partnership between equal individuals, not into a master-slave relationship as you seem to believe that 'most other woman' must be enduring. I never would have chosen the latter. It's rather saddening that you seem to believe the latter option is the ONLY option.

I don't read your post as strong and independent, rather as sad, hurt, and angry.

Ditto Raikai.

HVVS, I'm not sure why you're under the impression that wives and mothers are servants who must endure what everyone else forces them to do - I know I certainly don't feel that way at all in my marriage and most people I know do not feel that way either. You don't sound strong or independent at all - you sound bitter, angry, and resentful. It's very sad.