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Wedding Did you pay for your bridesmaids make up and hair costs?

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I''ve read that usually those costs are covered by the bridesmaids but I''m torn on if I should pay for them or not. One thing...my bridesmaids lived all over the place and they did not help me much during the whole wedding planning process. However my wedding is out of town for all of them so there''s some costs associated with that. I''ve bought them a nice bridesmaid gift, our rehearsal dinner is at a five star restaurant serving lobster and filet mignon. I''ve also paid for their hotel room for one of the nights. What do you think...Should I pay for hair and makeup or should they....and the price of hair and makeup is not cheap either...its over 165 per person.
 
I''m in the same situation as you with out of town bridesmaids and I understand wanting to make thing easier on them. I am considering paying for hair, but not makeup. I figure hair is something they probably cannot do themselves, but I know they can do at least a decent job on makeup if they don''t want to pay for it. That could save you some money.

I''m also taking into account how much money they have. My MOH has a very nice job and makes more than I do, and I know she doesn''t mind paying for her makeup and most of her dress. My bridesmaid (FI''s sister) on the other hand is still in college and thinking of moving to another state and possibly getting a job or starting grad school, so she has basically no money. In her case I will probably end up paying for her entire dress, hotel room, and anything else. I guess think about whether it will be a hardship for them to pay the $165 or if they will just consider it an expected cost of being in your wedding.
 
Actually I already offered to pay for their hair....I''m really torn on the make up part. It is 65 per person...not including tip (and maybe tax) and I have 4 bridesmaids so its a huge chunk of money. I already told them that it is optional...not required and if they would like to do their own makeup that is fine. However I''m still torn whether I should pay for it or not. They all have decent jobs except one of them....I dont think theres one of us that makes a whole lot more than anyone. Theres one student but shes also the groom''s sister and I''m sure she''ll get the money from her dad without any problems. She is also staying in the same room as their mom so she doesnt really have any costs because her parents will cover all of it.
 
I paid for my bridesmaids'' hair and makeup. I wanted people to come to our house that morning instead of going to a salon, so for that I needed a minimum count. Since it was something I wanted, I decided it made sense for me to pay for it. My bridesmaids were also all coming from out of town, so they purchased their dress, their travel and hotel, and I told them to wear shoes that they already had. We purchased a sash for the dress, a wrap to wear with it, a gift, and jewelry.
 
I paid for hair and make-up for all my bridesmaids and my mom and DH''s mom. However, it can be expensive to pay for everyone and I have paid for my own in several weddings where I was a bridesmaid. My only advice is that if you ask them to pay, you need to make it optional. Bridesmaids already shell out a ton of money to be in a wedding, and telling them to pay for hair and make-up is not fair. If you want everyone to have it professionally done, I think you need to pay. If you are ok with some of them choosing to do it themselves, I think it''s fine to give them the option.
 
I''m not paying for my bridesmaids hair and makeup. I asked a few of them if they''d prefer a nice present or a small present and hair/makeup taken cafe of. They said they''d prefer to get a nice present and pay for their own hair/makeup. I then found a team for hair/makeup that charges only $100 for bridesmaid hair/makeup. It''s not cheap, but it''s certainly a lot better than most prices in LA!
 
I had a destination wedding w/ a Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor as my girls. Since they had to travel for my wedding, I paid for their dresses and got them a nice bracelet to thank them for standing by me on my wedding day. I paid for their hair and nails plus tax/tips (along with the mothers) but we all just did our own makeup. I told them first though and it was a non-issue.

My girls didn''t really do much of the wedding planning process but definitely helped me during the week leading up to it. Airfares skyrocketed after I asked them to be part of my wedding party so I really wanted to make it easy on their pocketbooks as much as I could, but still minding our wedding budget. Out of hair, nails and make-up, I figured 2 out of 3 ain''t bad and we all know how to put on our faces...
 
I forgot to add that while I think all of my bridesmaids are going to have hair/makeup done, it''s completely optional.
 
Im paying for my bridesmaids to get their hair done (7) and told them that if they wanted their makeup done, they''re on their own (i know they could all do a good job themselves so this would really just a be a splurge on their part). I am however paying for my moms and fi mom''s hair and makeup (i know they dont ever do this so it should be fun for them). I''m also paying for their custom dresses and BM gifts... I''m in the boat where if its something that i''m specifically asking them to do for the wedding i''ll pay for it...
 
I didn''t pay for their hair and make-up, but I also did not stipulate a specific hairstyle, and left it entirely up to them as to whether they wanted to have professional hair and make-up.

IMHO, if a bride requests BMs to wear a certain hairstyle or have hair and/or make-up professionally done, the bride should pay for the BMs'' hair and make-up.
 
I didn''t because I just couldn''t afford it. But I also didn''t require my bm''s to get their hair and makeup done. 1 of my bm''s had really short hair, so she did her own, and only my MOH got her makeup done.

Maybe if you can easily afford it, offer to pay for hair but they can pay for their own makeup?
 
Date: 10/10/2008 2:00:06 PM
Author: Sabine
I didn''t because I just couldn''t afford it. But I also didn''t require my bm''s to get their hair and makeup done. 1 of my bm''s had really short hair, so she did her own, and only my MOH got her makeup done.


Maybe if you can easily afford it, offer to pay for hair but they can pay for their own makeup?
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Yeah thats the thing...we''re just out of college and dont have much money =( If i could easily afford it I wouldve but I''m thinking about my finances too...and also with the economy not doing so well. I orginally found a cheap place where hair and makeup wouldve been 50 total...but my maid of honor said thats too cheap to be good...so she suggested we go to this place where hair costs 65!!! I already said i will pay for hair so thats like 400 bucks already...makeup wouldve been another $400!! eeekkk i wish i was rich...I think I will pay half (the hair) and make makeup optional for them.
 
I think it you DEMAND that they get their hair and makeup done then yes you should pay for it. If it''s optional, then I don''t think you need to.
 
In Ireland we cover all costs for the bridesmaids-dress, shoes, hair, make up, jewellery etc. so that''s what I''m going to do also.
 
I was curious about this too before the wedding, and I asked around. In my circle of friends, the bridesmaids pay for everything themselves - hair, makeup, dress, shoes, etc. Everyone''s rationale was it is an honor being one for your best friends, so of course you would pay for whatever the bride wanted. Also eventually they would be your bridesmaids as well, so in the end, it would come out even.

For my own wedding, my bms ended up doing their own makeup, but paid for their hair, dresses, wore their own shoes. I offered at one point to pay for their hair, but they said, "why would you pay for it, it''s our responsibility" When I was deciding dresses, I mentioned I was trying to find "wearable" dresses, and they said to forget that, to find whatever I wanted. They were really great and supportive, and total bridezilla enablers! lol

When I read that if you request something of them, you should pay for it, (hair/makeup etc) it''s interesting, because I''ve never heard that. When a bridesmaid, I don''t think of bm dresses as really rewearable (dont'' get me wrong, if they are then it''s a bonus), but as just another wedding expense. I am there to support the bride in whatever capacity, and if it will make her happy for us to wear funky/hideous dresses, hair or makeup, I''ll do it. Because I know it''s not intentional to make us fugly, but it''s their particular style/vision of their wedding day.
 
Date: 10/10/2008 4:08:21 PM
Author: clop

When I read that if you request something of them, you should pay for it, (hair/makeup etc) it''s interesting, because I''ve never heard that. When a bridesmaid, I don''t think of bm dresses as really rewearable (dont'' get me wrong, if they are then it''s a bonus), but as just another wedding expense. I am there to support the bride in whatever capacity, and if it will make her happy for us to wear funky/hideous dresses, hair or makeup, I''ll do it. Because I know it''s not intentional to make us fugly, but it''s their particular style/vision of their wedding day.
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honestly, I think it just really depends on your circle of friends and your personal take on it. I''ve never been apart of a wedding where i had to pay for anything (i''ve been in 3). My personal take on it is that I wouldn''t ask someone to be apart of my wedding and not pay for it. Especially if i''m the one picking out dresses, having them do their hair etc...i just feel like the financial burden of being apart of the wedding should be on the people who are asking you to participate. I also think that it makes the bride a lot more considerate of the amount of money that is being spent because its coming out of their own pocket. I''ve known people who had to pay for everything themselves where the bride expected them to shell out over 1k for all the expenses. I also heard how all the BMs in that wedding complained about how inconsiderate it was to expect that.
 
We paid for my bridesmaids to have their hair and makeup done, but I certainly don''t think it''s necessary.

Of the weddings I''ve stood up in, about half of the brides have paid for the bridal party''s hair and makeup, and the other half did not. We all gave gifts to our bridal party, regardless of whether we paid for their hair and makeup.

The only time I think a bride should pay for this is if they require their girls to have hair and makeup done. Otherwise, it''s just a lovely gesture.

Don''t pay for it if you can''t afford it.
 
With the exception of the cultural weddings, the bm''s and gm''s pay for everything themselves. We paid for everything for our wedding party. I''ve always that it was weird that the wedding party paid to be in a wedding, but I would pay it anyways. Of course, I didn''t dictate how my girls were supposed to look in terms of hair and makeup, I let them decide what looked best on them and paid for it. It was a huge expense.

I''m sorry if I''m no help
 
We paid for the hair and makeup for two bridesmaids and one jr bridesmaid. I had really amazing feather hairpieces made for all three of them and they all had updo styles so I thought since we were going for a certain look that I should pay. Plus with the cost of that on top of their dresses and the rest they''d be so broke! I felt badly. I don''t think you need to pay per se though if you''re not a) picky about how they look and b) not flush with cash. It was really pricey for us to cover this.
 
I''m not planning on paying for hair, but I am planning on paying for makeup. I''m happy with how all the girls do their hair on a daily basis, and if they want to opt for a professional hairdo, that''s their choice (and expense). As far as makeup goes, I''d like them to all match a little bit--I have seen terrible incarnations of clown makeup on bridesmaids, making them stick out like a sore thumb in wedding photos. I just want to prevent the overdoses of bronzer/shimmery eyeshadow/spidery eyelashes/cakey foundation that stops at the jawline that seem to always occur when some of my girls "dress up." So, I''ll be paying for the girls to look like their normal, beautiful selves =).
 
I paid for hair and makeup, but I only had a MOH and really just wanted to spend the morning relaxing at the salon getting our hair and makeup and nails done with her. She kept me smiling and calm, so paying for the pampering was my pleasure.
 
I think you should pay, particularly if they've paid for their own dress and / or shoes.
but ultimately it's a personal thing between you and your friends...

ETA: I see you've already decided to pay for the hair, for me, that would be the most important thing... I can't imagine having to do my own formal hairdo hours before a wedding!! ack!@!
I think it's fair if it's optional whether they have their make-up done... a lot of girls (including myself) would probably prefer to do their own makeup anyway...
although, it could be a fun, girly experience if everyone's involved... if you have the budget, they'll appreciate it if you pay!
 
i paid for all make up and hair for all the bridesmaids. they offered to pay for it themselves, but i just felt more comfortable paying.
 
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