Diamond Addiction... help me...

[citrusacid]

Help! I need to vent a little... Hope I can do that here.
I can''t stop thinking about and wanting more diamonds, even though I just got my upgrade 0.52ct e-ring. Okay, so it is quite small compared to other diamonds on here. Inside myself, I always want something bigger and better than the last one I had. But only 2 weeks of having my asscher solitaire and I already want a 1.5ct upgrade? What''s wrong with me?

Yesterday, I decided to start a goal to save AU$10000 so I can get something over 1ct. Then I wondered, how long will this take? FI and I are just starting out our lives and we''re not that well-off right now, which is the reason I could only get half a carat... because rationally, we should use our savings elsewhere. Now I think, hey I want diamond earrings too, which would only be AU880 for a small pair of ideal cut rounds. And then I thought, gee, each earring would look almost as large as my e-ring, but I really would like my e-ring to be larger than earrings so I should save for that instead. Oh the headache continues!!

Has anyone ever had these feelings of impatience and feel like you haven''t been satisfied although you should be happy with what you have? And how long does one take to save for such a large diamond purchase? I''m sure halfway through saving I would dip into the fund to buy other small diamonds, gold or gemstones, and my goal will never be reached. It''s so much easier to make small purchases.. without realising that if I hadn''t, I would have had enough for my big diamond.

Thanks for letting me vent... and any thoughts would be appreciated.

 

[cindygenit]

LOL

you''re like me.

stop looking at other people''s ring on PS!!

You should always live within your means and unfortunately, you can''t afford the 1 ct you desire right now. Don''t worry though, you''ll get there eventually

 

[citrusacid]

Cindygenit, you''re right, looking at PS has really made me want more

I try to stop coming, but when my mind wanders... it''s off to PS for some eye candy.

 

[radiantquest]

I am the same way. I am supposed to be saving for a house and yet I am constantly thinking of my next diamond purchase. My ering is .75 tcw. and is all small diamonds because that is all we can afford. What I really want is 3.5ct asscher. I looked on bluenile and it is $44,000.00. I don''t think I will ever have that much spare money to spend on a diamond. Keep in mind that a lot of the people on here that have the jaw dropping diamonds aren''t just starting out and have spent a long time working for them.

 

[D&T]

mine is a little different. I can''t seem to get my setting right...lol so I''m constantly try to find other ways to set my diamond. I''m actually happy with my diamond so I don''t see me upgrading, but the darn setting is killing me! well I think it helps to take a little time off from PS but boy do the eyecandy just keeps reeling you in... so I totally know what you mean.

 

[Liane]

I know exactly how you feel.

I would bet that almost everyone goes through a period of diamond addiction when they first discover PS. I sure did. My e-ring isn''t even small at 1.25 carats, but I couldn''t help wanting bigger and sparklier all. the. time. Even after I bought myself the 2-carat Nerd Diamond, it persisted!

Eventually I got over it. Shifting my addiction to colored stones, which tend to be much more affordable, helped. So now I am perfectly content with my two diamonds, love them both to bits, don''t want or need another... and also have a dozen tiny gem boxes cluttering up my apartment with varicolored glitter.

 

[tlh]

every time you get the itch to look at "show me the ring" you should get neckid and get w/ your FI... then who knows.. upgrade may come sooner than you thought...

 

[luv2sparkle]

I love PS and haven''t had much luck staying away from it, but I do think that is the answer! As wonderful as it is, it can breed a bit of discontent in all of us.
Before, PS I rarely thought about diamonds although I loved jewelry. I have bought a ton more since coming here.

Just back slowly away from the computer, and try to get involved in other parts of your life. Maybe if you can do it, I can too! Okay, maybe not but it is worth
a shot.

You will get to the time when you can upgrade! Pricescope just makes us think it should be now. Other things may be more needful now than a larger diamond,
although Lord knows it''s so totally fun and enjoyable!

Okay, let''s back up together...one...two...three....

 

[4ever]

Yes, PS is FANTATIC and fun but also slightly evil. It sometimes make me feel inadiquate, there are so many ladies on here with such amazing collections of diamonds and jewlery and my "collection'' feels very very small in comparisim. I think about how great it would be to have a jewlery box full of all these pretty rings, necklaces, earings and bracelets and just pick out a different thing to wear eveyday. I think, "if ony I had a diamond pendant like she does, that''s all I need, then I''d be happy with my jewlery". Then BF gets me one for my birthday, which I havn''t even recived yet and I''m already thinking "It''s bezel diamond earings I really need, those would go great with anything and all my plain silver studds just look so blah now compared to my beautiful necklace.....". It''s an evil PS cycle and finding new things to pine over. No matter what you''ve got, there''s always somthing else to want.


It''s about this time I have to give myself a reality check. I am much younger than many women on here who have built up their beautiful collections over time, I have the rest of my life to collect beautiful things. I am a student still, these women have careers and have worked hard for a long time to get to the place in their life where they can afford to spend money on jewlery. I live in New Zealand, not New York, even my tiny collection is pretty good for where I am, where upgrades are un-hurd of and only the extremly rich or famous have rings over 1ct.

Just sustain you hunger for sparkles by thinking, there''s no rush, no time constaint on getting a massive ring, you have your whole life to get there and if it''s what you really want, in a few more years when you''re at that stage where you have a bit more expendable income, you can have a big new ring.....but don''t assume you''ll ever be satisfied at that.

 

[oddoneout]

Being on PS has made me want a lot of pretties but I know I''d have to win the lottery (maybe a few times) to be able to afford everything I like. I know realistically I''ll have to just enjoy looking at everyone''s lovely jewelry and dream.

 

[HollyS]

"I can''t stop thinking about and wanting more diamonds"



Isn''t that the point of Pricescope?

 

[exoticisabella]

LOL! Thank god I''m not the only one! I can''t tell you how many settings I''ve been through to find the "perfect" one. How does one finally decide with so many options out there!?

 

[Cehrabehra]

I absolutely understand the lure... but it is better to be wise than rich - if you don''t make wise choices now you may never be rich! A bit of delayed gratification will pay off in the end You will have your bling guilt free. There''s nothing wrong with starting small and working your way there. Sure some lucky girls get their big rock at a young age, but some of us wait decades to sport one. There''s no hurry Other things are definitely more important. Set some financial goals that require you to have a certain amount in retirement and own your own home or something... and maybe look forward to a nice 10th anniversary present or something.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 9/22/2009 8:58:38 PM
Author: exoticisabella
LOL! Thank god I''m not the only one! I can''t tell you how many settings I''ve been through to find the ''perfect'' one. How does one finally decide with so many options out there!?

I''m the kind of girl who wants one ring to last a life time and even I can''t fit that mold lol

 

[gemgirl]

Date: 9/22/2009 5:43:32 PM
Author: HollyS
''I can''t stop thinking about and wanting more diamonds''



Isn''t that the point of Pricescope?

Well honestly, I''m not so sure that''s the point of Pricescope but....... when I read "Diamond Addiction...help me..." I thought to myself, you are so NOT in the right place for that type of help! LOL!

I''m teasing you Holly

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[Amethyste]

oh boy............

Saving money is HARD!!!!!!! I saved about 80 to 100 a month for the last 20 years or so to buy myself the diamond of my dreams, and i finally bought it this year! I don''t think I''ll ever upgrade in my life. I cannot imagine wearing a ring that is larger than the one i currently own. I think this diamond will be my one and only for the rest of my life! and gosh darn it, it will!

I have to admit though, PS is a wonderful place to come and drool at lovelies and it is easy to get pulled into the "oh... i would so want this or that"... I have diamond envy from so many other posts that graced this site over time... It''s easyto do...

 

[Fly Girl]

Thank goodness they didn''t have PS 30 years ago. Heck, they barely had computers then. I got a half eternity ring for my 15th anniversary, and my upgrade diamond for our 25th anniversary. In between we were busy with graduate school, buying a house, having babies, rearing the children, and working on our careers. Busy, busy years, and I am so fortunate to be able to hang around on PS now and figure out how to put together pretty pieces of jewelry on a budget. It is a lot of fun for me. In other words, PS is entertainment.

There will always be someone out there with something bigger and better than you. It is true of cars, houses, careers, everything. Count your blessings. You have a beautiful diamond that will serve you well for many, many years. In fact, after I got my new 1.5 ct diamond ring, I realized that it was not nearly as wearable as a smaller stone. So I put a 0.62 ct stone into my original e-ring setting, and frankly, I wear it much, much more than the larger diamond ring.

So, what I would say is that you already have what I would consider to be the perfect size diamond for wearability. You just don''t realize it yet. Wear it, and enjoy it, and best wishes to you and yours.

 

[diamondringlover]

I have always loved jewerly even when I was a little girl, but my addiction has gotten worse since PS