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I am having a wedding in Jamaica. we are not exactly eloping.. we have given an open invitation.. basically saying that if you feel like coming to our wedding while on vacation- then by all means come.. does this mean that i cannot register or have a shower?? what is proper in this circumstance????

thanks!
 
Where are you getting married in Jamaica? That''s where I got married!

To answer your question, of course you can do all of those things! We did!
A destination wedding doesn''t make it any less special.
My cousin (who got married the day before us in Jamaica) had a bon voyage party before she left..which I thought was a neat idea. We will have our party in August. Plus, if you send out announcements and people want to send you a gift, a registry is great for that.
 
we are going through the process of picking the resort but i am pretty certain that we are going to have it at the RIU montego bay... tell me all about yours!!! how many people did you have? we wanted to elope but my mother almost had a heart attack! others started showing an interest in coming as well so we opened the invitation to whom ever would like to come .. can!!

fill me in on the details!!!!!
 
We got married at the Sandals resort in Negril. I wrote a hugggge trip advisor review, I'll copy and paste it here! It may have information in it that will help you (even though you're looking at another resort, the weather, planning, etc are basically the same.
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We looked at the Sandals in Montego Bay, but I got scared since that's where the airport is! Turns out it didn't matter because we had a mini airport behind our resort too (for little planes), so we saw plane or two a day anyway! hehe. Didn't bother me as much as I thought it would. In fact I kinda liked it!

I don't know too much about the RIU, but my DH's whole family stayed at the RIU in Negril and they said they LOVED it.
My mom and stepfather stayed at the Couples in Negril and loved it there, too! Oh, and my mother married my stepdad at the RIU in Playa del Carmen, Mexico and she said it was GREAT. One thing my mom pointed out (keeping in mind that we got married in two different countries) was that it seemed like you got a lot more for your money at the RIU. But we chose Sandals because my cousin was getting married there, and we really wanted an adults-only resort.
Here is my wedding thread, if you're interested in seeing some pictures. I have a lot more than that if you're interested. lol! Oh, and there are more pics on page 3....

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/i-got-hitched-in-jamaica.89028/

And here is my wedding review for the Sandals...


We chose Sandals Negril for our destination wedding because my cousin was also getting married there the same week. In fact, she got married the day before us! I found that when planning this whole thing it was so HARD to find a good review on how everything went, although I did talk to many brides from here that were willing to elaborate if you just shot them an email. So here is my attempt to detail everything as much as possible, and if I leave anything out or you have any questions please feel free to message me!

My cousin's wedding:
Simple weddingmoon package
No extras
Ocean View Gazebo
2 guests (myself and my husband).
11am


My wedding:
3 hour private cocktail reception
Extras were the island band, bridal spa package, videographer, photo package from a la' carte
Ocean View Gazebo
11 guests not including ourselves (all but my cousin and her husband stayed at different resorts)
4pm (the next day).


I don't want to review her wedding in case she wants to come on here and do it herself (she was the bride after all) but I do want to say that it was beautiful, quick, and from a guest's perspective, it seemed very well put together and elegant. She had an 11am wedding, and we were back in the water as soon as it was over! TOTALLY the way to go (unlike mine where it seemed like appointment after appointment, lol). Like I said, it was beautiful and magical. If you have any questions about the basic wedding, email me and I can ask her (if she does not do her own review).



Now on to my wedding. I will review each part:



Consultation:
Since we arrived on a monday afternoon and wednesday was our wedding, we had to have our consultation on tuesday morning (right before my cousins 11am wedding). This was extremely frustrating because not only had my mother and I both emailed Tina (the contact in Miami for Sandals) to let her know that we'd rather do it in the afternoon, but I had notified the front desk the moment I arrived, and even left a message for our planner at the wedding office. Yet, somehow, I was still forced to go the morning of my cousin’s wedding and forgo helping her get ready. The meeting was quick and to the point, but it still would have been nice to be there for her.


Bridal spa package
This package costs around $270 I believe, and I do feel it was worth it, although it was a little inconvenient at times. Included in the package is a hair and make-up trial, a french mani and pedi, and hair and make-up done the day of your wedding.
I had to get my hair and make-up trial done the day before my wedding (my cousin's wedding day) because that was the only time they could do it. It took longer than I expected, and I was jealous because while I was at the spa my cousin and our two men were all out sailing! My hair turned out great (the stylist is willing to try anything you want), but the make-up trial was not very pretty...at all! I was actually pretty scared after I left there.


The next morning (the day of the wedding) I had an appointment at 10:30 am to get my mani and pedi done. This was disappointing because my wedding was at 4pm and yet it seemed like the whole day I was getting ready while everyone else had fun (they went on jet-skis this time...lol). However, the mani and pedi came out beautifully and I was able to have a couple of mimosa's while waiting! I had about an hour to kill after that, so we went to each lunch at the bayside restaurant since most of our family had arrived by that point. Then it was back to the spa for my hair and make-up! I must say, my hair was beautiful, and the make-up scare I had the day before was in the past because she took her time and made it right. Everyone is friendly at the spa, and they all remember you by name after you’ve been. In fact, everyone at the resort does! I can't even tell you how many times I ran into an employee who called out to me by my first name. It made me feel really special. Yes, the spa does accept tips (so does everyone else, actually, even though Sandals has a no-tipping policy. We did tip every once in a while (on the sly). The lady at the counter at the spa will ask you if you want a tip added to your bill. I always just told her to add 20%.



Wedding location:
We chose the Ocean View gazebo as it was clearly the best one. As a matter of fact, most weddings we saw posted on the board in the main lobby took place at that gazebo. The others were in weird locations. The garden one was beautiful but it had a main road right behind it. The one with the iron wire-looking roof was right next (and I mean RIGHT NEXT TO) the scuba shop, and looked kind of dirty. I really recommend the ocean view gazebo. It is right on the beach, and has a smaller gazebo right behind it where you eat your cake, sign your certificate, etc. Yes, it is next to the volleyball net, but I found that during both my wedding and my cousin’s wedding that people were VERY respectful and gave us our space. No drunken idiots screaming in the background or anything. Also, although the net is close, it is not THAT bad. You can’t see it in any of our photos and to tell you the truth I barely even acknowledged its presence. I mean, it’s a net! You can see through it!


Flowers:
My mother had a silk bouquet made for me at home, so that is what I used. However, a free bouquet does come with the wedding. You get a choice of either daisies or a cascading carnation bouquet. My cousin chose the daisies (they were yellow and white) and they were very beautiful. BONUS, her dress for my wedding was yellow she used the bouquet again. You can’t take it home though. Although I had my own bouquet I asked our planner to bring up the carnation one just so I could see (it was free after all). It was really beautiful, and I was really impressed that when I asked her opinion, she told me to keep my own. Another thing I can say is that the staff was not pushy at all and did not try to get me to purchase any extras. Their upgraded bouquets are really expensive. I recommend getting one made with silk flowers at home if you do not like carnations or daisies. We did get my husband a carnation bout though, but no other flowers. My opinion is that you really don’t need them! The gazebo is decorated with flowing tulle and the scene is picturesque enough.


Photos and video:
Man…we were SO HOT and it TOTALLY shows in the 8x10s. They dabbed my husband off, but left me alone so they didn’t smudge my make-up. I REALLY recommend having someone keep a powder poof on hand to dab you randomly during picture taking. Looking back I wish I would have! However, our photographer Dainya was GREAT and we totally loved her. The pictures DID come out beautiful, except for a couple sweaty ones and some had that obvious hot “glow” to them. We did NOT get a package since the lowest one was $1300. Instead we got eighteen 5 x 7s and six 8 x 10s. Then we got a picture for free, so that was 25 total. I was worried about not getting the negatives. DON’T BE. When you are choosing your photos at the shop the next day they make a deal with you. We got 44 pictures total on a CD for $290 (including all of the ones we had printed). So we own all the good pics now, and it ended up being WAY cheaper than the lowest package! Our videographer was Vincant and he did a great job as well. If you do this, don’t forget you’re wearing the mic! Haha. One of us is telling each other how sweaty we look like three times in the video. We are really glad to have it though, it came out wonderful. It does sound a little windy, but you can hear us and the minister clearly. And there was a bonus jet-skiier in the background. Haha.



3-Hour cocktail and dinner reception:

After the ceremony, the cocktail hour was held in the game room. We had champagne, hot and cold hor’ however you spell it, cake, and our island band played. The hor’ dourves were okay. I thought they were yummy, but not 5 star quality if that is what you are hoping for. I believe they had some type of turkey and cheese on a cracker, some type of crab cracker, veggies, fruits, etc. I really can’t remember now! We had a sweetheart table with our cake on it, and the rest of our guests had their own big table. It was air-conditioned and SO NICE. We cut the cake and were whisked off to take pictures. So, we really didn’t get to see the island band for that long although our family LOVED them. They purchased two CDs! Luckily the island band roams the resort a lot so we did get to hear them play again and again. If you see them, ask them to play “big bam boo”.




The dinner:

We had a table set up right on the beach close to our gazebo. It was GORGEOUS. They set it up with tiki torches and tropical plants. They used white linens and big blue glasses. The contrast was great. They also set up a bar close by. We had about 3 or 4 people on hand to deliver our food and get us drinks. I’ll tell you…watching that sunset was AMAZING. You couldn’t ask for anything more! In the beginning of planning we were going to wing it and try to get a restaurant to seat all of us…but looking back on it I am SO glad we had the dinner. I highly recommend it, especially if a lot of guests are staying at resorts other than beaches or sandals. This is because it costs those guests $130 to get into sandals in the first place. If you have the dinner, your guests’ day pass rate will drop to $75 and then they will have to pay $75 for the dinner….so that’s $150 bucks per person (everyone pays $75 for the dinner, even you!). Not bad, considering the 1-hour cocktail reception would have ended up being $155 per person with the day passes. Each person saved $5 bucks and we got a WAY better reception. Can’t go wrong! Or course, if all of your guests are staying at the beaches or sandals, they get in for free so you won’t need this deal (althought they will still have to pay the $75 per person for the dinner). Sorry if that is confusing.




Dinner food:

Was GREAT!!! Best food we had while there. I can’t remember everything (and it was only a week ago...geeze), but we chose the beef tenderloin. SO good. Our desert was the coconut and chocolate parfait with rum flame fruit. AMAZING! They decorated the plate with a drawn flower. Everyone commented on how good the food was. After dinner we hung out at the piano bar for a couple of drinks and then everyone made their way back to their own resort. It was a beautiful, magical night.




A couple of cons

After my cousin’s wedding she returned to her room to see that it was decorated with flower petals and had towel art on the bed. We did NOT get this service. Actually a couple of other times she’d go to her room and find chocolate covered strawberries or a bottle of champagne…etc. Both of us had basic rooms…neither of us had a concierge or butler service, but for some reason she got these things and I didn’t. I don’t know if she just lucked out, if our maid was lazy, or if it was due to our room level (she was upgraded to one room level higher than ours, but still just a basic room with a garden view). At the very least, after all the money we spent on the wedding, I expected these little extras for us, but we didn’t get them. We didn’t complain but I wish I would have. I was afraid they’d laugh at me and my seaside premium room. Lol. But if these things are important to you (which it turns out I am more disappointed than I thought) I recommend bringing it up with your coordinator beforehand.




One more thing….CLOTHING OPINION AND HOT HOT HEAT

Keep in mind that no matter what you wear, whether it is a thin chiffon destination wedding dress (like my cousin had) or a dress like mine that was satin with crinoline and layers of lace (not a ball gown, but by no means thin), YOU WILL BE HOT. Don’t fool yourself. Wear what you want. I spent WAY too much time before we left for Jamaica fretting about my dress and feeling down because I thought it was too heavy for a beach wedding-- just to realize that you are hot no matter what. My cousin was dying to get out of her thin little dress during her wedding. After the ceremony we jumped in the ocean (in our wedding attire…) and then we got changed for dinner. Before we jumped in the ocean my husband had removed his jacket and switched into some sandals and he felt fine, so your man can stand to wear a suit for an hour if you can stand to be in the dress.

I hope that was at least a little helpful....if you have any other questions I can try my best to answer them!
 
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