Calling Maisie

[fabienne]

Hi Maisie!

I was just on Brian Gavin's blog and read about your five stone ring and the symbolism of it all. I posted in one of your threads that I was looking for a way to represent my children and that I also needed pink saphhires. As I was reading the entry over at BGD, I learned the significance of the pink sapphire and fell in love with your ring so much more.

I know some people may think this is weird that I am asking you this but perhaps you can help me. I lost twin girls in my 2nd trimester about 10 years ago. (Now that I think about it, it will be 10 years in September). For the past 9 years or so, I have tried to come up with so many ways to honor them. I think for the first year or more, I wore dog tags with their names on them. I had someone design a tattoo for me but I chickened out once I got to the tattoo parlor. I also realized that as much as I admire tattoos on others, I don't think they're for me. I've bought teddy bears and all types of tokens but nothing has seemed right yet. I finally decided on jewelry a few YEARS ago. .62

I hated sapphires until seeing the different types of sapphires people had here on PS. The closest I have come to seeing something that may honor their memory properly is your ring (and I'd be able to incorporate my other children as well). I also was touched and inspired by Whitby's pendant that she had made recently but I am not sure on how to incorporate the sapphires, or my other children ( to minimize the # of jewelry projects). I also had an idea of possibly having a three stone pendant made but having pink sapphires put on the bail (I think thats what its called). Or any other design with pink sapphires on the bail. (I've also considered white and yellow sapphires, and like papadaraschas (sp?) but probably can't afford them).


I know I've rambled on for quite a bit, but I just wanted you to let you know what types of ideas I've had lately. I'm not exactly sure of your entire story but did it take you along time to come up with the idea for your ring, especially the pink sapphire?

If you have any thoughts on how I can honor my twins, I'd love to hear them. I'm not that creative so this has been somewhat difficult for me.

I just feel like I need something tangible to remind me that they existed and to keep them closer to my heart even though I think of them often.

If any PSers that are reading this have ideas, I would love to hear those as well. As I typed this, I decided that September would be a nice time to make this a reality if at all possible.

Sorry for ramblling but thanks so much for reading. I appreciate it.

P.S. I got kind of sad as I was writing this and then I realized after I posted that I forgot to tell you that I am sorry for your loss. I'm not sure how long ago it was but I wish you didn't have a hidden pink sapphire and that I wasn't trying to incorporate some into a jewelry design.

 

[Maisie]

Hi Fabienne

Your post really touched me. I think you can only truly understand the pain of stillborn loss if you have been through it. I think about Madison every day. I sometimes sit and imagine what it would be like if she was here and none of that terrible stuff had happened. I have had lots of awful experiences in my life but nothing comes close to losing a child.

I also needed something, not to remind me about her - I think about her a lot - but more as a physical thing that I can have and pass down to one of my other daughters. She was 12 at the time and it was so hard for her to deal with. She was at the scan with me when I was told that the baby had died.

The ring was the idea piece of jewellery. I don''t wear a lot of jewellery so a ring was the perfect choice. I can look at it and be reminded about the healthy happy children I do have, sometimes its too easy to focus on the loss. I hope that makes sense.

There are lots of ways you can make a piece of jewellery to remember your little ones. If budget is an issue I am sure we can think of something beautiful that fits within what you would like to spend. I had to save up for my ring, so I know what its like to work within a budget

How many children do you have? What type of jewellery do you wear on a regular basis? Are you a blingy girl or more understated?

 

[Steel]

Ladies, I hope you don''t mind me stepping in here.

I never fail to be amazed by the true strength and solidarity of women. A woman''s creation of life is a blessing but wholly outside of our control. But the support and love willingly offered to each other in difficult times is a testament to the true beauty and strength of a woman.

I''m sorry for your losses.

 

[fabienne]

Thank you Steel. Your sentiments are definitely appreciated.

Maisie...I tend to be a rambler but because I''m at lunch, I may be able to keep this short. I have two children now and am expecting my third one on June 1st although who knows if I''ll go early. Thinking positively, I would need three stones. My e-ring is a three stone so I''m not sure how I feel about wearing another three stone on the other hand. I started out as wearing no jewelry to being understated and I feel myself craving more and more bling. I''m trying to figure out how to strike a classy balance but I am still working on that.

On a regular basis, I wear my e-ring and my wedding band, and Lesly is currently working on an anniversary band for me. I also wear the same earrings pretty much every day. I used to have a necklace that my husband gave me but I put it in my daughter''s music box so that I can pass it down to her. So for now, it''s just rings and earrings.

I will finsih my post later. Thank you so much for replying to my post.

 

[Maisie]

Date: 5/7/2009 11:39:29 AM
Author: Steel
Ladies, I hope you don''t mind me stepping in here.

I never fail to be amazed by the true strength and solidarity of women. A woman''s creation of life is a blessing but wholly outside of our control. But the support and love willingly offered to each other in difficult times is a testament to the true beauty and strength of a woman.

I''m sorry for your losses.

Thank you for your kind words Steel.

 

[Maisie]

Date: 5/7/2009 12:49:05 PM
Author: fabienne
Thank you Steel. Your sentiments are definitely appreciated.

Maisie...I tend to be a rambler but because I''m at lunch, I may be able to keep this short. I have two children now and am expecting my third one on June 1st although who knows if I''ll go early. Thinking positively, I would need three stones. My e-ring is a three stone so I''m not sure how I feel about wearing another three stone on the other hand. I started out as wearing no jewelry to being understated and I feel myself craving more and more bling. I''m trying to figure out how to strike a classy balance but I am still working on that.

On a regular basis, I wear my e-ring and my wedding band, and Lesly is currently working on an anniversary band for me. I also wear the same earrings pretty much every day. I used to have a necklace that my husband gave me but I put it in my daughter''s music box so that I can pass it down to her. So for now, it''s just rings and earrings.

I will finsih my post later. Thank you so much for replying to my post.

Do you think a pendant would be suitable? I think you have run out of places to wear something other than your wrist

Did you see the beautiful pendant that Brian Gavin worked with Gypsy to create? I''m not saying that you should get something like that but I definitely think you could design something within your budget to wear in memory of your babies. I will have a look round to see if I can find something to inspire you.

 

[Maisie]

Maybe something like this but with two sapphires in it...

 

[Maisie]

I love this one!

 

[Maisie]

How about a locket with some sapphires and diamonds set into it?

 

[fabienne]

Thank you so much Maisie! I like the first two but can''t decide which one I like better. Lockets have never done anything for me; maybe because I never had a picture small enough to put in there. I''m going to look around at some lockets just to see if I come up with anything else.

I just remembered that I have my old princess center stone form my e-ring that I was thinking of making into a pendant. I also planned on upgrading my side stones at some point but what will I do with these "extra stones" if I end up creating a pendant......aye....lots of thinking to do...but anyways...I''m going to check out some lockets just to see what other designs are out there.

Thanks Maisie!

 

[Maisie]

You are welcome!

 

[luv2sparkle]

Hi Maisie-I love your ring-I have 5 children too- and my last pregnancy was twins- and I lost one early on. Not in any way the loss you experienced but I
think of that baby often and wonder what if. What a great way to remember your daughter.

 

[AdiS]

Date: 5/7/2009 11:39:29 AM
Author: Steel
Ladies, I hope you don''t mind me stepping in here.

I never fail to be amazed by the true strength and solidarity of women. A woman''s creation of life is a blessing but wholly outside of our control. But the support and love willingly offered to each other in difficult times is a testament to the true beauty and strength of a woman.

I''m sorry for your losses.

Ditto Steel, every word!
fabienne, how about something like this-maybe with three blue sapphires and two pink between them?