Buddymoon?

[mary poppins]

So apparently it's becoming more common for newlyweds to go on a buddymoon - a honeymoon with friends, instead of a honeymoon alone together. Have you heard of this? Know anyone who's done it? Would you want to go on a buddymoon instead of a honeymoon?

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/08/fashion/weddings/when-honeymoons-become-buddymoons.html

http://www.nbcnews.com/travel/itineraries/new-twist-old-tradition-honeymoons-friends-1C6983304

 

[princesss]

Hell to the no.

If I'm going to take a fun trip to celebrate the start to my marriage, it will only be with the person I married. I love my friends, but sometimes you've just got to escape alone with your partner.

 

[zoebartlett]

I've never heard of buddymoons. I don't think I'd want to do it. We've never traveled with friends before and I'd hate for anything to go wrong on the trip and affect our friendship. This would be true for any vacation, and I especially wouldn't want anything to go wrong on my honeymoon. (Actually, it did, and I'd like a do over, please.)

 

[Haven]

Hell to the no.

If I'm going to take a fun trip to celebrate the start to my marriage, it will only be with the person I married. I love my friends, but sometimes you've just got to escape alone with your partner.

My thoughts exactly!

I love our friends, but I don't love most of them enough to travel with them. I LOVE traveling with DH and DH only. Never going to give that up!

 

[zoebartlett]

Hell to the no.

If I'm going to take a fun trip to celebrate the start to my marriage, it will only be with the person I married. I love my friends, but sometimes you've just got to escape alone with your partner.

My thoughts exactly!

I love our friends, but I don't love most of them enough to travel with them. I LOVE traveling with DH and DH only. Never going to give that up!

Would you travel with family? Obviously not on your honeymoon but just in general? We've traveled with my family before and we had a blast. I wouldn't do it every year but once every few years sounds good.

 

[Haven]

Zoe--I would take smaller trips with family, maybe a week or so, and only in the states or on a beachy or cabin type vacation. The only family members with whom I'd travel on a bigger trip out of the country would be my sisters and my mom. Life is way too short, and there are far too many places I want to visit, to spend ANY of the precious time I'll have in a faraway destination with difficult people.

ETA: We traveled through Ireland with my sissy and her husband and it was awesome. We took DH's dad and his GF to Vegas, and that was fun because it was short and nearby. We've been to Florida and NYC and Cali with both of our families.

 

[Haven]

Okay, I just read the articles. Typical--Post first, then read the links.

I completely understand how group honeymoons are a natural outgrowth from the trend of having a big, destination wedding. I also understand how it can be nice to have extra time with friends and family who come from far and away to celebrate with you.

HOWEVER, there is real, serious magic that happens every time DH and I travel together, and alone, and couples who don't give themselves the experience miss out on that magic. Every time we depart for a trip I think that we can get no closer, that we know nearly everything there is to know about each other, etc. etc. But then we go away together, just the two of us, and it happens again--we change. We grow, we learn new things or reach some new understanding about our lives and where we want to go or what we want to do moving forward. I think, "Okay, no two people could ever be closer." And then we go away together again, and POOF! We reach some new level of connectedness that I never thought possible.

OY, does that sound cheesy. I don't know how better to explain it. If you've never been away together and alone for a week or more, I highly recommend it. There's magic in it, and the magic disappears when you travel with others. We LOVED traveling through Ireland with my sister and her husband, and it was an AMAZING trip. But it wasn't transformative for us, not in the terms that I described above. It was fun and magical in its own way, but we didn't come home changed in the same ways that we do when we go it alone.

ETA: My other favorite thing about traveling with just DH is that it slows down time in a way that I just can't replicate when we're not traveling. Life moves so quickly, and we do our best to infuse it with moments and experiences that will be memorable, that won't just flash by. But nothing works as well as going away together, it's like life, heightened. I can remember and cherish more about a couple weeks in one summer than I do about several months spent at home in a year. I feel like it's one way to stretch life out a bit more, if that makes sense.

 

[justginger]

Okay, I just read the articles. Typical--Post first, then read the links.

I completely understand how group honeymoons are a natural outgrowth from the trend of having a big, destination wedding. I also understand how it can be nice to have extra time with friends and family who come from far and away to celebrate with you.

HOWEVER, there is real, serious magic that happens every time DH and I travel together, and alone, and couples who don't give themselves the experience miss out on that magic. Every time we depart for a trip I think that we can get no closer, that we know nearly everything there is to know about each other, etc. etc. But then we go away together, just the two of us, and it happens again--we change. We grow, we learn new things or reach some new understanding about our lives and where we want to go or what we want to do moving forward. I think, "Okay, no two people could ever be closer." And then we go away together again, and POOF! We reach some new level of connectedness that I never thought possible.

OY, does that sound cheesy. I don't know how better to explain it. If you've never been away together and alone for a week or more, I highly recommend it. There's magic in it, and the magic disappears when you travel with others. We LOVED traveling through Ireland with my sister and her husband, and it was an AMAZING trip. But it wasn't transformative for us, not in the terms that I described above. It was fun and magical in its own way, but we didn't come home changed in the same ways that we do when we go it alone.

ETA: My other favorite thing about traveling with just DH is that it slows down time in a way that I just can't replicate when we're not traveling. Life moves so quickly, and we do our best to infuse it with moments and experiences that will be memorable, that won't just flash by. But nothing works as well as going away together, it's like life, heightened. I can remember and cherish more about a couple weeks in one summer than I do about several months spent at home in a year. I feel like it's one way to stretch life out a bit more, if that makes sense.

What she said, exactly.

 

[madelise]

Hell to the no.

If I'm going to take a fun trip to celebrate the start to my marriage, it will only be with the person I married. I love my friends, but sometimes you've just got to escape alone with your partner.

My thoughts exactly!

I love our friends, but I don't love most of them enough to travel with them. I LOVE traveling with DH and DH only. Never going to give that up!

Def not for the honeymoon! Jeez, gimme some time to get busy with the honey! Isn't the idea of a honeymoon to allow the couple some intimate time alone, after all the stress with family and friends while planning a wedding? AND the idea to get away, where you don't know anyone, so you can be.. um.. as.. loud.. as you want?

Nix. Vacation with the buds at ANY other time other than the honeymoon

 

[athenaworth]

I went on a Buddymoon with our best friends a few years ago. Everyone thought we were crazy, but we all had such an amazing time together (we'd traveled together before so we knew we had good travel chemistry). They had several nights/days to do their romantic one-on-one stuff, but the rest of it was just fun, fun, fun. I do not believe for a moment that they regret us joining them.

 

[iheartscience]

Well I didn't want my wedding to end, so I can totally see where they're coming from! That said, I loved my honeymoon-it was super relaxing and we didn't have to be "on" around people after being on for a week.

 

[Missy]

Okay, I just read the articles. Typical--Post first, then read the links.

I completely understand how group honeymoons are a natural outgrowth from the trend of having a big, destination wedding. I also understand how it can be nice to have extra time with friends and family who come from far and away to celebrate with you.

HOWEVER, there is real, serious magic that happens every time DH and I travel together, and alone, and couples who don't give themselves the experience miss out on that magic. Every time we depart for a trip I think that we can get no closer, that we know nearly everything there is to know about each other, etc. etc. But then we go away together, just the two of us, and it happens again--we change. We grow, we learn new things or reach some new understanding about our lives and where we want to go or what we want to do moving forward. I think, "Okay, no two people could ever be closer." And then we go away together again, and POOF! We reach some new level of connectedness that I never thought possible.

OY, does that sound cheesy. I don't know how better to explain it. If you've never been away together and alone for a week or more, I highly recommend it. There's magic in it, and the magic disappears when you travel with others. We LOVED traveling through Ireland with my sister and her husband, and it was an AMAZING trip. But it wasn't transformative for us, not in the terms that I described above. It was fun and magical in its own way, but we didn't come home changed in the same ways that we do when we go it alone.

ETA: My other favorite thing about traveling with just DH is that it slows down time in a way that I just can't replicate when we're not traveling. Life moves so quickly, and we do our best to infuse it with moments and experiences that will be memorable, that won't just flash by. But nothing works as well as going away together, it's like life, heightened. I can remember and cherish more about a couple weeks in one summer than I do about several months spent at home in a year. I feel like it's one way to stretch life out a bit more, if that makes sense.

What she said, exactly.

I love the way you describe this Haven. This is exactly what happens. I always love traveling alone with my dh because it is way more intimate than traveling with others and it does allow us to grow as a couple (even after all these years). Our honeymoon was a full 3 weeks and it was just the 2 of us and I wouldn't change anything about it. I could see traveling with others on less special trips but I wouldn't want to for a honeymoon. But of course that's a personal decision. Not making any right or wrong judgments here. Just sharing what I did/would do.