rockzilla
Brilliant_Rock
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"ETA: Because the wedding hasn't happened yet, I would give her a call and just say that you noticed she wore the dress sooner and was wondering if she wouldn't mind stopping by your house to make sure the dress is still up to par (I bet inspecting it yourself will make you feel a lot better). "
I would absolutely NOT do this. It would be treating her like a little child (this woman is a HS TEACHER, not an irresponsible teenager) and saying you don't trust her to take care of the dress. What's next, inspecting her toenails to make sure they look good in the strappy sandals you chose? Making sure she keeps her facial appointments so as to not break out on your big day?
This is her dress, if something *god forbid* had happened to it, she would have to get it cleaned/repaired/replaced. But, it didn't - and honestly an accident can happen at any time. What if someone had spilled something on it while you are getting ready before the ceremony? Should she stand outside the church in her undies, putting on the dress at the last possible minute to make 100% sure it is pristine for her walk down the aisle?
PS I have been a bridesmaid and actually considered wearing the dress in advance. In the end, I chose not to precisely because I didn't want to risk the hassle in case something did happen to it. However, the bride herself encouraged me to wear it, because she wanted me to get as much use out of it as possible. I did end up 'repurposing' it for another event after the fact.
I would absolutely NOT do this. It would be treating her like a little child (this woman is a HS TEACHER, not an irresponsible teenager) and saying you don't trust her to take care of the dress. What's next, inspecting her toenails to make sure they look good in the strappy sandals you chose? Making sure she keeps her facial appointments so as to not break out on your big day?
This is her dress, if something *god forbid* had happened to it, she would have to get it cleaned/repaired/replaced. But, it didn't - and honestly an accident can happen at any time. What if someone had spilled something on it while you are getting ready before the ceremony? Should she stand outside the church in her undies, putting on the dress at the last possible minute to make 100% sure it is pristine for her walk down the aisle?
PS I have been a bridesmaid and actually considered wearing the dress in advance. In the end, I chose not to precisely because I didn't want to risk the hassle in case something did happen to it. However, the bride herself encouraged me to wear it, because she wanted me to get as much use out of it as possible. I did end up 'repurposing' it for another event after the fact.