Bride dies in "Trash the Dress" photo shoot

[Enerchi]

on the internet today - be very careful ladies, if this is part of your plans post wedding. Sad.

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/blogs/dailybrew/quebec-woman-drowns-trash-dress-photo-session-gone-165255392.html

 

[CharmedOne]

Re: Bride dies in "Trash the Dress" photo shoot

That is just horrible

 

[madelise]

 

[Snicklefritz]

That is very upsetting

 

[distracts]

It's sad, but, uh, don't people KNOW that lots of fabric soaked in water gets very, very heavy? It seems like this kind of death is extremely preventable just by doing some thinking. Sounds like a candidate for a Darwin Award.

 

[Haven]

Oh, what a terrible loss.

 

[Gypsy]

You know, IMO, TTD is a gimmick created by the wedding trade to get you to a) spend more on photography and b) cut down on the number of second hand dresses so that they sell more new dresses. I enjoy seeing the pics sometimes, but I didn't see the value in it for myself, and didn't do it.

I'm not surprised in the least this happened, saddened yes, surprised no. I've seen a lot of wet wedding dress shots and I keep thinking "that's got to heavy and unweildy"... they are not meant for swimming. A pool is one thing. Anything with a current is completely risky. Which, IMO, is just common sense.

 

[Haven]

You make some good points, Gypsy. I wouldn't do a TTD shoot because, well, I don't want to trash my dress!

My husband reacted the same way to this story that you did--saddened at the unnecessary loss of life, but surprised that anyone would willingly go into a body of water wearing a huge dress like that. He then told me that if I ever wanted to go into Lake Michigan wearing my dress he would physically stop me from doing it. Way too dangerous.

Still, a terrible loss.

 

[Enerchi]

I am in agreement with Gypsy & Haven - I wouldn't want to 'waste' the dress (even tho you are not likely to EVER wear it again) or even get it dirty. Maybe it's weird but I'd prefer to save mine, all nice and clean, not that I ever imagine my DD or future DIL's would ever want it, but because I made it and embroidered Alencon lace and beads on the bodice and sleeves, etc. I just don't get the TTD concept. It's just not my thing.

How tragic for this couple and their families. What could have been... but they will never know, for the sake of 'wedding art'?? Just so sad.

 

[Enerchi]

It's sad, but, uh, don't people KNOW that lots of fabric soaked in water gets very, very heavy? It seems like this kind of death is extremely preventable just by doing some thinking. Sounds like a candidate for a Darwin Award.

simple physics, but it was the desire of the bride to get out into deeper water to float...

 

[sonnyjane]

How tragic for this couple and their families. What could have been... but they will never know, for the sake of 'wedding art'?? Just so sad.

I think that's what makes this story so sad... the fact that the family will have to break this news to people who will ultimately be curious as to how she died and shocked that it happened so soon after the wedding, when the truth is, it happened doing something very much unnecessary.

 

[Maria D]

I have been obsessed with this story since reading about it a couple of days ago and have been told by my family to stop talking about it! I live in an area where it's a given that there will be drowning deaths every summer. I am terrified of deep open water; actually even in pools I am very uncomfortable in depths over my head. Whenever there's report of a drowning I find myself obsessing about what a horrible way to die because virtually every time it could have been prevented. The kid shouldn't have jumped off that bridge, or the elderly couple should have had life jackets on themselves and their new puppy before their puppy jumped in the water and they drowned trying to save it, or the bride should have realized that big dress in strong current with no swimming sign = incredible danger. I find myself thinking (obsessing!) about what on earth THEY must have been thinking when they realized that they've made this horrible stupid mistake.

The details of this story are a bit confusing to me. The reports say that she was standing in a bit of water and slipped and fell when her dress soaked up water and the weight of it made her lose her footing. But then the reports go on to say that she wanted a photograph of her swimming in deeper water -- in a place marked no swimming with strong currents. It starts out sounding like a freak accident and ends up sounding like a complete lack of common sense.

This story is being reported all over because it's "Trash the Dress" with a beautiful young bride, but it's really just another drowning death that should not have happened.

 

[yssie]

I am in agreement with Gypsy & Haven - I wouldn't want to 'waste' the dress (even tho you are not likely to EVER wear it again) or even get it dirty. Maybe it's weird but I'd prefer to save mine, all nice and clean, not that I ever imagine my DD or future DIL's would ever want it, but because I made it and embroidered Alencon lace and beads on the bodice and sleeves, etc. I just don't get the TTD concept. It's just not my thing.

How tragic for this couple and their families. What could have been... but they will never know, for the sake of 'wedding art'?? Just so sad.

You might be surprised Enerchi - my MIL offered me her dress and I was thrilled


The tragedy - agreed, a little common sense would go a long way. Heck, some of the "TTD" pics here on PS make me wonder WTH they are thinking!

 

[Enerchi]

not that I ever imagine my DD or future DIL's would ever want it

You might be surprised Enerchi - my MIL offered me her dress and I was thrilled

WOW!! That would be too cool! but it just SCREAMS 1985 - puffy shoulders, dropped waist, long sleeves... but I guess you're right - you never know! My own daughter loves Say Yes to the Dress and refuses to allow me to make hers for her because it wouldn't look good!

(Just to clarify, I was not quite 'seamstress' level, but I made almost all my own clothes from about 13 to 30, plus for a few other people and quilted for years---till my sewing machine just DIED, so I do know how to sew and sew well...!)

 

[Maria D]

I would love to see a picture of your dress Enerchi; have you ever posted it here?

 

[Enerchi]

I would love to see a picture of your dress Enerchi; have you ever posted it here?

oh lordy! I have no idea how to scan a print picture onto the computer! and they sure weren't digital way back then!! If I can get my DH to do that for me, I'll be sure to post one

 

[Mayk]

I can't bring myself to open the link... Just reading the posts...

We did TTD by getting a little sand at the bottom of the dress while we walked barefoot down the beach.... Then I had it cleaned...

 

[Enerchi]

but I remembered what Kenny taught me about how to do a screen capture... posting from DH's computer where he has ALL SORTS of photos!!! woo hoo --- here's a blast from the past! Wow - no where near as glamourous as the beautiful dresses on today's brides and it is safely boxed up (somewhere!) in the house...

 

[yssie]

not that I ever imagine my DD or future DIL's would ever want it

You might be surprised Enerchi - my MIL offered me her dress and I was thrilled

WOW!! That would be too cool! but it just SCREAMS 1985 - puffy shoulders, dropped waist, long sleeves... but I guess you're right - you never know! My own daughter loves Say Yes to the Dress and refuses to allow me to make hers for her because it wouldn't look good!

(Just to clarify, I was not quite 'seamstress' level, but I made almost all my own clothes from about 13 to 30, plus for a few other people and quilted for years---till my sewing machine just DIED, so I do know how to sew and sew well...!)

You were lovely in your dress!!! But you left off your face

MIL's isn't exactly the strapless mermaid that's the current bridal uniform either - but I thought the long lace sleeves were very fetching on me

That's awesome that you sew well - that's such a *useful* skill! I tried to take a group class once but everyone else had taken beading/sewing/quilting before and I was told I wasn't 'a good fit' I would LOVE to have you in my family, you can bet I'd request a lesson or ten (and a dress if I thought I could get away with it, tailored clothing is such a luxury )


ETA: GAH. All my smileys are showing up as HTML and it keeps deleting my post and I have to keep retyping it. WTH!?

 

[Enerchi]

Yssie, I will sew for you if I can wear all your jewels!!! Deal??

 

[yssie]

Yssie, I will sew for you if I can wear all your jewels!!! Deal??

Oh, DEAL

 

[Maria D]

It's beautiful! As an '89 bride I can totally appreciate the style .

I love to sew and have done some advanced stuff but would never attempt a wedding dress.

 

[Haven]

Enerchi--Beautiful!
I could see someone wearing your dress in the future, definitely don't rule that out.

I would have worn my mother's dress if it had fit me. With a few alterations, it would have looked beautiful. Alas, she was much smaller than I when she married.

 

[Mayk]

The dress is wonderful! I LOVE the Calla Lilies.

 

[Enerchi]

holy cow, I did NOT expect that --- thanks so much guys!!! Very sweet of you (Haven, Mayk and MariaD) to say that - I'm so pleased that there is still some appeal to it! I love calla lilies and that was one of #1DS's first phrases!

Yssie - I'm in!! You can start shipping me your jewels at any time

 

[CJ2008]

Seriously, that's one of the saddest things I've heard. Whether it was common sense or not, that is really, really sad...

 

[MissStepcut]

It amazes me how people don't have a healthy respect for bodies of water. My family lives near a dangerous beach (lots of sneaker waves) and I see people letting toddlers wander off several feet away from them.

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

It amazes me how people don't have a healthy respect for bodies of water. My family lives near a dangerous beach (lots of sneaker waves) and I see people letting toddlers wander off several feet away from them.

Agreed. I live on Long Island and grew up at the beaches, it will never cease to amaze me when people who can't even swim try to go into the freakin ocean, let alone a river wearing a huge dress where they can't even touch the bottom. Pictures are not worth it!

 

[distracts]

but I remembered what Kenny taught me about how to do a screen capture... posting from DH's computer where he has ALL SORTS of photos!!! woo hoo --- here's a blast from the past! Wow - no where near as glamourous as the beautiful dresses on today's brides and it is safely boxed up (somewhere!) in the house...

Wow, Enerchi, you MADE that? It is beautiful! (And the only dated looking part is the puffy sleeves - if you ignore those it looks like many bridal dresses I've seen in stores! If one of your daughters wanted it, you could alter the sleeves to be little cap sleeves or something, and have something totally in style.)

 

[AGBF]

I had never heard of, "trashing the dress" until I read this story on the Internet today. It seems like a totally weird new "thing" to do and, as someone pointed out, undoubtedly something started by the bridal industry. But how can women have been stupid enough to go along with it? The waste of it could just make me weep, let alone the possible loss of life!!!

Deb/AGBF