Wedding Biggest wedding related pet peeves

[Shoopy]

What are yours?

So far mine has been people that want to buy gifts off of the registry. I spent over 5 hours a few weeks ago with my best friend trying to scan stuff into her registry and finding stuff online. One of her friends just called me and asks if there was anything else she could get them because she didn''t like the stuff on her registry.

Um, excuse me you didn''t like her stuff?

Aye weddings

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Hmm....for me..the DJ. Annoyed trying to pick one still.

Also, the difficulty in time-management of going back and forth between where the wedding is and where I go to school.

 

[upgrading mama]

About a month ago I got a gorgeous invitation to a wedding for a HS friend of my hubby''s who I have met a few times.

when I opened it, 3 or 4 registry slips fell out. Bad, Bad, Bad.

 

[October2008bride]

I''d say my biggest (or current) pet peeve is people who want NOTHING to do with the wedding for an entire year and pop up 2 weeks before to make suggestions and wonder why we don''t take them.

Grrr....

 

[Sparkalicious]

NO SHOWS!

It hasn''t happened to me yet since our wedding is next year but ...

... just hearing about it and knowing that people either don''t RSVP at all or do RSVP and then don''t show up to the actual wedding/reception (with no valid reason) with full understanding that someone is going to have to pay for their meal even if they are not there is my pet peeve. So annoying, inconsiderate and rude!

How''s that for a pet peeve?

 

[Gwyn]

So far mine have been the hair stylists. I have no problem getting charged for my updo but I do take issue with the fact that, because i am the bride, I am charged $300 more for my hair (not an exact figure). I get the whole "most brides want a more elaborate..." but how can they know what I want without even asking. And how are they so sure its more elaborate then a regular updo and such. I understand the bridal market is an inflated industry but it is only the hair and makeup department where I have really felt that i am getting the screws put to me. atleast ask me what I want first and pretend its more elaborate, don''t tell me that im going to be charged more because most bridal requests usually are.

 

[mintve]

cheesy vendors who act like used car salesman to get your busines...ick...

 

[Meowtown2]

Hands down it has to be relatives who insist that we add even more distant relatives to our invite list. My aunt wanted me to invite relatives I haven''t seen since I was 3 and had a fit when I said no. FI''s mom added 11 of their relatives whom I have never met claiming they wouldn''t come. Well, they''re all coming. Why? Because they''re treating it like a family reunion. Bad taste, if you ask me.

 

[seahorsegurl]

So, we''re getting married in vegas at the end of october. My fiance and I asked our immediate family and friends to attend and offered to buy airfare and hotel rooms for everyone that wanted to. As of now, I have two tickets that may need to be cancelled (non refundable, but airline credit can be given). These two individuals still haven''t said one way or the other, but originally they wanted to attend. Grrrr...

 

[Guilty Pleasure]

Meowtown2, Would you please tell me where you found the picture in your avatar? I think I''m in love.

If it''s your ring, tell me all about it! I did a search for your name to see if you had started a thread on it.


Back to the original thread, I think that hairdo price inflation would tick me off also!!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

You invite 2 people and they RSVP 4.....

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Date: 9/24/2008 2:18:51 PM
Author: Guilty Pleasure
Meowtown2, Would you please tell me where you found the picture in your avatar? I think I''m in love.

If it''s your ring, tell me all about it! I did a search for your name to see if you had started a thread on it.


Back to the original thread, I think that hairdo price inflation would tick me off also!!

I am pretty sure that is a Leon Mege piece.

his website is http://www.artofplatinum.com/4images/categories.php?cat_id=6

 

[crystalheart1]

Mine is people that act so excited for your wedding... tell you how they love the invitations...everything is so nice..etc

But then they send a can not attend the wedding... never mentioned anything as this was a possibility

We cut our guest list down... there were other people we wanted to invite...

I guess we are mailing out out "B" list

 

[Gwyn]

I am going to add to this the people who demanded you put up a registry and then didnt purchase anything from it, lol.

 

[Nocturnius]

Oh, I'm not a bride anymore, but here were my peeves...

My original maid of honor DITCHED ME eight months before the wedding, right after my best friend died. She had complained from day one whenever I took her out shopping with the other bridesmaids, so I took the hint she wanted to have ALL of my attention to herself. I was letting her pick her own gown because she was the maid of honor, and she picked a designer whose dresses were ONLY in ONE STORE in our state... and that store is on the OTHER COAST. Three hours away. But I said that was fine, that's what she wanted, so I was set to meet her there.
Let's clarify that I had JUST GOTTEN MY DRIVER'S LICENSE (I got it at 19) and I had only been driving a MONTH when I took this trek on INTERSTATE 4, one of the deadliest roads in America, THREE HOURS ACROSS THE STATE just for her.
I went to the store and waited FOUR HOURS for her. She never showed, never called and when I called her, she picked up the phone and hung up. The salon ladies looked at me like I was just the most pitiful thing they'd ever seen.
She completely disappeared off the face of the planet for SIX MONTHS. Did not say a word to me and ignored every call I made to her. I gave up after the first few weeks and couldn't figure out why she suddenly wanted nothing to do with me. And at the worst possible time.
Then, out of absolutely no where, two months before the wedding she sends me this text message:
"i need to come see you. i feel like such a bad maid of honor, i havent even seen your dress

"
....what? You think you can completely disappear like tht and still be the MOH? You're kidding, right?

Then, two groomsmen ditched us THE DAY OF. No joke! I walked down the aisle and noticed hey, there's only three groomsmen. Two didn't show. Then, even better, when we went to return my husband's tuxedo, the shop clerk wiggles her finger and says "we need to have a little talk."
They expected us to pay for the tuxedos the groomsmen didn't finish paying for.
I pretty much told them to go to hell. Both men paid the deposits on the tuxedos, so they got 50 bucks and they don't even have to clean the tuxes. I said, "if you think I'm going to pay you $200 for tuxedos you don't even have to clean and that I never agreed to pay for in the event they didn't, you're out of your f*%^ing mind." They learned very quickly they should have just kept their mouths shut.

Those were the big ones. Everything else was how NO ONE liked my wedding before they actually saw it and I wanted to just elope.

We were having hors d'oeuvres, "oh, that isn't enough food! You expect people to come to your wedding and not get a real meal?" Everyone was COMPLETELY STUFFED at the end of the night and we STILL had food left over (I gave the caterer a headcount of 30 and we only had 24 guests.)
Our cake was going to be chocolate, "WEDDING CAKES ARE SUPPOSED TO BE WHITE!! Or if not white, at least marble!!! Chocolate is too heavy!" We made one tier white cake body and NO ONE ATE IT. Everyone chowed down on the chocolate.
We had a rhinestone initial cake topper, "oh, those look so tacky in photos" or, "OHMYGOD, you're supposed to have a BRIDE AND GROOM! What is this initial cake topper?!" It was BEAUTIFUL.
Our invitations were black with silver lettering, "BLACK INVITATIONS?!!?!!!! BLACK?! FOR A WEDDING?!!!!!!!" YES. And the SECOND guests received them, they were calling me telling me how BEAUTIFUL they were.

One day I was asking my dad what we should do for the father-daughter dance and he jokingly said, "how about th Hokey Pokey?" And my mom, who just so happened to be passing by, snapped, "well why the hell not? Nothing ELSE in this wedding is traditional!"

In the end, everyone who had their doubts (especially my mom) realized that hey... maybe I had this whole thing together after all. Because our wedding turned out beautiful, and I planned it completely by myself.

 

[zoebartlett]

People bringing random guests to a wedding..that''s my biggest pet peeve. If I had wanted a particular person there, I would have invited him or her myself.

 

[Meowtown2]

Date: 9/24/2008 2:18:51 PM
Author: Guilty Pleasure
Meowtown2, Would you please tell me where you found the picture in your avatar? I think I''m in love.

If it''s your ring, tell me all about it! I did a search for your name to see if you had started a thread on it.



Back to the original thread, I think that hairdo price inflation would tick me off also!!

Guilty Pleasure - IWPO is right, my avatar is a LM piece, but asudesigner altered it with photoshop to have sapphire side stones. I am still sourcing a cushion at the moment, but when I do, it''s going straight into that setting. Thanks for the compliment, I''m glad you like it!

I have another pet peeve (I hope it''s okay to have two

) - Vendors not getting back to you in a timely fashion. Seriously, before you pay the deposit, they''re the best correspondents ever. After the deposit is in their grubby little hands, it takes two weeks to get a reply to a simple question. I actually think that this is the reason wedding planning is so stressful!