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MichelleCarmen

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This is driving me nuts. I joined another forum (non-diamond related) and had been posting a lot (around 8 posts per day). There was a "guy" who kept taking it upon himself to comment on EVERYTHING I said and finally I looked at his profile and he's only 14 years old. Not a guy, but a kid. He also has terrible grammer/spelling, etc., and that PLUS the fact that every time he responds to my post, he says the EXACT same thing, so he's bonus annoying.

Sooo . . .I took a break from the site, but logged on every day and found that he was checking my profile DAILY up until a few days back (to see where I've been posting). Well, I began posting again because I had a few things to say, and BAM, he's at it again. WTF? (It's interesting that that site shows who's been looking at your profile!)

Do I start over from scratch by changing my screen name? I've already complained to the moderators and I'm guessing there is only so much they can do. They've asked him to watch what he says, but still he's bugging the crap out of me because I WANT to talk on that forum. . .
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Okay, vent over. I told my DH and he now thinks *I'm* the lunatic!
 
Try loggin on under a different user and see if he stalks you then too - sorry MC hope he goes away for you.
 
MC I''d report it to the moderators again and explain to them that it is internet harassment which is a crime now and they are there to stop things like that and that they could lose valuable members to someone like that. You shouldn''t have to change your entire identity b/c of one person.

Thank goodness I''ve never had this happen.
 
Internet harrassment?
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Your hubby is right. Why would you care who posts what after you are done saying your piece.
 
Ditto PP 100%.
 
As annoying as he may be (and I think he is, too, so it isn''t just you), nothing he has done is internet harassment. Now, had he been following you all over the internet and emailing you and asking personal questions, that would be different. But he''s just a kid, being a kid. Ignore him and he will likely go away.
 
annoying, perhaps flattering... harmless is my guess. If you are concerned for your safety that''s one thing - if you want to flick him in the middle of the forehead and make him go away... well, I think you just gotta deal with it. I''d ignore him.
 
Date: 11/5/2009 5:18:47 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
annoying, perhaps flattering... harmless is my guess. If you are concerned for your safety that''s one thing - if you want to flick him in the middle of the forehead and make him go away... well, I think you just gotta deal with it. I''d ignore him.
There is no safety issues. . .it''s the "flick him in the middle of the forehead" type of scenerio. He''s flat out annoying.
 
Is there an ignore button?

I would just ignore him if I were you. If he starts showing up outside of the forum (emails, following you to other forums, etc.), then it might be time to speak with the authorities.
 
Ok, this is the paranoid one in me.

WHAT 14 YEAR OLD ADMITS TO BEING 14??

Maybe he is an adult, posing as a child so that you, or whoever will think, "Whatever he''s only a kid..." and he is keeping tabs on you.

I would switch names. But first under your last name, make up a story and say you''re sorry but you''ll never be back.
 
MC...is this a fish forum?
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I still say go back to the mods. It is what they are there for.
 
Date: 11/5/2009 6:57:40 PM
Author: swedish bean
Ok, this is the paranoid one in me.

WHAT 14 YEAR OLD ADMITS TO BEING 14??

Maybe he is an adult, posing as a child so that you, or whoever will think, ''Whatever he''s only a kid...'' and he is keeping tabs on you.

I would switch names. But first under your last name, make up a story and say you''re sorry but you''ll never be back.
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Date: 11/5/2009 6:57:40 PM
Author: swedish bean
Ok, this is the paranoid one in me.

WHAT 14 YEAR OLD ADMITS TO BEING 14??

Maybe he is an adult, posing as a child so that you, or whoever will think, 'Whatever he's only a kid...' and he is keeping tabs on you.

I would switch names. But first under your last name, make up a story and say you're sorry but you'll never be back.
Yikes, good point and scary one, too. A lot of the members on there are younger (or so they say) so possibly he's trying to become "friends" with them by pretending he's that age. His spelling and all that is terrible, though, which would be one indication that he IS, indeed very young or just a very lazy person who doesn't bother to punctuate/use backspace.

I did take ALL info about me off my profile. Maybe I should put that I'm 80 years old. That'll throw him off my trail!
 
MC - maybe you can mention it in your post that you find it incredibly sexy when men can spell, have good grammar skills and use punctuation.
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but seriously, I think you should ignore his posts and don''t ever reply to or comment on them, and hopefully he will eventually stop.
 
Date: 11/5/2009 10:54:12 PM
Author: MC

Date: 11/5/2009 6:57:40 PM
Author: swedish bean
Ok, this is the paranoid one in me.

WHAT 14 YEAR OLD ADMITS TO BEING 14??

Maybe he is an adult, posing as a child so that you, or whoever will think, ''Whatever he''s only a kid...'' and he is keeping tabs on you.

I would switch names. But first under your last name, make up a story and say you''re sorry but you''ll never be back.
Yikes, good point and scary one, too. A lot of the members on there are younger (or so they say) so possibly he''s trying to become ''friends'' with them by pretending he''s that age. His spelling and all that is terrible, though, which would be one indication that he IS, indeed very young or just a very lazy person who doesn''t bother to punctuate/use backspace.

I did take ALL info about me off my profile. Maybe I should put that I''m 80 years old. That''ll throw him off my trail!
Ok, so totally not trying to feed into this hypothetical situation that he may be an older guy pretending to be younger, but people who prey on young people on the internet know they have to change their spelling and way they speak, to blend in and make the other person feel comfortable. So just because he has bad spelling doesn''t mean he''s necessarily the age he says.

Please be careful what information you post there ..
 
does the forum have one of those 'ignore user' buttons? i think PS does or used to, i can't even remember. it would be great if you didn't have to see his posts at all. if not, maybe you can ask them to add it as a future modification.

i say if you really want to keep posting, keep posting. make sure your profile doesn't have personal information and don't share too much personal information on there. chances are he will get tired or bored and go away. but if you fuel the fire with comments or speak directly to him (not saying you are, just saying in general), then don't be surprised if he keeps focusing on you.

greg thinks that all online forums are frequented by lunatics, which includes me.
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Date: 11/6/2009 10:37:14 AM
Author: lilyfoot

Date: 11/5/2009 10:54:12 PM
Author: MC

Yikes, good point and scary one, too. A lot of the members on there are younger (or so they say) so possibly he''s trying to become ''friends'' with them by pretending he''s that age. His spelling and all that is terrible, though, which would be one indication that he IS, indeed very young or just a very lazy person who doesn''t bother to punctuate/use backspace.

I did take ALL info about me off my profile. Maybe I should put that I''m 80 years old. That''ll throw him off my trail!
Ok, so totally not trying to feed into this hypothetical situation that he may be an older guy pretending to be younger, but people who prey on young people on the internet know they have to change their spelling and way they speak, to blend in and make the other person feel comfortable. So just because he has bad spelling doesn''t mean he''s necessarily the age he says.

Please be careful what information you post there ..
Well, I changed my profile to say I live in a different state than I actually do. All else is gone. The only thing is I''ve posted photos (not of myself, of course) as I NEVER post facial (none of me are even here after all these years of being a member except one where my face isn''t showing) but the photos are limiting in nature.

Mara - there is an ignore button. The reason I haven''t used it is because I WANT to see what''s going on. Once I put the ignore up I feel I''m left clueless as to what he is saying, if that makes any sense. He could be posting extremely bizarre stuff and I won''t be able to report him to the moderators.

Sadly, I was responding to his posts up until the time I left for that week. Now I don''t respond. Yet he keeps watching me and jumping in when given the chance. Bleh. What a creep.

I guess the best option is to leave that forum for a month and by then he WILL have moved on.
 
Many forums have an option to block or ignore a user so that you can''t see their posts. This may not help him looking at your profile, but at least you wouldn''t have to see what he writes.
 
What is he saying? Also is this a special intwrest forum or just a general forum?

Honestly if someone was bothering me so much on a forum that I felt the need to take multiple breaks, I''ll just leave it all together.
 
Date: 11/6/2009 11:58:33 AM
Author: MC

Date: 11/6/2009 10:37:14 AM
Author: lilyfoot


Date: 11/5/2009 10:54:12 PM
Author: MC

Yikes, good point and scary one, too. A lot of the members on there are younger (or so they say) so possibly he''s trying to become ''friends'' with them by pretending he''s that age. His spelling and all that is terrible, though, which would be one indication that he IS, indeed very young or just a very lazy person who doesn''t bother to punctuate/use backspace.

I did take ALL info about me off my profile. Maybe I should put that I''m 80 years old. That''ll throw him off my trail!
Ok, so totally not trying to feed into this hypothetical situation that he may be an older guy pretending to be younger, but people who prey on young people on the internet know they have to change their spelling and way they speak, to blend in and make the other person feel comfortable. So just because he has bad spelling doesn''t mean he''s necessarily the age he says.

Please be careful what information you post there ..
Well, I changed my profile to say I live in a different state than I actually do. All else is gone. The only thing is I''ve posted photos (not of myself, of course) as I NEVER post facial (none of me are even here after all these years of being a member except one where my face isn''t showing) but the photos are limiting in nature.

Mara - there is an ignore button. The reason I haven''t used it is because I WANT to see what''s going on. Once I put the ignore up I feel I''m left clueless as to what he is saying, if that makes any sense. He could be posting extremely bizarre stuff and I won''t be able to report him to the moderators.

Sadly, I was responding to his posts up until the time I left for that week. Now I don''t respond. Yet he keeps watching me and jumping in when given the chance. Bleh. What a creep.

I guess the best option is to leave that forum for a month and by then he WILL have moved on.
what forum is this?I want to know so i also can be close to you and read everything you write on the net!Oh ...did i write that out loud?!
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