Wedding bachelor party rant (but not the typical stuff)

[Sabine]

I feel so bad for my FI. His bachelor party is tomorrow, and all he wanted was a low key guy''s night with his friends (he wanted to go somewhere like Dave and Busters, eat dinner, play games, etc.). His brother and best friend are co-best men, but his brother is the one who took the reins on the whole night. First he invited all of the family members that FI doesn''t usually hang out with (uncles and cousins), which wasn''t that big a deal. Then, instead of getting a party bus, he rented a uhaul van for them all to ride in and paid a friend to be the designated driver. He won''t give anyone any specifics on what time they are leaving though. They are going to go to Dave and Buster''s, but there''s no set time for people to meet up to eat. And all the relatives are starting to invite random people. His cousin who will be in from Colorado wanted to invite a girl and 6 of her girlfriends to come (and even wanted FI to get a family member to go pick them up for him), and FI really doesn''t want them to come. He even had to ask his best friend that if they show up, they can leave and go somewhere to just hang out with his friends. His one uncle (who is divorced) even told him that his whole reason for coming is to try to pick up women. And all of FI''s friends keep calling him trying to get details of what is going on, which is really frustrating him because he doesn''t know. He tells them to ask his brother, but apparently his brother is not answering anyone''s calls.

I feel so bad because FI didn''t want to have to plan this. Plus, I had such a kick-@ss bachelorette party that I know he''s wishing his friends could just once be as organized and on the ball as my wonderful MOH. He''s so tired of being frustrated that he''s not even looking forward to the night anymore. I''m sure everything will work out and he will he a wonderful time, I just feel really bad that it''s become such a pain for him.

 

[robbie3982]

Date: 7/9/2008 8:18:01 PM
Author:Sabine
I feel so bad for my FI. His bachelor party is tomorrow, and all he wanted was a low key guy''s night with his friends (he wanted to go somewhere like Dave and Busters, eat dinner, play games, etc.). His brother and best friend are co-best men, but his brother is the one who took the reins on the whole night. First he invited all of the family members that FI doesn''t usually hang out with (uncles and cousins), which wasn''t that big a deal. Then, instead of getting a party bus, he rented a uhaul van for them all to ride in and paid a friend to be the designated driver. He won''t give anyone any specifics on what time they are leaving though. They are going to go to Dave and Buster''s, but there''s no set time for people to meet up to eat. And all the relatives are starting to invite random people. His cousin who will be in from Colorado wanted to invite a girl and 6 of her girlfriends to come (and even wanted FI to get a family member to go pick them up for him), and FI really doesn''t want them to come. He even had to ask his best friend that if they show up, they can leave and go somewhere to just hang out with his friends. His one uncle (who is divorced) even told him that his whole reason for coming is to try to pick up women. And all of FI''s friends keep calling him trying to get details of what is going on, which is really frustrating him because he doesn''t know. He tells them to ask his brother, but apparently his brother is not answering anyone''s calls.

I feel so bad because FI didn''t want to have to plan this. Plus, I had such a kick-@ss bachelorette party that I know he''s wishing his friends could just once be as organized and on the ball as my wonderful MOH. He''s so tired of being frustrated that he''s not even looking forward to the night anymore. I''m sure everything will work out and he will he a wonderful time, I just feel really bad that it''s become such a pain for him.

Awe, poor M

. Whatever happens it can''t be any more awkward that DH''s bachelor party. They went to some strip club (which he was against) which apparently had some pretty horrendous strippers and all got drunk. His dad was there. My dad was there. Eeew.

Hopefully his guys will get it together and he''ll have a blast. DH''s cousin''s MOH was super disorganized too. None of us knew what was going on until the last minute, but we all ended up having a blast.

 

[Shoopy]

I''m sorry and this isn''t against you.....

But when I read your post, I just pictured one of those really cheesy "dude" flick where the fiance is all "I wish I could just spend my bachelor party with you at home" and the girl goes awwww and then he leaves and PARTY TIME!!!! LOL

Anyway...bachelor/bachelorette parties are overrated. Just tell him to go, have a good time, and the most important part is yet to come...getting married to you!!!

 

[robbie3982]

Her FI definitely isn''t like that at all. He was one of my best friends in college and he was never really into partying like that.

 

[Sabine]

I was just trying to say that I feel bad that my FI was looking forward to having a good time, and now he''s stressed out and worried that he won''t. I want him to have a good time, so I''m sorry he has to deal with people not really complying with what he wants.

 

[princesss]

Aww, Sabine, I''m sorry. My BF''s friends are like that too, and I hate watching him be disappointed when something important to him doesn''t pan out. Maybe it''ll help if he stops focusing on it as his bachelor party, but just a good time with friends and family? Sometimes just a little mental distance helps a lot.

 

[Anna0499]

Date: 7/9/2008 8:18:01 PM
Author:Sabine
I feel so bad for my FI. His bachelor party is tomorrow, and all he wanted was a low key guy''s night with his friends (he wanted to go somewhere like Dave and Busters, eat dinner, play games, etc.). His brother and best friend are co-best men, but his brother is the one who took the reins on the whole night. First he invited all of the family members that FI doesn''t usually hang out with (uncles and cousins), which wasn''t that big a deal. Then, instead of getting a party bus, he rented a uhaul van for them all to ride in and paid a friend to be the designated driver. He won''t give anyone any specifics on what time they are leaving though. They are going to go to Dave and Buster''s, but there''s no set time for people to meet up to eat. And all the relatives are starting to invite random people. His cousin who will be in from Colorado wanted to invite a girl and 6 of her girlfriends to come (and even wanted FI to get a family member to go pick them up for him), and FI really doesn''t want them to come. He even had to ask his best friend that if they show up, they can leave and go somewhere to just hang out with his friends. His one uncle (who is divorced) even told him that his whole reason for coming is to try to pick up women. And all of FI''s friends keep calling him trying to get details of what is going on, which is really frustrating him because he doesn''t know. He tells them to ask his brother, but apparently his brother is not answering anyone''s calls.

I feel so bad because FI didn''t want to have to plan this. Plus, I had such a kick-@ss bachelorette party that I know he''s wishing his friends could just once be as organized and on the ball as my wonderful MOH. He''s so tired of being frustrated that he''s not even looking forward to the night anymore. I''m sure everything will work out and he will he a wonderful time, I just feel really bad that it''s become such a pain for him.

That sounds horrible! It sounds like your FI''s brother has successfully made the night into hsi own idea of what a bachelor party should be, instead of listening to your FI''s wishes. If I was you I would''ve suggest that your FI''s best friend get involved and make it right. I''d be very "my way or the highway" about it all. Hopefully it turns out okay & your FI isn''t too upset. I think most of the time the groom to be''s FRIENDS get way more excited about a bachelor party than the actual GTB & end up getting drunker/staying out later/etc. anyway.

 

[marchswallowbird]

Perhaps I''ll get flamed for saying this but...so what? Chill. There are more important things in life to stress out over. FI needs to just accept that this is an important thing for his friends to do, and go with the flow. He cannot control what other people do. He can only control his own behavior at the party. He does not need to get drunk, he does not need to be wild and crazy, he should do whatever is comfortable to him.