Home Babies on the brain

[Izzy03]

So we did it! We got married! Now when we talk our SO''s saying "I hope our future children will have eyes and your nose" it is not just silly talk!

So Hubby and I agreed that having children would not be an immediate thing. We didn''t live together before the marriage so we are really enjoying our along time.

While on our honeymoon in Mexico, I remember constantly thinking "There is no way we are having children anytime soon! I want to do this every year!" And boy did I mean it! Then we got home from the honeymoon, started getting into the routine of things, and BAM! Babies on the mind nonstop. The thing is I really don''t want a baby now! I just got married in April! The timing is so wrong but I just could not get my mind off of the whole thing. I am watching all things babies on TV and have begun find the whole process so fascinating.

Luckily I discovered I was bored and needed to do something productive. I left my job to get married (the job was 2 hours away) so between going to the gym and hanging out around the house, I really wasn''t doing much of anything. All that downtime got me thinking that I would like to make a career change. I currently have a Bachelors in Ecology (Environmental Biology) and think I want to become an RN, so back to school for me! I also got a job about two weeks ago. All this recent activity has definitely helped to get the babies off of my brain! THANK GOD! I was driving myself crazy!

Did anyone else get a surprise baby-bug?

 

[MonkeyPie]

I got SERIOUS baby fever after marriage! I knew it was not the right time for us, but both my husband I watched baby shows on tv and talked about baby names and stuff we wanted to do with our future kids. The fever is still there - hopefully not too much longer before we can start!

 

[Lilac]

I do find myself thinking about and falling more in love with babies now that I''m married, but I know it''s not the right time for us and we''re not ready yet. So for now, I''ll just have to be content playing with other peoples'' adorable babies!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I didn''t have baby fever right after we were married (and don''t have it now), but the more we settle into our marriage and are content iwth our careers, the more we start thinking about the "next step". I''m not itching to have a baby immediately, but if it happened we''d be very happy. The plan is for me to go off of BC next year around my 29th b-day and I''m content with that plan in place. It keeps me from thinking it''s too close or too far away

 

[SparklyLibra]

I''ve got baby on the brain too.... DH and I have been together for going on 6 years this November, married for five months.... We have an instant family. I am getting closer to 30 and have been feeling the itch for some time now. The timing sucks right now as we''re having a house built (ready April 2010) and are currently renting a house.

Having a baby right now wouldn''t be a complete disaster, but it would set us back financially as we are currently on target with our savings goal. (We''d like to be able to put a certain amount down on the house at closing, to keep the carrying costs reasonable).

DH is being patient with me, and I try not to bring it up every 60 seconds.

We''re not on BC due to health hazards that I have with most forms of BC, and if it happens we know we''ll be ok, but IDEALLY we need to hold off until we at least get into the new house.

For now I enjoy my time with friend''s baby and know that my time will come in due season

 

[musey]

I''m starting to notice that it''s REALLY normal to start getting that itch soon after the wedding!

We are not at all ready for kids... well, I think we could be wonderful parents at this point, but our careers are not close to ready to support a family. Still, the baby itch is there - for both of us. It''s starting to fade for me, though, over the past couple of months (we''ve been married for nearly 10 months now).

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I had baby fever SO BAD leading up to the wedding. Now, not so much. Then again, I haven't been around my nieces much in the past few months. They immediately send me into baby mania.

 

[QueenB29]

It''s really starting for me. My husband and I are not ready for a baby yet, and I have some health issues that mean getting pregnant right now would be a disaster. Our plan was to start trying a 1 1/2-2 years after our wedding (1st anniversary is in Sept.) and I''d really like a baby before I''m 30 (I''m 27). But I have to get of the meds I''m on right now first, and I don''t know when that''s going to happen, if ever.

But now whenever I see babies or pregnant women, I''m starting to feel a tug at my heart and jealousy. It doesn''t help that my SIL and the wife of my husband''s best friend both just announced their pregnancies.......

 

[julabean]

I got incredibly bad baby fever right after my cousin''s wife had their first baby. I''m super close to them, so I was just in complete and instant love with their little girl. On the way home after seeing her the day she was born I told DH "I can''t wait five years!"

Ha. Ha. Ha. We just got back from a vacation with some of DH''s friends who have a 1 year old. Wow. If there is anything that will convince me I am not ready to have kids, it is going on vacation with one! I am not ready to run my life on a baby''s schedule! DH and I were talking a few months ago about how we''re still very selfish with our time, which definitely means we''re not ready for kids! I''m also still in school and have some things I''d like to do career-wise, so it doesn''t take very much reminding.

Luckily, the friends we were on vacation with and my cousin''s family all live within 15 minutes of us. I can get my baby fixes whenever I want, do all of the routine (putting them to sleep, changing diapers, feeding them, etc.) and then give them back to their parents when I''m ready to go home! Perfect.

 

[Laila619]

Oh yes, we both have baby fever! We were supposed to wait a year to start trying, but that fell by the wayside. We started trying after 5 months of marriage.

 

[Haven]

I had the same thing right after we married--I suddenly wanted a baby.
Now, a year later, I''m completely over it.

I don''t know what the deal is, but it does seem like a common thing to have babies on the brain right after marriage. I''m glad it passed for me!

 

[CNOS128]

I was kind of hoping to get baby fever after our wedding, but so far -- nothing! I think I''m enjoying alone time with the husband too much. A baby would really cramp our style!

 

[Patchee]

Nope, never had the "baby itch" .....

We decided when we started dating that we do not want kids. Still feel that way. I think it is a mind set. Like - ok I am married now, now time to have kids. It is how married people are preveived I think. First love, marriage, then baby carriage.

We are married because we do not want kids

We rather put our time into us, our horses, our vacations, our friends, fishing, camping.. the things you cannot do with a baby in your arms.

 

[Izzy03]

Its good to know that this "phenomenon" is not uncommon, perhaps even normal! I have never been all about having kids, so I was kinda freaking myself out! We have been married for about 4 months now, so I was thinking what the heck is wrong with me.

We won''t really be in the best place for kids for another 2-3 years and thinking I was going to have to wait that long was making me nuts. Luckily, with my new job the baby-bug is starting to wear off.

I''m not sure if being around other people''s babies will make things better or worse

 

[cakeny]

My baby "itch" is more of a tickle.

I *thought* I knew for the longest time that I did not want children. But meeting Mr. Cake changed all that and now that we are married, we both feel *almost* ready and are on the "casual" TTC route. Well as casual as one can be after picking up a copy of TCOYF - highly recommended btw!

 

[Miscka]

I am glad I found this topic! I have been wondering WHAT the heck is wrong with me! I want a baby like crazy. Which IS crazy, we are so not ready! We did not date long enough before getting married, so not enough "us" time, traveling, saving money, etc. But the baby fever doesn''t give a $h!t. Sigh. I hope I am like Haven and it fades! DH is just as bad. We have names picked out and everything. I never ever thought I would have this sensation, I always told myself that if I had kids it would be after 30. Ugh.

 

[CaliCushion]

We have decided that we want a little more time to travel and be selfish before having kids. I absolutely LOVE kids, but I know that once we have them my life is going to be consumed with kids kids kids.

I''d ideally like to have kids a little earlier than my husband, but we compromised and agreed to start trying in a little under a year and a half..so about 2 years after we were married.

 

[violet02]

I never really had baby fever before but I knew I wanted to or should start sooner rather than later due to my age etc.

Now that we''ve been married awhile and particularly now that I am not working full time I have been having baby fever. I stopped my BC a few months ago and so far we aren''t pregnant but this month we''re kicking things into high gear so we''ll see!

 

[LadyBlue]

I had a baby on my brain as well

Only me, so I always joke about that to my Dh and he gets scare lol.

I know it''s not the moment to have babies, but everytime I see one on the street. I feel like I want one for us

. I hope to stop this baby fever soon.

 

[Stephanie]

Just the topic I was looking for. Ever since the wedding and then leaving my job, I just can''t think about anything else. And I was always the never want children type. What gets your mind off of it if you know you need to wait to start going down the TTC road?

 

[sba771]

I am not even married yet and we both have MAJOR baby fever. We actually would love to have a honeymoon baby. We are doing the whole traveling around Europe thing now plus both FI and I traveled and explored a lot as children with our families so we share the opinion that babies won''t stop us. That is why I am counting down until my honeymoon instead of the wedding itself! (plus we miss the beach...not so many beaches here in Germany)

 

[luckystar112]

I was at the grocery store yesterday picking up a few things.

All of a sudden, it dawns on me that I''ve been in the baby aisle for the last 15 minutes reading up on those cheap breast pumps. Granted, I was thinking "these must suck...and not in the way they''re intended", but still.
What the heck does that MEAN?!?!?

 

[cindygenit]

Date: 8/18/2009 5:03:51 PM
Author: luckystar112
I was at the grocery store yesterday picking up a few things.

All of a sudden, it dawns on me that I''ve been in the baby aisle for the last 15 minutes reading up on those cheap breast pumps. Granted, I was thinking ''these must suck...and not in the way they''re intended'', but still.
What the heck does that MEAN?!?!?

It means u have baby on the brain

I really can''t wait to have a mini version of FI and I!!! I''m not even married yet... Sheesh

 

[tlh]

I too got baby fever, right after the wedding. It comes in waves, and isnt so strong right now.... but about 3 months after the wedding, I REEEEALLY wanted to start trying. I''ve already been to the DR to go over any potential health issues or concerns w/ fertility, etc, as we are wanting to start in a year or so. I''m okay with waiting, a bit to make sure things are in line... but I think I might have a mini freak out when I actually take a move in that direction and hop off the pill.

Maybe there is something in honeymoon water?

 

[Luckyeshe]

Hmmmm....this topic/thread is making me feel better! Most of my friends are already married and have been telling me that they have babies on the brain. Their bio clocks are definitely ticking and they know it. I''m the same age as most of them, and I''m going to be one of the last married and my clock isn''t ticking one bit... I knew when I was younger that I wanted to have a family, but I''m always one for doing things in the right order...school, career, engaged, married, then baby. A little while back, I kinda changed my mind and didn''t want a baby...at least not with the intensity as my friends. I thought there was something wrong with me! Now I feel better that maybe after the wedding I''d feel the tick tock of my bio clock. If not, at least my FI is ok if our family is just going to be the 2 of us.