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Ideal_Rock
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Ok ok, so I don''t mean "you" you. This question came up because I found that there are MANY people in various position in my life that ARE. I am at lost in how to deal with them.
My communication style is candid and sometimes more direct than needed
. However I find honesty to be the best policy and often make my points/expectation clear. With those who are passive-aggressive, they go about things very indirectly but sometimes manipulatively. When they don''t like some email from me they will just ignore it, instead of declining my request or say "I don''t know the answer. When they want something from me they don''t ask directly, they go about asking "how would you feel about doing xxx" when we both know full well that I don''t have an option to say no. Or worse, someone will send a birthday card and the card says "We will take you out to a nice restaurant to celebrate when we visit you in October" (NOTE: they just invited themselves to our house, we never extended an invite).
I have been dealing with them as neccesary; but sometimes these excessive passive aggresivity just tire me out.
Are you, or do you know people, who are like that? If so how do you go about dealing with this personality style effectively?
Thanks in advance for your input, and for sharing your experiences!
My communication style is candid and sometimes more direct than needed
I have been dealing with them as neccesary; but sometimes these excessive passive aggresivity just tire me out.
Are you, or do you know people, who are like that? If so how do you go about dealing with this personality style effectively?
Thanks in advance for your input, and for sharing your experiences!