are you still good friend with your Ex husband?

[Dancing Fire]

did he marry another woman ?

 

[tyty333]

I don't know if l'd say we're good friends but we get along just fine...and yes, we both
remarried.

 

[texaskj]

I want the same thing from both my ex-husbands and it's pretty simple, especially with no kids: Leave me the hell alone.
I think the first one is married again; the second one is not. I run into him about three times a year at work.

 

[yennyfire]

Nope, it was terribly acrimonious and we haven't spoken since the divorce was final. I do believe that he remarried, as did I. I thank my lucky stars we didn't have any children, which would have bound us together forever!

 

[Amber St. Clare]

NO NO NO NO and NO.

I did a google search on him recently {out of the blue--it was our wdding anniversary} and learned he had turned into a corporate SHARK who had done AND BOASTED ABOUT doing so many unethical things helping employers ""get a better bottom line". Nothing illegal, but nothing I would be proud of. He had turned into the type of person he and I despised during our marriage. It was absolutely revolting to read his website.

Just made me appreciate Mr. St. Clare even more......

 

[movie zombie]

you're kidding, right?!

 

[Dancing Fire]

you're kidding, right?!

nope,unlike Chinese peoples i heard that many Americans still get along with their Ex.

 

[sonnyjane]

you're kidding, right?!

nope,unlike Chinese peoples i heard that many Americans still get along with their Ex.

Urban legend. I don't have an ex-husband, but I have many friends and family members that do, and I can assure you, there's no friendship there. When children are involved, most of them try to be civil in that they don't break out into a wrestling match when they drop them off or pick them up, but they are far from friends.

 

[mrs jam]

No, I don't have any desire to maintain a relationship of any kind with my ex. When we met, I was in my early 20s and in a restless and confused place in my life. I have no bad feelings toward him other than I can't believe I ever married him in the first place, but just because I don't hate someone's guts doesn't mean I want to be their friend. It grosses me out that I ever had a physical relationship with him, and I wish there was some mental bleach for that! Yuck.

I had to contact him a few weeks ago after reviewing a copy of my credit report. I was still listed as an authorized user on one of his cards. The sound of his voice gave me the creeps. I couldn't imagine trying to be friends, no thank you!

 

[Dancing Fire]

No, I don't have any desire to maintain a relationship of any kind with my ex. When we met, I was in my early 20s and in a restless and confused place in my life. I have no bad feelings toward him other than I can't believe I ever married him in the first place, but just because I don't hate someone's guts doesn't mean I want to be their friend. It grosses me out that I ever had a physical relationship with him, and I wish there was some mental bleach for that! Yuck.

I had to contact him a few weeks ago after reviewing a copy of my credit report. I was still listed as an authorized user on one of his cards. The sound of his voice gave me the creeps. I couldn't imagine trying to be friends, no thank you!

Mrs Jam...your still piss cuz you didn't get any of his morgan dollars...

 

[audball]

My parents divorced about 13 years ago. They're still very good friends. We have all family functions still together as a family. There's no, "we have to go to Moms" and "we have to go to Dads"...know why? They're roommates! They live together, own a house together (a recent purchase) and live together (in separate bedrooms with NO romantic relationship at all).

It's funny, when they were together we were all miserable. They are not a good couple. But they are great friends. It's odd, but I'm thankful that they are WAY more than civil. It's made my life a lot easier. I still don't really get it, but it's not my business so I stay out of it. I've asked my Mom about "them" before and I always get an "Ick" response as if my Dad has cooties and they're 12. Hah. There are no romantic feelings there at all, but they have us three girls and have been together (either romantically and married or friendly and roommates) for nearly 40 years now. I think in lots of ways they like each other, they love each other, and need each other, but they aren't in love any more and this arrangement works for both of them.

ETA: they obviously never remarried and have no desires to.

 

[Dancing Fire]

My parents divorced about 13 years ago. They're still very good friends. We have all family functions still together as a family. There's no, "we have to go to Moms" and "we have to go to Dads"...know why? They're roommates! They live together, own a house together (a recent purchase) and live together (in separate bedrooms with NO romantic relationship at all).

It's funny, when they were together we were all miserable. They are not a good couple. But they are great friends. It's odd, but I'm thankful that they are WAY more than civil. It's made my life a lot easier. I still don't really get it, but it's not my business so I stay out of it. I've asked my Mom about "them" before and I always get an "Ick" response as if my Dad has cooties and they're 12. Hah. There are no romantic feelings there at all, but they have us three girls and have been together (either romantically and married or friendly and roommates) for nearly 40 years now. I think in lots of ways they like each other, they love each other, and need each other, but they aren't in love any more and this arrangement works for both of them.

ETA: they obviously never remarried and have no desires to.

that is a strange story!!..

 

[hlmr]

you're kidding, right?!

nope,unlike Chinese peoples i heard that many Americans still get along with their Ex.

Actually DF, my fathers Chinese wife gets along quite well with her ex who lives in China. Things that make you go hmmmmmm.

 

[Dancing Fire]

you're kidding, right?!

nope,unlike Chinese peoples i heard that many Americans still get along with their Ex.

Actually DF, my fathers Chinese wife gets along quite well with her ex who lives in China. Things that make you go hmmmmmm.

does she go visit China often?...

 

[NOYFB]

Ugh...HELL NO!!!! I haven't spoken to him since the divorce was final 20 years ago and for all I know (or care) he has fallen off the face of the earth.

 

[hlmr]

you're kidding, right?!

nope,unlike Chinese peoples i heard that many Americans still get along with their Ex.

Actually DF, my fathers Chinese wife gets along quite well with her ex who lives in China. Things that make you go hmmmmmm.

does she go visit China often?...

Actually, yes, she does!!

 

[woofmama]

I actually get along fairly well with my Ex. We divorced 17 years ago when our son was 3. Had joint custody of him and regular weekly contact. We were both very involved in all aspects of my sons life & saw each other at little league games, school band performances,etc.
When my son graduated I hosted his party at my house & the Ex husbands band played with my son also performing. Our divorce proceedings were somewhat nasty but we got past that & raised a great kid.
I remarried 15 yrs ago, he never remarried. My current husband even went to a Cubs game with my Ex. We rarely talk now, my son will be 21 soon so all of the school events are long gone. I am glad my son still spends time with his dad, they have a good relationship.

 

[Mayk]

No. No. No. No. There isn't a nice thing to say or think about him... So I say nothing... A lot!

 

[madelise]

This is interesting to me. My mother married three times. She no longer has contact with either my or my sister's father. I'm not sure about her contact with the third because I never gave a rat's behind for him, so I don't ask.

My mother couldn't even stay civil enough to keep in contact with our fathers for my sister's and my sake. Luckily, my father and his family always kept in contact through snail mail about once a year, and sent me his email address one year. My sister isn't so "lucky". We have no idea where her father is, or where any of her other 8 (or maybe more now) half siblings are from her father's first marriage. We moved so many times that, even if her father or siblings wanted to search for her, it would be quite impossible. I am always sad about this. I wish I could find her family for her.. to at least let her know if her father is alive or not.

 

[Mayk]

No. No. No. No. There isn't a nice thing to say or think about him... So I say nothing... A lot!

I forgot.. my ex married Broom Hilda (who will not let my daughter visit) and I remarried a PRINCE!!!!

On a different note.. My DH's ex is fabulous.. love her and we all get along fabulously including with his two kids...

DF - No rendevous with you.. I've seen the price tag on those watches... WOW!!!!

 

[longtimelurker]

did he marry another woman ?

As of right now, gawd no. He met and moved in with a woman who CHANGED HER LAST NAME TO HIS IN HER DIVORCE DECREE well before our divorce was finalized. Whatever floats his boat, but I will never forgive him for how that affects our two teenage daughters.

 

[tammy77]

I tried to be for the sake of our kids, but no. It was WAY more work than it was worth. I'm civil towards him and won't talk bad about him in front of the kids, but that's where the niceties stop. He's not someone I have any desire to be friends with.

 

[akmiss]

I don't have an ex but my husband does have an ex wife. Their relationship is solid and they have two sons together. As strange as it may seem, I have a better relationship with his ex than he does. I admire her as a person and a mother and over the years she has become my tag team partner in raising the kids. It helps that their marriage didn't end because of infidelity and there were no messy court orders or child support payments. They just agreed on raising the boys together (but separately) with as little dysfunction as possible. My husband and I have a son together also and he sleeps over at her house and enjoys the extended family. The boys are well loved with two sets of parents sharing the cost and responsibility of raising a child.

 

[Rowan]

No. I tried but he persisted in acting like a manipulative butth*le and has managed to turn one of our sons against me, so no. My FH and I are about to move as far away from him as we can get.

 

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

I really tried to be so that we could raise our daughter together. He was violent (hence the divorce) but I spent time with him and tried to be a caring ex-spouse for my daughter. In his twisted mind that meant to him that I would come back to him even though I have been remarried for over 14 years. The tipping point came last Valentine's Day when he sent me a love letter. I attempted to gently clarify our relationship and he has gone back to terrifying me ever since.This time he is even terrifying my daughter. I now have an alarm system and sleep with a 9mm close by. When we first were going through the divorce he poisoned me, and my dog, cut the brake lines in my car and later tried to kill my current husband. At the time my current husband was just a decent guy trying to save my life and later our relationship grew to love. But my ex was never violent towards my daughter so I tried to make be kind for her sake.

I had in the past great hopes he would get remarried but he blows every relationship and blames it on me. Saying he still loves me. What a crock! A few months ago he actually stooped so low as to tell my daughter that he was not her biological father. Can you imagine?

I hate living in fear but the bright side is that my present (and forever) husband is not violent and is my friend. And my daughter relates much better to him then her father. But every day I need to check my car to make sure he is not in it and it has not been tampered with. Every day I look behind my shoulder afraid he will be creeping up on me. And now my daughter shares the same fear.

Another thing. My ex had a very nice girlfriend a few years ago. My daughter loved her. I was torn because I wanted it to work and for them to get married so the stress would be off me, but I was afraid for her. Luckily for her she saw his dark side.

 

[Rowan]

Oh good lord. Poor you!

 

[Natylad]

No, we're still good enemies...
He never remarried and he never stopped being the bad person that he always was, no matter how much effort i put into making things better for our daughter's sake. I guess there is no hope of this person ever improving I try to be civil and polite with him and i avoid any contact, unless it's absolutely necessairy. Just to give an example of the person's character, i'll just say that after i remarried i had a baby girl with my new husband and he was trying to brainwash our daughter that she should not love the child, because she's not a true sister since she has a different father and because supposedly she will take all the the attention and love from her coz a baby is always..."cuter" than older children I thank God for the fact that my eleven year old daughter didn't buy any of this and realized immediately that he was just trying to poison her mind...Seriously...how can you be friends with such a person?

ETA: I just read the previous post about an ex husband who tried to poison and kill his ex wife... it made me feel a little better about my situation

 

[orbaya]

I don't have an ex-husband. My MIL's husband (DH's bio father) was murdered when DH was 4. My MIL remarried a man 20 years older than her (DH's stepdad) who did have an ex-wife. It was one of those situations where he and the ex were much happier not married but stayed in touch. In fact, my MIL and her new husband would visit his ex and her current husband, and vice versa. When I first started dating DH, I thought it was pretty strange, but soon it became the norm. If you can follow this.....when DH's stepdad's ex-wife died, we had the get-together at our house after the funeral. Even though they weren't married anymore, they were still family in a way.