are you a "guy''s" kind of gal?

[vip0802]

BF said i was because i know how to change my own oil, change a flat, install a car stereo, loves electronics and gadgets (i probably know how to work and fix them better than BF or dad can), fixes stuff around the house, loves football and plays pool. yet at the same time, i can be such a "girlie girl" with clothes, makeup and other things deemed girlish.

he says it''s rare, but i think there''s a lot of females out there that do things that are stereotypically a guy thing. do any of you ladies see yourselves as a "guy''s" kind of gal?

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/12/2010 2:11:41 AM
Author:vip0802
BF said i was because i know how to change my own oil, change a flat, install a car stereo, loves electronics and gadgets (i probably know how to work and fix them better than BF or dad can), fixes stuff around the house, loves football and plays pool. yet at the same time, i can be such a 'girlie girl' with clothes, makeup and other things deemed girlish.

he says it's rare, but i think there's a lot of females out there that do things that are stereotypically a guy thing. do any of you ladies see yourselves as a 'guy's' kind of gal?

does this mean you are a "tom boy"?

how many brothers do you have?

 

[yssie]

Date: 1/12/2010 2:11:41 AM
Author:vip0802
BF said i was because i know how to change my own oil yup, but I hate crawling under to do it, change a flat never done this but my dad taught me, install a car stereo nope, loves electronics and gadgets (i probably know how to work and fix them better than BF or dad can) definitely not!, fixes stuff around the house depends... if it involves places that are cobwebby I''m a stereotypical damsel in distress and I''ll play it up if it means I don''t have to deal with it

, loves football it''s growing on me and plays pool nope.. yet at the same time, i can be such a ''girlie girl'' with clothes, makeup and other things deemed girlish.

he says it''s rare, but i think there''s a lot of females out there that do things that are stereotypically a guy thing. do any of you ladies see yourselves as a ''guy''s'' kind of gal?

I guess not

 

[vip0802]

Date: 1/12/2010 2:16:48 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
does this mean you are a 'tom boy'?

you know, i'm not sure! even when i was little i liked playing dress-up, Barbies and wearing pretty dresses. at the same time, i liked hanging out with the boys in the neighborhood catching crayfish, riding bikes, and playing softball (even though most of them banned me because i was a girl). i guess i'm a mix

ETA: i'm on only child

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/12/2010 2:25:50 AM
Author: vip0802

Date: 1/12/2010 2:16:48 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
does this mean you are a ''tom boy''?

you know, i''m not sure! even when i was little i liked playing dress-up, Barbies and wearing pretty dresses. at the same time, i liked hanging out with the boys in the neighborhood catching crayfish, riding bikes, and playing softball (even though most of them banned me because i was a girl). i guess i''m a mix

ETA: i''m on only child

hmmm...here''s what i have notice,if a girl grew up in a family with all boys then she''ll end up being a tom boy and if a boy grew up with all girls in his family then he''ll end up being a sissy.

 

[stone-cold11]

I notice that there is a higher chance of girls being like you if she is the eldest or only child.

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

I am so not

I love looking cute and put together, I don't like sports, hate "roughing it", etc. I might even be on the border of "high-maintenance" because I don't deal well with bugs, outdoors, hostels, etc. Oddly enough, I can fool guys for a few minutes into thinking I'm a guy's girl as long as we're talking electronic gadgets and Family Guy

ETA: I'm an only child. And I get the gadgets love from my dad, and the love of all things feminine and girly from my mom. I have fun shopping with both of them though - it's just for totally different things, lol

 

[MishB]

Date: 1/12/2010 2:11:41 AM
Author:vip0802
BF said i was because i know how to change my own oil, change a flat, install a car stereo, loves electronics and gadgets (i probably know how to work and fix them better than BF or dad can), fixes stuff around the house, loves football and plays pool. yet at the same time, i can be such a ''girlie girl'' with clothes, makeup and other things deemed girlish.


he says it''s rare, but i think there''s a lot of females out there that do things that are stereotypically a guy thing. do any of you ladies see yourselves as a ''guy''s'' kind of gal?

I''m guessing you and your BF are in your 20''s? I think it''s interesting how young adults still believe so firmly in gender based stereotypes in 2010. We really haven''t come very far have we? Or have we just come full circle?

 

[AdiS]

Well, I guess I am in a way. I am certainly able to fix stuff, change light bulbs, paint the walls and poke some technical gadget until I find out what's wrong with it, but I prefer it when DH does that. Almost all my friends are guys and I watch football, drink beer and play Pro Evolution Soccer with them until the small hours sometimes. (I even played soccer for real as a goalkeeper with the boys from my neighbourhood when I was a kid). I curse like a sailor (not proud of it), hate shopping and don't mind bugs, reptiles and rodents that usually make my very few girlfriends wail and howl. (Except for big black spiders that is, I just hate the nasty buggers! lol)

On the other hand, I love being elegant and well accessorised. I love having my manicure and hair done, I wear only high heels, almost always have some make-up on and I adore jewelry. Plus, I can behave when needed.

It'd be fair to say that no one seeing me for the first time would ever guess that I'm a guy's kind of gal. But I am, more or less.

 

[zoebartlett]

I don''t know! I''m not in the sense that I''m not handy around the house (but neither is my husband). I have no idea how to any of the things you mentioned, Vip. I''m not a girlie girl either though -- I don''t wear makeup, I''m not really into the latest fashion, etc., I hardly ever wear skirts/dresses, and I''m not into purses or handbags.

 

[Burberrygirl]

Date: 1/12/2010 4:14:27 AM
Author: MishB

Date: 1/12/2010 2:11:41 AM
Author:vip0802
BF said i was because i know how to change my own oil, change a flat, install a car stereo, loves electronics and gadgets (i probably know how to work and fix them better than BF or dad can), fixes stuff around the house, loves football and plays pool. yet at the same time, i can be such a ''girlie girl'' with clothes, makeup and other things deemed girlish.


he says it''s rare, but i think there''s a lot of females out there that do things that are stereotypically a guy thing. do any of you ladies see yourselves as a ''guy''s'' kind of gal?

I''m guessing you and your BF are in your 20''s? I think it''s interesting how young adults still believe so firmly in gender based stereotypes in 2010. We really haven''t come very far have we? Or have we just come full circle?

MishB - I''m pretty young and try not to think in those terms either. I know a lot of people do and see nothing wrong with it--I guess my background has a lot to do with how I feel about myself and others. I really try never to play into stereotypes or feel a need to put people in a certain box because of a few of their characteristics. Idk, I''m not offended by this thread at all, I guess I just can''t really relate to it.

Vip - I don''t think others would think of me as a guy''s gal, I''m a very complex person and I like to/know how to do all sorts of things. I can put almost anything together, enjoy reading pretty much everything, and love photography--I don''t think any of those qualities should necessarily belong to one gender or the other.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I'm a good mix of guys girl and girly girl. I love pretty things, dressing up, makeup, shoes, home decor, the color pink, etc., but I'm also super handy, I've got a cutting sense of humor that can sometimes be pretty vulgar, I love getting dirty outside and I love to BBQ. Not so much into sports though....I can talk shop equally well with men and women.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 1/12/2010 4:14:27 AM
Author: MishB

Date: 1/12/2010 2:11:41 AM

Author:vip0802

BF said i was because i know how to change my own oil, change a flat, install a car stereo, loves electronics and gadgets (i probably know how to work and fix them better than BF or dad can), fixes stuff around the house, loves football and plays pool. yet at the same time, i can be such a ''girlie girl'' with clothes, makeup and other things deemed girlish.

he says it''s rare, but i think there''s a lot of females out there that do things that are stereotypically a guy thing. do any of you ladies see yourselves as a ''guy''s'' kind of gal?

I''m guessing you and your BF are in your 20''s? I think it''s interesting how young adults still believe so firmly in gender based stereotypes in 2010. We really haven''t come very far have we? Or have we just come full circle?

Really? I think your statement is a little off the mark. Age has nothing to do with it, DH and I are 30-somethings and still joke about this stuff.

 

[makemepretty]

Definitely not. I don''t do sports or love typical "guy" things. Don''t get me wrong, I can take care of myself-I can shovel our very large driveway(takes me an hour), mud & tape drywall, fix small things around the house but I''m in no way someone who could hang with the fella''s. I''m more of a quiet book worm type. Plus, with my small size most guys don''t see me as capable of doing guy jobs, I''m 5ft tall.

 

[Maisie]

Date: 1/12/2010 7:23:44 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
I''m a good mix of guys girl and girly girl. I love pretty things, dressing up, makeup, shoes, home decor, the color pink, etc., but I''m also super handy, I''ve got a cutting sense of humor that can sometimes be pretty vulgar, I love getting dirty outside and I love to BBQ. Not so much into sports though....I can talk shop equally well with men and women.

This pretty much sums me up too.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I think that as I get older I''m trying to be a bit more girlie, but overall I''m not a girlie girl at all. I do like diamonds...and I like getting my hair done, but I hate shopping, pedicures, etc.

I can change my own oil, fix a flat, am somewhat handy around the house (though I''d love to be more handy). I love huge dogs, rock climbing, hiking (or anything outdoors). I much prefer a tent over a hotel, I like sports, am a better golfer than most guys I know and don''t see the appeal of having a mud bath at a spa when you can just go out and play in real mud.
Sometimes I wish I were less of a guy''s girl than I am, but oh well!

 

[JSM]

I''m also a mix of both. I like diamonds and getting my hair done, but most days I wear jeans and casual clothes. I fish for large game, play ball with the boys, and LOVE sports (heck, I went to a ball game on my wedding day). But I also like domesticity and figure skate, which is pretty darn girly with the dresses and the makeup!

I don''t think ''girls'' roles'' or ''boys'' roles'' are really limiting for girls nowadays. We are lucky in that we can participate in whatever we like, and I find I am appreciated for who I am.

DH''s father''s wife, when she first met me, thought I was only pretending to like sports to get a man. LOL!

 

[AprilBaby]

I think I am male inside.

 

[monarch64]

I don''t really think about activities in terms of gender. Then again, I took shop class instead of home ec one year in junior high. I can do anything I put my mind to or feel like learning. When I was little I would NOT bait my own hook, though. I still won''t do it with live bait! Pink plastic jigs for my pink fishing pole, that''s all I am willing to do.

 

[somethingshiny]

I''m a good mix too. I was an extreme tom boy when I was a kid and only became lady-like around my sr yr of high school.

I can do many car repairs and tons of household repairs. I love doing remodeling stuff where I get to really demo something. My dad taught me to run heavy equipment, tractors, etc. Although I''m not big into sports, I can tell you which team to bet on based on the spread. If I am playing ball, I''m going to employ a tackle (even if it''s not football) I can push game although I really don''t want to take the shot myself. I can dismantle many guns and put them back together quickly. I love to fish but hate to camp (I''m not broke, I don''t need to sleep outside or pee outside). I don''t mind bugs and like snakes. (spiders give me the willies!) I love to go four-wheeling and roll around in the mud. I can read a map and get anywhere I could want to go. I wear jeans most of the time. And I can drink like a fish without getting stupid.

I love handbags and lipstick. My hair and makeup are usually done and I love pink. I wear heeled shoes most of the time, even running to the grocery store, and only wear tennis shoes for working out. My toes are always painted. I like to cook and bake. I''ve recently learned how to sew. I love to entertain and make frilly drinks. I''m not a fan of lots of cussing or violence.

I do have a hard time with girlfriends. I don''t have many because some of my tom boy qualities are off-putting. Guys try to befriend me immediately. All of DH''s friends liked me right away.

 

[nytemist]

Yep, that''s me. I am the son that my dad didn''t have. (three girls)

He taught me how to work on a car, gardening, woodworking, fishing, putting in a window, installing a ceiling fan, wire a light switch, light repairs around the house, all that good stuff. I was his shadow so I everything he knew, I learned. I don''t do mani/pedi''s and I''m not into obeying what the magazines are telling women to wear season to season.

In my neighborhood, I always played with the boys; what they did was more interesting. Riding Big Wheels down the hill, playing with matchbox cars and army men, skateboarding, biking around, playing street hockey. It has continued to now, where I love football, can master the grill and go to strip clubs with my husband and my other guys friends. The core group of guy buddies I had way back as a young kid in the sandbox are still friends now. I''ve always gotten along way better with men than women and it''s totally because of how I grew up.

Starting in my late 20s, I put effort into being more girly. I try better with coordinating make up, I actually own a few pairs of high heels. I didn''t get into wearing a lot of dresses until my 20s. I have tons of skirts since they go well with corsets. I still do hate carrying a purse. I wear jeans alot and if it can''t fit into my pockets, I don''t bring it with me.

 

[Erin]

As the oldest child of three I was more help to my Dad doing the big projects like Nytemist than helping my Mom around the house, although I did. I always blame this on my lack of cooking knowledge. I can follow a recipe, but cannot look around an empty cupboard and put together something edible.

Also, having lived alone my adult life, at 34 years old I am solely responsible for changing the filters, shooing the spiders, unclogging the drains, heavy lifting, changing the mailbox, mitering the baseboards, vacuuming the dog hair behind the appliances, hooking up the TV, stereo and computer, mowing the yard, building the firepit...

To me it's not gender based, it's about what you're willing to learn to do.

 

[elrohwen]

Well, I don't know how to fix a car ... and I'm not the most handy person around the house. But in general, yes, I do fit in with the guys. I've had many more guy friends than girls and I tend to fit right in with a group of guys. In my case, it's more about thinking in a similar way than it is common interests (I'm also not particularly into sports). It's probably that I like to hang out and have a laid back time while drinking some beer - the girls I know often go out to bars, have some cocktails, etc and that's not really my scene. I'm also not high maintenance and am not into girly stuff.

 

[Bia]

Date: 1/12/2010 3:46:01 AM
Author: Stone-cold11
I notice that there is a higher chance of girls being like you if she is the eldest or only child.

hmmm maybe there is something to that.

I''m the oldest and I''m somewhat tomboyish.

 

[Shoopy]

No I''m not. But I don''t consider myself girlie either.

I know how to do general emergency car stuff because FI taught me. I was once stuck in a part of Miami that wasn''t too safe, in the middle of the night (around 11:45pm) with a flat tire. He lived an hour away from me and drove to my part of town just to fix the tire (and then drove home). He taught me how to change it after that because he said he didn''t want me stuck in that situation again.

I also know how to fix small things around the house because I have to. I don''t go around changing the architecture of our home (lol) but if something falls or break, I can fix it as long as I have instructions.

I don''t do sports.

 

[CurlySue]

Yes, but mainly b/c I am a big sports fan and love beer. I am definitely not handy around the house nor with my car. Also, most of my professional life has been in male-dominated industries... I worked in college sports for awhile, got my MBA (class was 80% male), and now I work in manufacturing. So I''m just used to being around guys most of the time.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 1/12/2010 8:21:27 AM
Author: Maisie

Date: 1/12/2010 7:23:44 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
I'm a good mix of guys girl and girly girl. I love pretty things, dressing up, makeup, shoes, home decor, the color pink, etc., but I'm also super handy, I've got a cutting sense of humor that can sometimes be pretty vulgar, I love getting dirty outside and I love to BBQ. Not so much into sports though....I can talk shop equally well with men and women.

This pretty much sums me up too.

Ditto!... except I like sports.

ETA: I a younger-middle child, surrounded by only boys.

 

[Haven]

I was usually one of the boys growing up, but not for any of the reasons you mentioned, vip.

I'm athletic, outdoorsy, and back in HS when girls seemed to create a lot of drama, I avoided it. I also love horror films and used to love raunchy humor like Howard Stern and Jackass. For those reasons, I got along really well with the boys. I also won a burping contest or two back in the day. I definitely had a group of guy friends who thought of me as just another boy.

However, I've always also loved fashion, makeup and nail polish, and a lot of "girlie girl" things, too.

Now that I'm older and married I never think about how I was a "guy's kind of gal" back in the day. I think those lines mellow out as we get older and people aren't as likely to hang out with a pack of friends all the time.

I'm the oldest of four girls.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Nope, I''m not a "guys''" kind of gal, at all. I love girly stuff like makeup and clothes, and have an actual phobia of grease. I don''t care if my kids wash their hands before eating greasy food, but they have to wash after or I freak out!

The only thing I do which isn''t all that femine is swear. Of course, I try not to around my kids. . .recently I almost said one bad word around my son''s friend, but caught myself.

 

[upgrade]

I''m girly, but not princessy, if that makes sense. I can do some ''guy'' stuff, and I''m certainly willing to learn to do more and I don''t mind getting dirty at all, but I love my diamonds and shoes and dresses too...