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[D&T]

I''m not asking for myself. I have an -in- law family member that has been married a very short time. Young to begin with who married a very young girl himself I think she is 19 or 20. Well honeymoon period is over and, well apparently what I"ve heard was that she''s just not into it anymore

she packed up all of her stuff and moved her things out of my BIL''s place out of the blues. He came home one day and all of her stuff is literally gone. I know it differs for different states, but she says she wants an annulment? They have very little assets together, as they were just starting out, in an apt, he co-signed for her car (not paid off) I don''t think she (ok. lets name her Joan) understand the whole process. She''s very young and naive. From what my understanding she has made some very inappropriate comment that made all the family members (BIL''s side) very uncomfortable being around her, always putting him down and don''t know why she married him, and why he didn''t take her on a honeymoon to EUROPE?

. So i''m usually not one to advocate divorce/annulments, but I feel really awful for my BIL, he''s very young and super kind just a little slow on the educational/career path as I think that is one of her beef with him? I don''t even know what the process is for an annulment? if you have done it can you share your process? TIA

 

[Dreamer_D]

I suspect for an annulment you have to prove something like fraud or you were out of your mind when you married

For all the other people who separate very earliy in their marriages -- with is 7% of marriages ending in the first year -- I think plain ol'' divorce is what you do!

 

[D&T]

thanks DD- your right on the divorce thing, I think that in the state that BIL lives in, apparently is harder to get annulment than plain old divorce due to complexity in proving that "joan" was insane or even fraud had occurred. I don''t think she knows how complex and a process this will be and how expensive it is either.

 

[luckystar112]

Hmmm I''d look into it if I were you.

My cousin got divorced six months after she got married. She said that she paid a total of $37 and that it took about four months.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I would suggest hiring a divorce atty. Even though they don''t have much...like with most things in life...it should be done right. Considering there is a car involved, I would hate to see him get screwed over twice. Make sure he gets his due. Cover his assests. The whole 9 yards.

 

[D&T]

Date: 7/9/2009 8:19:18 PM
Author: luckystar112
Hmmm I''d look into it if I were you.

My cousin got divorced six months after she got married. She said that she paid a total of $37 and that it took about four months.

did they do it themselves online form?

 

[D&T]

Date: 7/9/2009 8:31:51 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor
I would suggest hiring a divorce atty. Even though they don''t have much...like with most things in life...it should be done right. Considering there is a car involved, I would hate to see him get screwed over twice. Make sure he gets his due. Cover his assests. The whole 9 yards.

For him, I think it might best as he''s not much into doing paperwork himself and not sure of all the legality that comes with marriage.

 

[DivaDiamond007]

I think your BIL needs a divorce attorney. Laws differ by state but he could seek a dissolution if it''s uncontested. An annullment is not usually a legal procedure, but rather a religious one, and they are difficult to obtain as you have to be able to prove that the marriage was basically a sham and never existed to begin with. Sounds like a strange situation.

DISCLAIMER - I AM NOT AN ATTORNEY

 

[DivaDiamond007]

Date: 7/9/2009 8:32:44 PM
Author: D&T

Date: 7/9/2009 8:19:18 PM
Author: luckystar112
Hmmm I''d look into it if I were you.

My cousin got divorced six months after she got married. She said that she paid a total of $37 and that it took about four months.

did they do it themselves online form?

Please do NOT let your BIL do this! Where I live the Domestic Relations court will not accept online forms period. You MUST use the forms provided by the court or hire an attorney.

 

[D&T]

Date: 7/9/2009 9:25:33 PM
Author: DivaDiamond007
I think your BIL needs a divorce attorney. Laws differ by state but he could seek a dissolution if it''s uncontested. An annullment is not usually a legal procedure, but rather a religious one, and they are difficult to obtain as you have to be able to prove that the marriage was basically a sham and never existed to begin with. Sounds like a strange situation.

DISCLAIMER - I AM NOT AN ATTORNEY

Thanks - I''ll just tell him to find an attorney, and the Divorce route procedure is what will probably occur, despite what "joan" thinks will happen and her wanting an anullment.

 

[luckystar112]

No, it wasn''t an online form. It''s the form the court(?) gave her to file. I say court, but I have no idea where she went, city hall? I''ve never been divorced so I have no idea where you go. The $37 fee was to process the form. They did have assets together (two kids, a house, car, credit cards, etc) but both of them just wanted an even split and handled that part themselves. She said the hardest part was just waiting for it to be over.

I do know a girl who got divorced online and I remember her saying it was a couple grand, but it sounds like it''s good to avoid that route!

 

[D&T]

Date: 7/9/2009 11:54:30 PM
Author: luckystar112
No, it wasn''t an online form. It''s the form the court(?) gave her to file. I say court, but I have no idea where she went, city hall? I''ve never been divorced so I have no idea where you go. The $37 fee was to process the form. They did have assets together (two kids, a house, car, credit cards, etc) but both of them just wanted an even split and handled that part themselves. She said the hardest part was just waiting for it to be over.

I do know a girl who got divorced online and I remember her saying it was a couple grand, but it sounds like it''s good to avoid that route!

thanks lucky for the clarification, I''m hoping that it will be easy for them and civil. I appreciate your input.

 

[Bia]

As you said, your state won''t make an annulment easy, but it might be worth looking into. In NY they will give you an annulment if you are underage, incapable to consent, experience mental illness, forced by physical or mental harm, or unable to have sexual relations.

I know someone who had hers annulled after 3 months. They got married by the JOP on a whim, and found out shortly after they were not compatible. The reason they gave was inability to have sexual relations. It wasn''t true, but it worked.

Sorry your BIL is going through this. I hope it works itself out quickly.

 

[D&T]

Date: 7/10/2009 9:58:28 AM
Author: Bia
As you said, your state won''t make an annulment easy, but it might be worth looking into. In NY they will give you an annulment if you are underage, incapable to consent, experience mental illness, forced by physical or mental harm, or unable to have sexual relations.

I know someone who had hers annulled after 3 months. They got married by the JOP on a whim, and found out shortly after they were not compatible. The reason they gave was inability to have sexual relations. It wasn''t true, but it worked.

Sorry your BIL is going through this. I hope it works itself out quickly.

do you have to prove that?

 

[InLuv101]

Date: 7/10/2009 10:49:55 AM
Author: D&T

Date: 7/10/2009 9:58:28 AM

Author: Bia

As you said, your state won''t make an annulment easy, but it might be worth looking into. In NY they will give you an annulment if you are underage, incapable to consent, experience mental illness, forced by physical or mental harm, or unable to have sexual relations.


I know someone who had hers annulled after 3 months. They got married by the JOP on a whim, and found out shortly after they were not compatible. The reason they gave was inability to have sexual relations. It wasn''t true, but it worked.


Sorry your BIL is going through this. I hope it works itself out quickly.

do you have to prove that?

I know in Texas you don''t. Both parties just have to agree that that is the reason for the dissolution of the marriage.

 

[D&T]

Date: 7/10/2009 12:41:54 PM
Author: InLuv101

Date: 7/10/2009 10:49:55 AM
Author: D&T

Date: 7/10/2009 9:58:28 AM

Author: Bia

As you said, your state won''t make an annulment easy, but it might be worth looking into. In NY they will give you an annulment if you are underage, incapable to consent, experience mental illness, forced by physical or mental harm, or unable to have sexual relations.


I know someone who had hers annulled after 3 months. They got married by the JOP on a whim, and found out shortly after they were not compatible. The reason they gave was inability to have sexual relations. It wasn''t true, but it worked.


Sorry your BIL is going through this. I hope it works itself out quickly.

do you have to prove that?

I know in Texas you don''t. Both parties just have to agree that that is the reason for the dissolution of the marriage.

hmm, i''ll have to have BIL look into. seems pretty easy. Thanks for sharing