Any women on PS buy their boyfriend an engagement ring?

[lulu]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2068182/If-like-ring-Introducing-mangagement-rings--engagement-bands-MEN.html

 

[Imdanny]

I want to like the way that ring looks on that guy's hand in the first picture but I don't.

 

[Pandora II]

Some of my gay male friends have them, but I don't know any hetero men with one.

A guy I worked with had a beautiful 6mm pave band which his husband had made for him. He also changed his surname to that of his husband after their marriage - the email round telling us his new work email address was super-cute.

 

[LJL]

We're not engaged yet but I know my SO would never wear one. I'm not sure how much of a fan he's even going to be of a wedding band as he wears no jewelry, not even a watch.

 

[Dancing Fire]

We're not engaged yet but I know my SO would never wear one. I'm not sure how much of a fan he's even going to be of a wedding band as he wears no jewelry, not even a watch.

if he turn it down please send it to me...

 

[violet3]

I'm thinking my husband would NOT like this trend, as he once argued he might not even wear a wedding band. A good friend told me to tell him he could either wear it on his finger or through his nose.

 

[natascha]

My fiance is a Swede, I am half and we live in Sweden so it was pretty much taken for granted that he would also have an engagement ring. In fact the reaction we usually get is, oh why don't you have matching e-rings.


So while the norm is matching gold bands,the Swedish version of the girl getting a diamond solitare It is actually very heartwarming when you are meeting people and some of them are engaged. Then you can see who is part of which couple by matching their bands.

We have very different ideas of what we want in our engagement ring. Before getting engaged we wore promise rings for over three years. First we had matchy matchy bands, where we compromised and picked 4mm. That was way to big for me and looked a bit ridiculous on my fiance. Then we got titanium bands in a matching style but different widths, mine is 2mm and his is 8mm.

Now that we are actually engaged we decided that each person picks out exactly what they want (however the other has veto, I liked a huge antique cluster which got a no and I was not a real fan of a black band with red Celtic runes and black diamonds for him ). So now my wonderful SO wears a tungsten 8mm beveled band that has three 7 pointer diamonds and is a mix of high polish and satin finish.

 

[Imdanny]

We have to keep these things in historical perspective. Men didn't wear wristwatches until WWI. The practicality of wearing them won out over the negative feeling based on gender saying they couldn't. Men didn't wear wedding bands until WWII. I'm still trying to find out why that is. I don't think there is any reason it couldn't become a tradition for men to wear engagement rings. But I will say that where I live (Hawaii, US) men don't wear them and I don't see this changing. It could happen but there is nothing leading me to think it will. Engagement rings on their modern form have existed since the late 19th century. I don't know but maybe this is why I can't picture men wearing the same type. Having said all that my motto is do what you want. If I wanted to do this I would.

 

[Scorpioanne]

I didn't buy DH a ring but I bought him a watch.

 

[MissStepcut]

That article claims 1 in 10 women propose? That sounds... high.

 

[Rhea]

Yes, I did. He picked it. It's a nice titanium and silver ring that's 8mm wide that he wore on his right hand through out our engagement. I also wore my engagement ring on my right hand. He no longer wears his engagement ring, it's sitting in my jewellery box, he likes his steel and silver wedding band better.

 

[CharmyPoo]

I gave him one. He wore it for a few days ...

 

[manderz]

I gave him a plain titanium band when I proposed, but he didn't wear it for long, as he HATES jewelry, especially on himself, and it was too big anyway. It ended up going back.

 

[jewelerman]

i would look forward to wearing one if i were in a long term relationship again...but she had better be ready to give as good as she gets! when i was betrothed before the ring was a vintage 1920s Cartier platinum ring with a carat and half cabochon cut bright blue sapphire center with half carat diamonds on each side!I WISH I WOULD HAVE KEPT THAT RING! She wore a round brilliant cut 1.02 carat diamond with sapphires on the sides. I guess we should have gotten married just to keep the jewelry!

 

[Circe]

That article claims 1 in 10 women propose? That sounds... high.

I proposed, and gave him a ring ... which makes us 2 out of ten in this thread.

Of course, my husband is also Swedish, so matching bands are a part of his tradition, as per Danny's post.

P.S. - Danny, I think it was heavily promoted by advertisers during WWII as a kind of bookend to engagement rings for ladies, curiously enough - so you'd have something to remind you of your love while you were apart. If we're ante'ing up with men's engagement rings, I wonder if there's going to be a raise in terms of ladies jewelry, too ....

 

[Imdanny]

Jewelerman, I'd like to see the Cartier ring you had. Sounds beautiful! I'm getting a Cartier wedding band. In Jan our state's new civil union law goes into effect. Maybe it's a civil union ring. Or a separate but equal ring. I jest.

Circe, you meant per Natasha's post and thanks for the history!

Of course it is true there are different jewelry traditions in different places. I believe in India eg grooms' parents give jewels and so on. Don't quote me on that- my knowledge of jewelry customs in India is very vague.

I took only one cultural anthropology class but the guy who taught it a PhD in cultural anthropology was my thesis sponsor. I am not judgmental about these things.

"OMG, he has a tatoo! OMG! He has holes in his ears! The world is coming to an end!"

So I think it's fascinating how these customs differ, and how they change.

 

[Rhea]

That article claims 1 in 10 women propose? That sounds... high.

I proposed, and gave him a ring ... which makes us 2 out of ten in this thread.

Higher than that for this thread! I proposed with a ring first. That sounds childish, I did it first. We both proposed with rings, I was just the first to ask, he asked later that same night.

I think that makes 4 of us on this thread with engagement ring wearing guys!

 

[Alistra]

I proposed to my husband, and gave him a simple white gold band. He had asked me for an engagement ring for his birthday, and I was happy to oblige! This was in the spring of 2000, and we have been happily married since we tied the knot that summer

 

[Alistra]

That article claims 1 in 10 women propose? That sounds... high.

I proposed, and gave him a ring ... which makes us 2 out of ten in this thread.

Higher than that for this thread! I proposed with a ring first. That sounds childish, I did it first. We both proposed with rings, I was just the first to ask, he asked later that same night.

I think that makes 4 of us on this thread with engagement ring wearing guys!

Now it's 5 of us!

 

[Amys Bling]

nope- no ERing- but I did get him a nice watch right after he proposed as an engagement gift. so it was an EWatch

 

[chloeishere]

I offered to get him one, and he said no. He's not sure he will be able to stand wearing a wedding ring, he doesn't like jewelry (I will find something that he can wear, though).

The diamond ring in the picture looked rather feminine, but I think I could get used to seeing men wearing those. There's nothing innately unattractive about a man wearing an engagement ring!

 

[jewelerman]

Jewelerman, I'd like to see the Cartier ring you had. Sounds beautiful! I'm getting a Cartier wedding band. In Jan our state's new civil union law goes into effect. Maybe it's a civil union ring. Or a separate but equal ring. I jest.

Circe, you meant per Natasha's post and thanks for the history!

Of course it is true there are different jewelry traditions in different places. I believe in India eg grooms' parents give jewels and so on. Don't quote me on that- my knowledge of jewelry customs in India is very vague.

I took only one cultural anthropology class but the guy who taught it a PhD in cultural anthropology was my thesis sponsor. I am not judgmental about these things.

"OMG, he has a tatoo! OMG! He has holes in his ears! The world is coming to an end!"

So I think it's fascinating how these customs differ, and how they change.

I really do wish that i would have kept that ring.After we knew that the wedding would not happen all the wedding jewelry was returned or taken apart and made into other jewelry.since i managed the store the rings came from it was easy to put the $9000 Cartier gents ring back into inventory and it sold at an estate jewelry sale soon after that. I would easily choose a Cartier trinity ring as a wedding ring or even a right hand ring(i wear a 14 gram, 18karat, American made trinity style ring on my right hand occasionally.) so i am looking forward to seeing yours!

 

[Laila619]

No--my husband probably would have found it odd.