Wedding any tips for long distance engagement?

[noelwr]

we got engaged in Feb and will marry in Sep next year. my boss asked me to consider to work out of our Singapore office for 9 months starting next month so I can be part of a project. being part of this project is definitely the right career move for me and FI agrees and supports my being away from home for so long because it''s an investment for our future... but I can''t stop thinking about how lonely he will be!!!

and I am the one doing that to him!

it isn''t firm yet that I will go and I did let my boss know that I would only accept under certain conditions (that I can come back for vacations already planned in October as well as Christmas and that I can take 2 weeks off early next year to go plan the wedding). I probably put forward so many demands that he''s not going to ask me to go anymore, but...

has anyone else had or is having a long distance engagement and how are you making it less "miserable" for your FI or s/he for you?

 

[galeteia]

Ouch. I feel for you.

We talked every day via computer or phone when we were apart, as well as random brief emails sent during work hours so we could have the occasional sweet surprise note during the day.

We''d sometimes exchange pictures of what we''d cooked for diner, and he''d tell me about his recipe hunts as he searched for dishes that suited my dietary needs. We''d discuss news and have long conversations about science, because we''re nerdy that way.

I''d talk about him with people that knew him, like my mother and the friends he''d met, and never took my ring off unless I was handling chemicals or raw meat. When I woke up in the morning, the first thing I would do is look at my ring and just think of him for a moment and remember the ring meant I''d be waking up next to him in the future.

Not sure if that helps, but that''s what we did.

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Well although 9 months will pass by slowly, it is a relatively short time in the grand scheme of things. If this career moves can really help out your future and is in line with your life goals, I say go for it. People do ld relationships all the time, and 9 months is not very long. I might have to do the same thing when I need to go away for internship for 12 months in a few years...

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Oh and it''s better to do it now before there are kids in the picture! Then you really won''t be able to go!

 

[redfaerythinker]

I''ve been in a long distance relationship for two years. We just got engaged a couple months ago. The only advice I can give you is just to take it one day at a time. Don''t look at the nine months looming ahead. Try to talk on the phone lots, Skype is nice as well. Just go in with the mindset that you CAN do it, and it will not kill either one of you. I''ve actually found that it''s made my FI and I stronger over the years. Good luck and keep your chin up! It will be over before you know it!