Another upgrade question

[radiantquest]

Upgrading happens all the time here and I too like to daydream about what my upgrade will be. I have noticed that many of us utilize trade up policies. Where my ring came from has a trade up policy, but the more I think about it I do not want to ever give up the original. I mean it has so much meaning to me. I have read and it seems that some reset the original diamond into something else, or some other change. I would want it left completely intact just as it was in the beginning.

I, of course want a devastatingly gorgeous upgrade one day, but do not think I could part with the original. Of the people that used the trade up policy, are any of you sorry that you do not still have the ering that was first given to you?

Is it too much to ask to keep what I have and then ask for another, bigger, more expensive ering too?

 

[yssie]

Honestly... yes and no?



My very first ring was actually rather poorly made - assymetric, poorly made prongs, far too big, and it was actually more cost-effective to just start over elsewhere. We went with WF for the ring I consider my "first Ering", and I loved it, but it wasn't my dream ring. Since we were lucky enough to be in the financial position to get said dream ring, and FI was completely for it, we did so with the trade-up policy - and I couldn't regret it if I tried, I love it too much!



I am very glad that we were able to do this before the wedding, though, so I will be married with both my "forever" rings - there's that sentimentality coming out!



If it's something you think you might really regret - I'd keep the original and plan for a honker down the line. You don't want to have regrets when you look at your engagement ring, KWIM? It's such a personal choice..

 

[Circe]

I''m with you, RadiantQuest, but I think there may be an alternative perspective: "upgraded e-ring" or "anniversary ring?"

I love my engagement ring - what it symbolizes, how we got it, how it looks, what it''s been through with me/us in the last (almost) 3 years, what it will be through with us over the course of our marriage. Does that mean I don''t want a bigger diamond someday? Hell no! It just means that I am really looking forward to that 10 or 20 or 30 year anniversary. And whatever I receive then won''t be an upgrade but an addition ... it''ll be an marker and a celebration of what we''ve had together, as well as a sign of things yet to come.

I think it''s great and practical and cost-effective and also romantic that people do upgrade (I''m sure those upgrades symbolize everything I''ve just said to the people who get them)... but it''s an approach that''s 90 degrees off from where I am, if that makes sense. No judgment! Just attempting to articulate where I''m coming from.

 

[gardengloves]

We kept the original, but did an anniversary upgrade to celebrate where we are now. DH and I both very happy about the results.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I wouldn''t upgrade unless I could keep my original diamond. I''m not sure if I''d want to keep it in the original setting, but if I didn''t, it would be put into a pendant. I''m going to trade up my current pendant and am still deciding if that diamond will be made into a large pendant, if it''ll be my "new" eng. ring and my current diamond will be set into a pendant, or if I''ll have two eng. rings. It''d be nice to have enough funds to have two and also a new pendant. . .

 

[marcy]

It sounds like you have a great sentmental attachment to it so I would keep it. I have a gemstone now mounted in my original ering and put the diamond (.15 ct) in a heart pendant. I couldn''t bear to part with it or not wear it sometimes. My upgrade has no sentimental value to me so I''d have no problems trading it in.

 

[Amber St. Clare]

My husband picked out the stone and the setting. o tell the truth, I''m not too fond of it and raraey wear it.

We didn''t want to saddle our son with school loan payments, and he went to private schools since pre-K so we focused our money on his education.

Plus- I became sick and had sporadic income to help out.

However, grad school is finished and I finally got my new ring--a ruby and diamond three stone set in platinum. I still have my original e-ring, I never told him I really don''t care for it.