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This was supposed to be the original post to the Am I unlikeable thread but after I posted it I changed it because I felt that I wrote it when I was upset but ithe issue is still coming up, so here goes...




It seems that almost every post that I start, people respond to them upset. I am not posting anything to make anybody angry at me or to offend anybody. Nor am I posting anything just to defend myself which I feel is happening often. Why can''t I be here to enjoy time with fellow PSers and to converse about things that I can''t with "normal" people?

Truthfully, do most of my threads offend people? Because I seem to get a lot of complaints, a lot of lectures, a lot of reprimanding, and a lot of "what you did was wrong." I don''t want to be here to make enemies. I joined because when I was a lurker, people seemed so nice and supportive. It seems that everyone is still nice and supportive when I read other threads. But when it comes to mine, all I seem to do is offend people. I just wanted to be able to talk about my ring obsession without the blank stare I usually get from non-PSers.

I love PS and how we can all come here and talk about how much we love our jewelry. But I don''t want to be constantly explaining myself, which I feel like I shouldn''t have to do.

I know that its not going to matter or make a difference to anyone whether or not I stay, but I would like to. And I would like to feel welcome and would like to feel that its ok for me to talk about things and ask questions.


Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but when an adult lectures another adult, it could make someone feel belittled. I post on here because I value everyone''s opinion and want to hear what everyone has to say. And, maybe I am being sensitive, but I would like it please, if you could cut me some slack.


I am very excited that in two weeks I will be receiving my ring and was hoping everyone could be a part of my experience.

I know that everyone is not out to get me nor do I think that everyone is ganging up one me. I''m sure no one really actually cares about my threads and once they post its over, but its not over for me. If this was just one or two people, I wouldn''t mind or care, but its many people and maybe thats proof that the problem is me...

I don''t want this thread to deter anyone from posting their real feelings on any of my future posts because they think I will "whine" again. I''m just asking for the lecturing and accusing to stop. I try to live my life morally and try very hard to respect and please people.

I try very hard to make people like me because people always get the wrong impression. I believe first impressions are very important but people say I look very mean and so I try sooo hard to prove that I am not. In public, people go out of their way NOT to talk to me. So maybe this subject is more important to me than other people would think. I have a friend that has a very kind face and so people are always asking her directions and the time and how she is doing and she says it gets very annoying. But for me, I think that would be so great, instead of people going out of their way to not talk to me. So, I may be posting this because this is a sensitive subject to me, when others haven''t though twice about it...

So, when it boils down to it, I don''t want people to dislike me. I would like to come back and post pictures of my ring and hope that everyone will be excited with me , because without PS, no one really cares...

And if I offended anybody in any way, I apologize. It was never my intention.

Thank you to everyone that reads this and thank you to everyone that responds with their true feelings about me. If I am making anyone upset, I would like to fix it.
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Fitting in while being yourself is a balancing act that you get better at with time.

Just keep at it.
 
I don''t think anyone here is intending to offend you with any replies to your threads, but no one here gets mollycoddled, either. I have had a new one ripped for me several times, and it was never out of spite - rather, they are trying to explain their view in opposition to mine. And after I took a moment to browse through your previous threads/posts, I don''t see anyone saying anything hurtful to you at all.

Honestly, asking us all to watch our words when we respond to your threads won''t help. All it will do is keep people from responding to you at all.
 
I think when you join public forums like these, you have to sort of develop a thicker skin (which I don't really have much of, I'll admit) because people are anonymous and therefore more likely to post whatever comes to mind rather that having as much of a filter as in real life. On threads that are to show off your jewelry, I think you will find that everyone is nice and supportive. However, if you start a thread asking for advice or venting about something, there is likely going to be someone (or a few people) that disagree with how you feel and will share it. Anyway, just be yourself and know that most people here mean well even if they disagree with you sometimes
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Every forum has a personality that is not quickly learned.
There are unwritten rules you have to figure out.

I adjust myself, sometimes a little and sometimes a lot, to each forum I frequent.
Each one is not exactly the way I think it should be, but I'm a guest so I adjust.

You have to decide if the good in a forum is worth the work.
 
I wouldn''t worry too much about it. I''ve certainly been lectured here before too, mostly over differences of opinion, occasionally over misunderstandings. And I''m ok with that, people will always have different opinions, and it''s not my job or goal to a) agree with everyone or b)try to make everyone agree with me or c)make people like me. I''m here because I love jewelry, and like to gab about it!

If the comments are upsetting you, then perhaps it would be wise not to post things about decisions that might seem controversial or personal. I''ve personally never found any of your posts offensive or negative in any way, but anonymous forums are what they are, a place for people to say what''s on their mind no matter what that might be.

I don''t think anybody would post negatively were you to share photos of your ring, I don''t think any of us find anything objectionable about photos of beautiful rings!! So do post a thread in SMTR when you get your gorgeous tacori!
 
Date: 12/27/2009 9:52:39 PM
Author: MonkeyPie
I don''t think anyone here is intending to offend you with any replies to your threads, but no one here gets mollycoddled, either. I have had a new one ripped for me several times, and it was never out of spite - rather, they are trying to explain their view in opposition to mine. And after I took a moment to browse through your previous threads/posts, I don''t see anyone saying anything hurtful to you at all.

Honestly, asking us all to watch our words when we respond to your threads won''t help. All it will do is keep people from responding to you at all.
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I''m sure its not going to help to ask people to watch their words. Thats why I also said that I''m not trying to deter anyone from responding to me with their true feelings.

I dont think that people are responding to me out of spite either. I know its their opinions and they are entitled to it. My feelings might come from me being new to a forum. Any kind of forum, and people are probably more vocal about their opinions because they are anonymous?
 
I''m going to ditto MP.

Is this your first forum YT?
 
I guess I''ve never noticed a problem with your posts, so I would say just shrug it off. It''s hard to be the new kid on the playground, I know, so just keep at it!
 
I don''t think people are out to get you. I think you''re brand new and you''ve started tons of threads recently, several of which have been semi-controversial/stand out.

1. You posted about a ring you found, didn''t turn into the police or take an ad out for, and then got offended when people suggested you didn''t try hard enough. Oh and then it magically found its way to the rightful owner. Just a little strange.

2. And the recent thread about telling your friends about your ring being Tacori-most people here aren''t impressed by known brand names-they''re impressed by diamond performance and overall value. That''s why we took to the internet instead of running into Tiffany and buying whatever we could afford. And interestingly enough, it seems that most PSers aren''t braggy at ALL in real life, so a post asking how to brag about your celebrity designer ring isn''t going to go over well.

Plus the editing of posts isn''t really looked upon kindly here in my experience.

On the flip side, almost everyone agreed with you on your vent thread about people being rude to you when you were waiting tables. So obviously we''re not out to get you!

I think as a new member on PS (and probably on any forum), your best bet to fit in is to hang around and get a feel for the personality of the board before you start posting tons of threads. That way you get a better idea of what''s "appropriate" in the world of PS. That''s what I do in any new situation, whether it''s work or social. You wouldn''t let loose the first minute you meet someone or start a new job, and it''s the same thing on a forum.
 
i understand thate everyone is has different morals, different backgrounds, different traditions, different everything and so of course people are going to be having different outlooks.

I''m sure that I am being too sensitive and like steph said, I do need to grow a thicker skin. My family has always told me that I am too sensitive
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And what Kenny says totally makes sense. He has been here since 2005 and I am a total newbie (this is my first forum EVER) and I''m sure there are unwritten rules that I have yet to learn.

I was just afraid if I offended anyone and wanted to apologize.

I know that the SMTR forum is there so that everyone can congragulate u and say nice things and the hangout area is more for opinions shared...

I know I just need to buck up and be strong but easier said that done u know?

Its something that I know that I have needed to work on. Growing a thicker skin and not being so sensitive...

I just hope that this thread doesn''t make it so that people think that they can''t talk to me.
 
I have to tell you that people with thin skin are better suited to lurking and the occasional posting rather than jumping in and posting a ton before they learn the unwritten rules. There are lots of very open honest people around PS and they aren't going to walk on eggshells around sensitive people. It has been my experience that sensitive people either grow thicker skin and flourish or they leave PS because they can't handle it.

But often people feel like they are being singled out when they really aren't.

It's funny but not long ago I was told here on the boards that people were agreeing with me just because I had been around for a long time. That made me laugh.

A forum takes all types of people to make it interesting. Its up to those individuals as to the experience they will have.

It is what you make it.
 
Okay, I''m going to be totally honest because I think you want to understand what''s getting lost in translation between what you want your post to say, and what we''re hearing. I can only speak for myself, so please don''t think I''m speaking for everybody as a group. This is just my opinion.

I think you''re so excited to get this ring and find a community of like-minded people that you''re getting every thought you''ve had about jewelry out. You have good intentions, but it comes out a bit more "over excited puppy" than "excited jewelry lover." So because of the concentration of posts ("I found a ring..." "How do I tell them it''s designer?" etc) it''s just a little much. You''ve had a lot of things you haven''t been able to talk to people about before, and suddenly we''re here and it''s what we are passionate about, so it seems like it''s the perfect place to ask every question you''ve got. And if you read the comments in your threads, people start by trying to gently guide you (how to find the owner of a lost ring, how to not overwhelm people with unnecessary info so you don''t seem like you''re bragging), and you get defensive, and the responses get a little harsher. I''d say take a step back and process what people are saying and don''t become defensive right away, and the harsher comments will end.

This is a very loving community, but we all show love in different ways. Sometimes people aren''t able to understand it, and their feelings get hurt, and they leave. Others are born with a tougher skin and can shrug things off right away. Most of us are in the middle - sometimes things upset us, but we grow a thicker skin and things bother us less as time goes on.

Anyways, I really hope this doesn''t come across as harsh. It seems like you really want to understand, so I thought I''d at least give you my two cents.
 
Date: 12/27/2009 10:07:19 PM
Author: thing2of2
I don''t think people are out to get you. I think you''re brand new and you''ve started tons of threads recently, several of which have been semi-controversial/stand out.

1. You posted about a ring you found, didn''t turn into the police or take an ad out for, and then got offended when people suggested you didn''t try hard enough. Oh and then it magically found its way to the rightful owner. Just a little strange.

2. And the recent thread about telling your friends about your ring being Tacori-most people here aren''t impressed by known brand names-they''re impressed by diamond performance and overall value. That''s why we took to the internet instead of running into Tiffany and buying whatever we could afford. And interestingly enough, it seems that most PSers aren''t braggy at ALL in real life, so a post asking how to brag about your celebrity designer ring isn''t going to go over well.

Plus the editing of posts isn''t really looked upon kindly here in my experience.

On the flip side, almost everyone agreed with you on your vent thread about people being rude to you when you were waiting tables. So obviously we''re not out to get you!

I think as a new member on PS (and probably on any forum), your best bet to fit in is to hang around and get a feel for the personality of the board before you start posting tons of threads. That way you get a better idea of what''s ''appropriate'' in the world of PS. That''s what I do in any new situation, whether it''s work or social. You wouldn''t let loose the first minute you meet someone or start a new job, and it''s the same thing on a forum.
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I understand totally what you are saying.

The lost ring thread, I hope that people do believe me. Its a crazy thing and of course I dont have a lot of cred here yet, but I hope everyone does believe. It is quite strange and I understand the "huh" part of the posts because when I read thru it, it still seems crazy. But I handed the ring to the lady and I don''t think i imagined it
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And I''m not a very good writer and I think that someone I get my point across kinda weird. I''m not trying to brag to people that I got a celebrity ring... haha I dunno. I guess I was just trying to ask how other PSers handle telling things about their ring to nonPSers withought looking like s snob. And the designer ring question was just my experience.

And im sorry about the editing of the posts. See, these are things I need to learn as a newbie. I never knew that it was frowned upon. Because sometimes, i do write things and im like crap, that sounds funny, so i push the edit button. like I said, not much of a writer.

Thank you for your honest opinion. I think I will hang around and get a feel for things and I know I started a lot of threads.

I moved to this area in my junior almost senior year of high school and i have yet to find any friends after 8 years and it felt good to come here and talk to people. So the starting of many threads was I guess just my may of putting myself out there and trying to mingle
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Date: 12/27/2009 10:16:38 PM
Author: princesss
Okay, I''m going to be totally honest because I think you want to understand what''s getting lost in translation between what you want your post to say, and what we''re hearing. I can only speak for myself, so please don''t think I''m speaking for everybody as a group. This is just my opinion.

I think you''re so excited to get this ring and find a community of like-minded people that you''re getting every thought you''ve had about jewelry out. You have good intentions, but it comes out a bit more ''over excited puppy'' than ''excited jewelry lover.'' So because of the concentration of posts (''I found a ring...'' ''How do I tell them it''s designer?'' etc) it''s just a little much. You''ve had a lot of things you haven''t been able to talk to people about before, and suddenly we''re here and it''s what we are passionate about, so it seems like it''s the perfect place to ask every question you''ve got. And if you read the comments in your threads, people start by trying to gently guide you (how to find the owner of a lost ring, how to not overwhelm people with unnecessary info so you don''t seem like you''re bragging), and you get defensive, and the responses get a little harsher. I''d say take a step back and process what people are saying and don''t become defensive right away, and the harsher comments will end.

This is a very loving community, but we all show love in different ways. Sometimes people aren''t able to understand it, and their feelings get hurt, and they leave. Others are born with a tougher skin and can shrug things off right away. Most of us are in the middle - sometimes things upset us, but we grow a thicker skin and things bother us less as time goes on.

Anyways, I really hope this doesn''t come across as harsh. It seems like you really want to understand, so I thought I''d at least give you my two cents.
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Actually, thank you very much Princess. Your post means a lot to me. And I do sound like a over excited puppy than an excited jewelry lover. I never considered there were unwritten rules to a forum since this is my first forum ever.

What you said didn''t come out harsh at all and I really hope that people don''t walk on eggshells around me because of this thread. I am, by writing this tho, learning alot about how to be on a forum.

THANK YOU!
 
Date: 12/27/2009 10:16:38 PM
Author: princesss
Okay, I''m going to be totally honest because I think you want to understand what''s getting lost in translation between what you want your post to say, and what we''re hearing. I can only speak for myself, so please don''t think I''m speaking for everybody as a group. This is just my opinion.


I think you''re so excited to get this ring and find a community of like-minded people that you''re getting every thought you''ve had about jewelry out. You have good intentions, but it comes out a bit more ''over excited puppy'' than ''excited jewelry lover.'' So because of the concentration of posts (''I found a ring...'' ''How do I tell them it''s designer?'' etc) it''s just a little much. You''ve had a lot of things you haven''t been able to talk to people about before, and suddenly we''re here and it''s what we are passionate about, so it seems like it''s the perfect place to ask every question you''ve got. And if you read the comments in your threads, people start by trying to gently guide you (how to find the owner of a lost ring, how to not overwhelm people with unnecessary info so you don''t seem like you''re bragging), and you get defensive, and the responses get a little harsher. I''d say take a step back and process what people are saying and don''t become defensive right away, and the harsher comments will end.


This is a very loving community, but we all show love in different ways. Sometimes people aren''t able to understand it, and their feelings get hurt, and they leave. Others are born with a tougher skin and can shrug things off right away. Most of us are in the middle - sometimes things upset us, but we grow a thicker skin and things bother us less as time goes on.


Anyways, I really hope this doesn''t come across as harsh. It seems like you really want to understand, so I thought I''d at least give you my two cents.
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I think Princesss hit the nail on the head, as far as my perspective goes anyway. And trust me, I was like you when I found the forum - in fact, if I go back and look at the first few threads I started, I cringe at my newbie-ness
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The only difference was that I had a thicker skin, having been on other forums before PS, and I mostly posted my newbie threads in RT or CS, not Hangout.

I hope your experiences here haven''t deterred you from participating in PS. It''s a great fourm, and as Princesss said, it''s a very loving community. But finding your place in the community doesn''t magically happen once you start a lot of threads, etc. You find your place the more you stay here, the more you read and learn and interact (and not just in your own threads), and gain a feel for the personality of the forum.
 
Date: 12/27/2009 10:22:44 PM
Author: YayTacori
Date: 12/27/2009 10:16:38 PM

Author: princesss

Okay, I''m going to be totally honest because I think you want to understand what''s getting lost in translation between what you want your post to say, and what we''re hearing. I can only speak for myself, so please don''t think I''m speaking for everybody as a group. This is just my opinion.


I think you''re so excited to get this ring and find a community of like-minded people that you''re getting every thought you''ve had about jewelry out. You have good intentions, but it comes out a bit more ''over excited puppy'' than ''excited jewelry lover.'' So because of the concentration of posts (''I found a ring...'' ''How do I tell them it''s designer?'' etc) it''s just a little much. You''ve had a lot of things you haven''t been able to talk to people about before, and suddenly we''re here and it''s what we are passionate about, so it seems like it''s the perfect place to ask every question you''ve got. And if you read the comments in your threads, people start by trying to gently guide you (how to find the owner of a lost ring, how to not overwhelm people with unnecessary info so you don''t seem like you''re bragging), and you get defensive, and the responses get a little harsher. I''d say take a step back and process what people are saying and don''t become defensive right away, and the harsher comments will end.


This is a very loving community, but we all show love in different ways. Sometimes people aren''t able to understand it, and their feelings get hurt, and they leave. Others are born with a tougher skin and can shrug things off right away. Most of us are in the middle - sometimes things upset us, but we grow a thicker skin and things bother us less as time goes on.


Anyways, I really hope this doesn''t come across as harsh. It seems like you really want to understand, so I thought I''d at least give you my two cents.
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Actually, thank you very much Princess. Your post means a lot to me. And I do sound like a over excited puppy than an excited jewelry lover. I never considered there were unwritten rules to a forum since this is my first forum ever.


What you said didn''t come out harsh at all and I really hope that people don''t walk on eggshells around me because of this thread. I am, by writing this tho, learning alot about how to be on a forum.


THANK YOU!
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I''m glad it helped.

Forums are an odd beast, and they don''t operate the way most people are used to interacting. Add to that the fact that we don''t have vocal intonation or facial expressions to go by, and sometimes it''s really hard to know how a post is meant. Generally I assume the best, and then ask for clarification if I need it.

I really can''t wait to see your ring. It''s going to be phenomenal.
 
Date: 12/27/2009 10:18:42 PM
Author: YayTacori
Date: 12/27/2009 10:07:19 PM

Author: thing2of2

I don''t think people are out to get you. I think you''re brand new and you''ve started tons of threads recently, several of which have been semi-controversial/stand out.

1. You posted about a ring you found, didn''t turn into the police or take an ad out for, and then got offended when people suggested you didn''t try hard enough. Oh and then it magically found its way to the rightful owner. Just a little strange.

2. And the recent thread about telling your friends about your ring being Tacori-most people here aren''t impressed by known brand names-they''re impressed by diamond performance and overall value. That''s why we took to the internet instead of running into Tiffany and buying whatever we could afford. And interestingly enough, it seems that most PSers aren''t braggy at ALL in real life, so a post asking how to brag about your celebrity designer ring isn''t going to go over well.

Plus the editing of posts isn''t really looked upon kindly here in my experience.

On the flip side, almost everyone agreed with you on your vent thread about people being rude to you when you were waiting tables. So obviously we''re not out to get you!

I think as a new member on PS (and probably on any forum), your best bet to fit in is to hang around and get a feel for the personality of the board before you start posting tons of threads. That way you get a better idea of what''s ''appropriate'' in the world of PS. That''s what I do in any new situation, whether it''s work or social. You wouldn''t let loose the first minute you meet someone or start a new job, and it''s the same thing on a forum.
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I understand totally what you are saying.

The lost ring thread, I hope that people do believe me. Its a crazy thing and of course I dont have a lot of cred here yet, but I hope everyone does believe. It is quite strange and I understand the ''huh'' part of the posts because when I read thru it, it still seems crazy. But I handed the ring to the lady and I don''t think i imagined it
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And I''m not a very good writer and I think that someone I get my point across kinda weird. I''m not trying to brag to people that I got a celebrity ring... haha I dunno. I guess I was just trying to ask how other PSers handle telling things about their ring to nonPSers withought looking like s snob. And the designer ring question was just my experience.

And im sorry about the editing of the posts. See, these are things I need to learn as a newbie. I never knew that it was frowned upon. Because sometimes, i do write things and im like crap, that sounds funny, so i push the edit button. like I said, not much of a writer.

Thank you for your honest opinion. I think I will hang around and get a feel for things and I know I started a lot of threads.

I moved to this area in my junior almost senior year of high school and i have yet to find any friends after 8 years and it felt good to come here and talk to people. So the starting of many threads was I guess just my may of putting myself out there and trying to mingle
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You''re quite welcome-I love to give honest opinions!
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Honestly, I don''t think the editing thing is a big deal if you just switch a word around here or there, but if you change the whole meaning/message of a post, someone is always going to see the original and call you out.

I''m sure you''ll figure it out here, and like princesss said, we all can''t wait to see your gorgeous ring!
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I'll be excited to see your ring, YayTacori. PS is kind of hit or miss in who it likes or doesn't like. And sometimes rules are arbitrarily enforced or moderators change, and someone might get kicked out and someone more established will get away with the same violations. So, I just try not to fight with people or harp an anything. And I have really thick skin, like tanned water buffalo.
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I'm you found the "found" ring's owner. I'll have to check out that thread to see what happened.

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When one posts on a public forum to strangers you have to remember that people do not know you. So when I read a post I respond to what is written, the words used, and it is not a reflection of who the poster is in real life. I am also on FB where I know the people and one of my friends responded to the way another friend posts on mywall. Well that is the way she is. She shoots from the hip and lets all her feelings out and tells it the way she sees it. That does not offend me because I have known her over 30 years and that is the way she is. Only your friends and family will tell you what they truly think.

I do not know you or anyone else on PS personally to call you my friend or not. I enjoy the topics, the responses, and yes sometimes the drama. I brag when I feel the need to, I vent when I feel the need to, I contribute when I feel the need to and I lurk when I want to see if anyone posts anything worthwhile. The there are posters who always have something to say, posters who live out their entire life on PS, posters who brag, posters who offer wisdom, posters who are looking for validation, posters looking for support from strangers, etc.

Anyone can write anything they want on here and I can choose to accept it as being true or just a bunch of nonsense. Don''t be offended by anyone''s reponses, just enjoy yourself or find a different outlet.
 
I'm not going to change my posting style because it bothers you. People in this forum are EXTREMELY respectful. If you can't take opinions, points of view and honesty then perhaps post less frequent/controversial topics? I'm a newbie too but I'm not really here to talk about life... I'm here to talk about ring projects mostly. A lot of what you've been posting seems to be about your feelings and wanting affirmation for them. Just have fun talking about sparkly things and stop stressing out.
 
YayTacori, this is going to be long and I am going to be blunt with you.

You are being too sensitive. This is a public, anonymous forum, on which there are thousands of members and hundreds of posters. Remember this, because it is important, in forum world and in real life: nobody is paying nearly as much attention to you as you think they are. This is a good thing. This means that nobody is analysing your every word and action, so there is no need to worry about it. People here skim through posts, some respond, rarely does one spend more than a few moments thinking about your posts. Why? Because we''re all too busy thinking of how that post relates to us, what our experiences are and what advice we want to give. That is the nature of humans. So really to think that because of a few posts here that people consider you unlikable is to presume far too much attention is on you. It isn''t. And again, this is a good thing. Stay around, get a feel for the place, post what you want, and for gods sake stop worrying about whether people like you or not, because it is a supreme waste of time. Not everyone is going to like you, nobody''s perfect. This is true for everybody. So in a word: chill.

Another thing to remember is that none of us have ever met you so we cannot possibly like or dislike you. Also, seeing as how none of us have ever met you, it shouldn''t matter whether we do or not! No point seeking the approval of people you don''t even know!

Honestly, your posts can be contradictory and you get defensive easily. There is no need! You have not been lectured as far as I can see (but, being human, I have only briefly skimmed your posts and not paid much attention: busy thinking about myself you see). You have certainly not been lectured more than anyone else has. You post asking for opinions and advice? You are going to get them and they are not all going to be sugar coated and they don''t reflect on you because WE DON''T KNOW WHO YOU ARE!! This applies to everyone, not just you. Take the replies with a pinch of salt. Including this one. I guarantee I will have forgotten about it within a few minutes (again, time taken up by thinking about my own stuff and pretty sparklies).

If you try very hard to please people and get people to like you, you will only ever be disappointed. So stop it. Really. People pleasers are annoying. Not everyone is going to like you. That''s life. If you want to enjoy it, then chill out and enjoy it. Focus on what you want to do rather than what you think others want you to do. That''s just pointless.

Stick around. Stop worrying. Chill
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Date: 12/28/2009 9:50:20 AM
Author: Porridge
Stay around, get a feel for the place, post what you want, and for gods sake stop worrying about whether people like you or not, because it is a supreme waste of time. Not everyone is going to like you, nobody''s perfect. This is true for everybody. So in a word: chill.

People pleasers are annoying. Not everyone is going to like you. That''s life. If you want to enjoy it, then chill out and enjoy it. Focus on what you want to do rather than what you think others want you to do. That''s just pointless.


Stick around. Stop worrying. Chill
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Honestly, when you post things like "Do people like me", "Do people like me part 2", and "How do I brag about my designer celebrity ring without sounding like I am bragging and a snob", people are probably going to be more huffy with their responses to you, as these posts make you sound flaky and aloof. The new puppy comparison was a good way to describe it.

I mean nothing negative by telling you this, and it was not meant to be mean spirited, as you may not in fact be like that in real life. But maybe you could try posting less threads for a while, lurk a little bit more and get a better feel for the flow of this forum. A lot of information and meaning gets lost in typing, so sometimes things get misinterpreted; I have interpreted your posts the way that I saw them, just as you may have interpreted certain posts as ''attacking'', or ''lecturing''.

I am also not a well written person, sometimes I am not a well spoken person either. Just take everything that is said to you on these forums with a grain of salt. But do remember, that if you ask for opinions, you are going to get opinions. Not answers that you necessarily want to hear.
 
I agree with Thing and Princesss.

And I also strongly suggest that you think through your topic titles and first posts BEFORE posting.

While we all love a great ring around here, bragging about your "celebrity" ring, asking how you can brag to others about it, and repeatedly asking if you are unlikeable is what is getting people frustrated with you. In your "forum" voice you end up sounding like a 13 year old girl and quite frankly most of us are over the age where we want to deal with that kind of drama and self-loathing.

So just hang out, take a chill pill, and learn to be secure in your own skin. If you are secure with yourself you won't need to ask if people like you and you won't feel the need to brag to everyone about your "celebrity" ring. And people will respond to you a lot more positively if you just RELAX. Of course we're all excited about your ring and we'll be happy to post wonderful comments when you get it. But I assure you NONE of us look kindly upon bragging to others about your ring. There's a difference between showing and showing off.

I promise we aren't mean-we're just pretty honest. So if you don't want honesty make sure to say it at the beginning of a thread. But then be prepared for only a few answers.
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Date: 12/27/2009 9:52:39 PM
Author: MonkeyPie
I don''t think anyone here is intending to offend you with any replies to your threads, but no one here gets mollycoddled, either.
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Minor threadjack -- MonkeyPie, I''ve never heard the word "mollycoddled" before! I''ve heard "coddled," but "mollycoddled" is so much better! Thanks for that.

Sorry to interrupt the thread...
 
Date: 12/28/2009 10:43:47 AM
Author: Smurfyimproved

Date: 12/28/2009 9:50:20 AM
Author: Porridge
Stay around, get a feel for the place, post what you want, and for gods sake stop worrying about whether people like you or not, because it is a supreme waste of time. Not everyone is going to like you, nobody''s perfect. This is true for everybody. So in a word: chill.

People pleasers are annoying. Not everyone is going to like you. That''s life. If you want to enjoy it, then chill out and enjoy it. Focus on what you want to do rather than what you think others want you to do. That''s just pointless.


Stick around. Stop worrying. Chill
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Enjoy yourself.
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Add another ditto to this one.

Relax. Have fun sharing & learning.


AND -- make sure you post a picture of your ring when you get it. I''d love to see it.
 
Well, I have no idea who you are and don''t think (or don''t remember) reading any of your threads before this one. From what you''re saying, I''d say, trust me, that''s a good thing.
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Welcome to Pricescope!
 
I'm too busy worrying about me to worry about you.
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Date: 12/28/2009 12:49:46 PM
Author: kenny
I''m too busy worrying about me to worry about you.
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hahahah kenny we are all busy worrying about you :) jk!
 
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