Wedding All outta wedding steam...

[tberube]

Okay, so the wedding is four weeks away...and I''ve totally run out of steam with the whole process!

We''ve been engaged since May 2 of last year, a day that I''d been dreaming about for as long as I can remember. As soon as I got the ring on my finger, I went out and bought arms full of wedding ****, got myself a membership to theknot.com and started recording every episode of "Whose Wedding is it Anyway?" on my DVR. Not to mention my bond with all the members of this site! I adored the process of looking for my beautiful wedding gown, figuring out my wedding style, choosing the venue and all the little details like linens and cake flavors and flowers.

Planning the wedding has been really fun, trying, fulfilling, angering, exciting and expensive. By this point I''ve paid all my deposits, sent out the invitations, had my first gown fitting and attended my bridal shower. Now it''s all about the little picky to-do lists and the final touches...table charts, place cards, attendant gifts, hair appointments, final fittings and errands, errands, errands!

I''m still really excited for the wedding day, but I feel like after all this time, the excitement of "being engaged" and planning is getting quite old and I''m almost looking forward to it being all over. Yanno...the end of all this wedding-on-the-brain!

Am I one of many who feel this way near the end? Or am I committing a bridal crime?

 

[violet02]

I''m just about there!

Seriously my wedding is 8 weeks away. I''m at the wrapping it up nitpicky stage since all the big decisions and all initial big payments are done.

I''m excited for the wedding day as well but I''m so tired of picking stuff out and making sure everything is just right and matches and blah blah blah. I was saying to a friend today if I was rich and had it to do over I''d have hired a full time wedding planner to do it for me, it''s been long and tiring and at sometimes frustrating. Thank goodness for my bridesmaids (particularly the ones who''s been married twice!). I''d have NEVER made it without them.

 

[musey]

I don't feel exactly the same way, but I don't think you're alone.

I certainly don't think the nitpicky final details are the most fun part of the planning process, so I'm not enjoying the planning process as much right now... but I am enjoying the engagement even more at this stage!

Early on, people seemed kinda "meh" about our engagement (it will be 20 months on the wedding day), and I kind of soaked up that attitude. I think we'd been together so long by the time we got engaged it was more of a "oh, you weren't already married?" reaction

All the "woohoo"s and high-fives lasted only a few days.

NOW, everyone's realizing how close it is, and can't stop telling us how excited they are! People are wanting to see us before the "big day" (like they think maybe we'll disappear post-wedding, ha!), take us out to dinner, throw us little parties. It's a lot more fun when everyone around you is so excited! It seems like that usually happens toward the beginning of the engagement, but for us it's all come at the end.

It all started soon before our wedding shower (2 weeks ago) and has been going steady ever since. I'm loving it!

 

[miraclesrule]

It''s totally normal. As I explained to my co-workers, it''s a lot line being pregnant. It''s very exciting in the beginning, makes you a little queasy, but by the last month, you just want it to be OVER!!

::::::pulling out bridal thermometer::::::::::::

Yep, it''s normal.

 

[violet02]

Date: 8/8/2008 9:05:39 PM
Author: musey
I don''t feel exactly the same way, but I don''t think you''re alone.

I certainly don''t think the nitpicky final details are the most fun part of the planning process, so I''m not enjoying the planning process as much right now... but I am enjoying the engagement even more at this stage!

Early on, people seemed kinda ''meh'' about our engagement (it will be 20 months on the wedding day), and I kind of soaked up that attitude. I think we''d been together so long by the time we got engaged it was more of a ''oh, you weren''t already married?'' reaction

All the ''woohoo''s and high-fives lasted only a few days.

NOW, everyone''s realizing how close it is, and can''t stop telling us how excited they are! People are wanting to see us before the ''big day'' (like they think maybe we''ll disappear post-wedding, ha!), take us out to dinner, throw us little parties. It''s a lot more fun when everyone around you is so excited! It seems like that usually happens toward the beginning of the engagement, but for us it''s all come at the end.

It all started soon before our wedding shower (2 weeks ago) and has been going steady ever since. I''m loving it!

Musey, you already had your shower? That seems exciting. Mine''s not until September 14th! I''m getting married the same day as you are... Maybe I''ll get a second wind then.

 

[Gypsy]

Uh huh. I''m there. My solution (which has been creating other issues) has been to throw money at it or ask someone on here or on theknot to make a decision for me. Or cross it off the list undone. I am NOT look forward to finding placecards, printing them up, figuring out seating, tracking down missing RSVPs.... AUGH! Yuck.

Right there with ya babe. I got six weeks and I just don''t care. LOL.

My registry is new (first gift this week), so that''s still interesting. But I''m worried about where I''m gonna put it all.

((HUGS TB!)))

 

[CJ2008]

I felt this exact way...and the last few days before we left for Mexico I spent countless hours shopping for makeup and going from counter to counter, even though I had other way more important things to do. I think I needed to be in a haze...

BUT - that haze I put myself in did cost me...a few things forgotten (none of the most important things, but still, things I had wanted to do) and just a few details that I let go...and things I would never usually forget that ended up being a pain (like forgetting to leave the mailbox key for the pet sitter and then having to call around from our honeymoon to see if we could catch the mail people so all our mail wouldn''t be returned, etc.)

So try to fight it if you can...or at least make a list of the things that are most important to you NOT to leave up to chance...

The rest you''ll find work out anyway...

It all works out anyway...but I had taken just a few minutes and forced myself out of that haze to make that list, it would have helped.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Dont worry...it''s normal.

Planning a wedding is exhusting. It''s fun, and exciting, but, the devil is in the details.

Try to find new ways to spice it up. I took a weekend away with my girlfriends that was a "wedding free zone"...we did not speak of fondant, or raw silk, or flowers, or formal wear. We laughed, and shopped, and ate amazing food that was sooooo against my bridal diet. We even found a small carnival and bought "limitless" passes to ride the rides....we played that day like we were children. We actually saw the "Girls Gone Wild Bus" and took pictures on our cell phones and sent them to our husbands/fiances/boyfriends and said they would have to buy the video if they wanted to know how we spent our weekend. When I got home, I felt completely recharged.

I think that when you''re planning a wedding, all of your relationships start to revolve around the wedding. Your conversations with close friends, parents and coworkers are always about the wedding. You don''t get a break. People *think* you want to talk about it, so they ''engage'' you (no pun intended).

If you can''t get a weekend away, try have one or two days a week that wedding free. Meaning, you let everyone know this is your day off...all inquiries can wait till the next day.

Remember, if it feels like work...you''re just doing it right!

 

[tberube]

thanks ladies!! Exceptional advice, as always!

 

[dutchflowers]

I''m with you ''rube.

Our wedding is September 13 and I am soooo ready to be married to my sweetie and leave on our honeymoon.

I really enjoyed the design aspect to the planning of our wedding, but I''m exhausted because it felt like everyone (especially his family) had a whole lot to say on matters where their advice wasn''t solicited.

Well, the planning part is over - now its time for the par-tay to begin.

 

[musey]

Date: 8/8/2008 9:46:55 PM
Author: violet02

Date: 8/8/2008 9:05:39 PM
Author: musey
It all started soon before our wedding shower (2 weeks ago) and has been going steady ever since. I'm loving it!

Musey, you already had your shower? That seems exciting. Mine's not until September 14th! I'm getting married the same day as you are... Maybe I'll get a second wind then.

Yeah, it was pretty early. My MOH lives in NY, I live in LA, mom lives in IL, and all the relatives are spread out (Chicago, Atlanta, Seattle, Denver...) so it was nearly IMPOSSIBLE to find something that worked for everyone. It ended up being that people couldn't do it once school started because of kids and teachers, so it had to be before August. Super early!

Is yours in-town so that you don't have to travel to it? That would've made a big difference for us!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

45 days to go and I am so feeling this thread. It is overwhelming and I would rather stay in bed then make REAL decisions. I am so ready for the week of so I can soak it all up.