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nahhh...she don't wanna pay me alimony,plus i get 1/2 of her pension.Date: 6/20/2009 12:54:58 AM
Author: Linda W
Date: 6/20/2009 12:26:27 AM
Author:Dancing Fire
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Date: 6/20/2009 12:46:44 AM
Author: VRBeauty
Some do, some don''t.
Really? I didn''t know that...I figured you had to go through the same process as far as showing the divorce decree to Social Security and banks, credit card co''s, etc. I guess I thought that because I work with securities/investments, and there have been times when I have to submit name change forms for women who''ve divorced and they always ask for a copy of the divorce decree, just like they do when women marry and they ask for a copy of the marriage cert. Huh. That gives me hope...I''m going through a divorce right now and was worried about going through all the name change stuff again.Date: 6/20/2009 8:02:32 AM
Author: justginger
Both my maiden name and my ex-husband''s name are terribly difficult to pronounce and spell -- so in my case, I immediately reverted because there was no perk to keeping his name. It only made me unhappy and I was glad to ''be myself'' again.
I did find it interesting to learn that women can legally use their maiden names for their entire lives, despite having been married and ''officially'' changing it. There is no process involved in order to go back to your birth name.
Date: 6/20/2009 11:08:23 AM
Author: monarch64
Really? I didn't know that...I figured you had to go through the same process as far as showing the divorce decree to Social Security and banks, credit card co's, etc. I guess I thought that because I work with securities/investments, and there have been times when I have to submit name change forms for women who've divorced and they always ask for a copy of the divorce decree, just like they do when women marry and they ask for a copy of the marriage cert. Huh. That gives me hope...I'm going through a divorce right now and was worried about going through all the name change stuff again.Date: 6/20/2009 8:02:32 AM
Author: justginger
Both my maiden name and my ex-husband's name are terribly difficult to pronounce and spell -- so in my case, I immediately reverted because there was no perk to keeping his name. It only made me unhappy and I was glad to 'be myself' again.
I did find it interesting to learn that women can legally use their maiden names for their entire lives, despite having been married and 'officially' changing it. There is no process involved in order to go back to your birth name.
I will go back to my maiden name. I don't see the point in keeping someone else's last name whose life I am no longer a part of, and also we did not have children so it's not like I am worried my last name wouldn't match theirs. Further, since it was not an amicable marriage I would really rather not have any ties to him at all.
Ohhh...ok, thank you Octavia, for your response. I didn''t figure it would be so easy, guess I was right. It''s fine, though, I''ve gotten used to plowing through all the paperwork involved with seemingly everything in life, so what''s another thing to deal with, ha ha!Date: 6/20/2009 1:41:20 PM
Author: Octavia
Date: 6/20/2009 11:08:23 AM
Author: monarch64
Really? I didn''t know that...I figured you had to go through the same process as far as showing the divorce decree to Social Security and banks, credit card co''s, etc. I guess I thought that because I work with securities/investments, and there have been times when I have to submit name change forms for women who''ve divorced and they always ask for a copy of the divorce decree, just like they do when women marry and they ask for a copy of the marriage cert. Huh. That gives me hope...I''m going through a divorce right now and was worried about going through all the name change stuff again.Date: 6/20/2009 8:02:32 AM
Author: justginger
Both my maiden name and my ex-husband''s name are terribly difficult to pronounce and spell -- so in my case, I immediately reverted because there was no perk to keeping his name. It only made me unhappy and I was glad to ''be myself'' again.
I did find it interesting to learn that women can legally use their maiden names for their entire lives, despite having been married and ''officially'' changing it. There is no process involved in order to go back to your birth name.
I will go back to my maiden name. I don''t see the point in keeping someone else''s last name whose life I am no longer a part of, and also we did not have children so it''s not like I am worried my last name wouldn''t match theirs. Further, since it was not an amicable marriage I would really rather not have any ties to him at all.
Monnie, it varies by state (and by country, of course). If you''ve officially changed your name with the state, you''ll probably have to petition to change it back, but it''s usually a lot easier than petitioning to change your name for any other reason -- it''s usually okayed immediately (often along with the divorce decree) and you probably won''t have to go to court separately for it. You''ll need the court order to change on your drivers'' license, and then for SS and all the other stuff. I don''t know if justginger is in Canada, since it''s much easier in most Canadian provinces. Either that, or the women she speaks of may never have changed their names legally in the first place, but just adopted their husbands'' names for social use (which is also pretty common). I don''t know of any US state that lets you change back without documentation, though there might be -- I''ve done a lot of research on name-changing but not for every single state.
Date: 6/20/2009 8:02:32 AM
Author: justginger
I did find it interesting to learn that women can legally use their maiden names for their entire lives, despite having been married and ''officially'' changing it. There is no process involved in order to go back to your birth name.
what if she has a few ex''sDate: 6/20/2009 8:11:50 AM
Author: atroop711
I know some who went back to their maiden and others who kept their ex''s last name (mostly because they want to have the same last name as their kids)