Advice on heirloom diamonds

[DrDiamond]

Hi everyone,

I am looking to create a custom ring with two loose band-sized diamonds from my girlfriend's grandmother who has passed away. However, after hearing this, my mother had given me HER wedding ring and said to use the main diamond. My mother had inherited her mother's ring, but did not give me that one to use.

The tradition of this is lost on me (my girlfriend's loose diamonds and my mother's diamond), but another factor is that I had my mother's diamond appraised and it is flawed and has very low quality.

The options I have are to:
1.Use the diamonds given to me
2.Not use the diamond and give it back to my mother
3.Not use the diamond but keep the ring and tell my mother I used it (she probably won't know the difference)

Not a generic question, but I am in an awkward situation and can use some advice if anyone has it.

 

[CharmedOne]

Can you make your mom's ring into a pendant? Just a thought. A low quality stone will stand out against the others is my guess. It's hard to say without seeing the stones. Can you post photos?

 

[MyDiamondSparkles]

Never lie to your Mamma! Plus an engagement ring represents so much, so I'm sure you'll find the correct way to go about this without lying or hurting your moms feelings. I think posting photos of the diamonds would help a lot. Also if your Moms diamond turns out to be a dud, did it come with a setting that maybe could be melted down and used to create the engagement ring?

 

[purplesilk]

Don't use your mom's ring, leave it as it is: you could give it back to your mom or your girlfriend could wear it as a right hand ring...
Since none knows the future (fights, divorces, financial problems), it's not a wise plan to use both your girlfriend's diamonds and your mom's stone for the same project.
Best to you,
Purplesilk.

 

[Enerchi]

I'd return your mom's diamond - A) because it isn't of the best quality and combined with the others, it WILL be noticeable and B) *not that this is going to happen....* but should the relationship end, your mother's diamond is gone for good.

I'd feel ok using her grandmother's diamonds because (as per B above) they will remain with her and it seems like they may be the better quality diamonds.

I would NOT LIE TO YOUR MOTHER!!! Mom's are mystical and they will find out about it!! don't lie to your mom!!

So--- if it were me, I'd use the grandmother diamonds from your FFI and add a special diamond you have selected either on your own, or with your FFI - or even a coloured stone (your bday? her bday? the month you are getting married in?). I'd suggest taking your mom's diamond and putting it into a simple solitaire pendant and presenting it back to your mom - what a wonderful gift from child to mom and she can then appreciate the diamond in a whole new way!