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A Year Ago Today...

Missy

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Forgive me for some rambling thoughts I am having this morning. But a year ago today life (in the USA and everywhere else perhaps on a bit of a different timeline) as we knew it changed.

Today on this date last year, my DH was recovering from TKR surgery in January and we were heading to his Physical Therapy session when we heard that Broadway was now shut down and chools closed, and professional and college sports leagues suspended their seasons.

I remember B had texted us St Patty's was going on next week as scheduled. I said to Greg absolutely not. Greg was disappointed we couldn't do the annual St Patty's Day pub crawl that we had been doing for many decades. Greg had been doing it 42 years straight with his college buddies (started in Boston) and the tradition had continued in NYC. March 2020 was the first year he missed. Turns out B had to cancel it because the mayor came to his senses and closed everything down so no pub crawl anywhere.

Last year on this date was the day I realized everything as we knew it had changed. Just like that. Two months prior I had never even heard of Coronavirus. I had no clue it existed. I was (as were many) blissfully unaware. Just that February we had attended Swan Lake at Lincoln Center. Greg's first outing after his total knee replacement surgery. Little did we realize this was the last live performance of anything we were going to enjoy for a long time.

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We continued with Greg's PT til the center shut down.
We started stocking up on cat food and started searching for paper towels and lysol and yes, toilet paper.
Good times.

No one was wearing a mask yet but for a few. We were blindly accepting the politician's saying no need for a mask. Until I realized nope there was a big need and we started searching for masks and in the meantime Greg sewed a few for us and for our neighbors too.

My very first mask.

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Greg getting the mail back in the end of March 2020. #funny/notfunny

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One bright spot. We adopted Gracie in March. Despite the pandemic. She needed a home desperately as she had been going from foster to foster and it wasn't going well for her. The head of the Brooklyn rescue group contacted us knowing we were thinking about adopting another to help Oliver and give him a young playmate so he could stop running after Tommy. Anyway pandemic adoption of Gracie ensued.

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Greg sewing masks.

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Signs going up in our neighborhood and everywhere just like this one.

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Heartwarming stories alongside heartbreaking ones sharing experiences of loved ones dying from Covid 19. Each day on the news the governors read long lists of people who died and the loved ones affected. Lists that seemed miles long. :( The horror. :(

Our MD friends showing us how they were protecting themselves.

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And Gracie's expression at all the masks priceless.

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Yes, it seemed the world had gone mad and "normal" was a long way away...

We decided to get new rings to wear that would be easier to wear and disinfect during the pandemic.

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Somehow the world seemed OK when we could add a bit of bling.

We still continued our daily walks in Brooklyn but this time we were wearing masks and crossing the street when we saw other people. We stopped hugging friends and stopped contact with others as we knew it. I remember my dear friend M had come home early from her trip in March because of Covid and we hugged and then realized what had we just done. We felt like we committed a crime or worse yet made a deadly mistake. We walked that day but uneasily and we stayed a bit apart as we walked.

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In a matter of days literally we went from this during our daily walks:

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To this:

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Yup life had changed as we knew it and slowly but surely it was dawning on us that everything had to be carefully considered and deliberated and approached with common sense and caution. One mistake could be a life ending mistake.

Maybe that sounds dramatic but for me that is how it felt. I was listening to both Cuomo and Murphy and my heart felt like it was breaking a thousand times over hearing all those who had died. Each day. From Covid 19. The hospitals were filling up fast and ICUs were over run and the situation was dire.

We endured. The days and months to follow. We made the best of it.

We took the cats and headed to the beach house mid May where we felt we could walk more easily and unencumbered and where we could get groceries more easily. Where life was a bit quieter. I realized many/most did not have that option to pick up and go elsewhere away from the urban environment and I felt grateful. But worried for everyone. So worried. My parents, my sister and nieces, my friends, my fellow humans. What was going to happen? How would it all play out?

The days went by in a blur. Days became weeks and weeks became months. In the meantime Greg had two more kidney stone surgeries during Covid 19. I couldn't wait there for him at the hospital because of Covid. I was home wringing my hands worrying. And then in December a cancer diagnosis. And another surgery followed. And again I had to wait at home alone. While my husband underwent an eight hour surgery at Lenox Hill. I was a wreck. Waiting and scared. Thank you to my friends and you know who you are who made that time bearable for me. Greg came through with flying colors thankfully.

And the months became a year and here we are a full year plus later. Looking back it all seemed to go in slow motion at times but also in a whirlwind. Opposites held true. So fast though quite slow. Sad but grateful. Worried yet hopeful. Scared but strong and courageous because there was no other choice. And so on and so forth. A huge mix of emotions. And a presidential election during this time. A huge change. So much happening. Brightness in the dark.

We continued walking most days. In the woods, in the parks and on the beaches. No matter the weather. Sun, snow, rain, freezing temps, warmer temps we made it out most days. Anything to get out of the house and breathe some fresh air. On the days we couldn't we stayed home and played cards or board games or both. Did some reading and chatted with friends via phone. Making connections any way we could but in person.

We had an outdoor backyard physical distancing visit with my parents. In August. Still haven't been able to hug them since 2019. But hopefully one day soon. That visit in August meant so much to both Greg and me. Greg's mother died in June 2020 and it was so sad because we didn't get to hug her goodbye. We couldn't hug our family members.

Through it all hope held strong no matter how awful and scary hope was the beacon of light shining through. In world record speed vaccines had been developed. Successful vaccines. Life saving vaccines. And the world was getting vaccinated one person at a time. Life seemed sweeter and better than it had been for a long time. Soon everyone who wants to will be able to get vaccinated. Something to celebrate indeed.


We held on and we continue to do so. Much further than we had been last year and finally the proverbial light at the end of a long dark tunnel. No, we are not out of it yet but we are well on our way. Hold on. We are almost there.


Thank you for allowing me to share some rambling stream of consciousness disorganized thoughts with you this morning.

Please share some of your thoughts if you are in the mood. One year plus later.
 
Going through some photos. Putting things in perspective.

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Snow on the beach. Has never happened while we were here. This year it did. Really puts things in perspective. The vastness of the universe. How insignificant we are in comparison.

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<<<Hugs>>>

Time flies when one is having fun they say, yeah right!

Where are those who were very vocal about the whole thing would blow over in 6 months?! :wall:

DK :confused2:
 
<<<Hugs>>>

Time flies when one is having fun they say, yeah right!

Where are those who were very vocal about the whole thing would blow over in 6 months?! :wall:

DK :confused2:

Yeah right lol but not lol. My podiatrist who I adore (and he’s so smart usually) told us last March not to worry. This was going to blow over soon. Oy.
 
Thank you for posting this, Missy!

I'm feeling torn like you. I'm so glad you and Greg are ok, health wise.

In addition to all you mentioned I'm deeply saddened that this seems to divide people more, in spite of all the uplifting stories.... Everyone has lived this completely differently. Had their own struggles. Our total lockdown of three months accelerated this so much. Everyone literally locked in their homes by law. It made the lonely so much lonelier and the busy
busier juggling childcare and homeschooling on top jobs. I hope everyone will not forget this and appreciate and help one another even more when it's safe to do so.
For the very old and single it's a lost year though... My widowed mother has been largely alone in her home since last year . She never complains, but it has taken a toll on her as on many others.
 
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((((Hugs)))) to you @kipari and I am keeping your daughter and your entire family in my thoughts. I agree with what you wrote.

Let’s never forget. For all who lost their lives we must always remember and learn from our many mistakes.

I hope we learn and ultimately become closer and stronger and one day may we live in a world where all are treated with kindness and compassion and where we all matter. The pandemic has highlighted extreme inequalities in our society. Social injustices.

In the words of the great MLK Jr. “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere”

May we come out of this pandemic stronger and better. As individuals and as a society. As a world. May we continue learning and working towards a better tomorrow for all.
 
((((Hugs)))) to you @kipari and I am keeping your daughter and your entire family in my thoughts. I agree with what you wrote.

Let’s never forget. For all who lost their lives we must always remember and learn from our many mistakes.

I hope we learn and ultimately become closer and stronger and one day may we live in a world where all are treated with kindness and compassion and where we all matter. The pandemic has highlighted extreme inequalities in our society. Social injustices.

In the words of the great MLK Jr. “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere”

May we come out of this pandemic stronger and better. As individuals and as a society. As a world. May we continue learning and working towards a better tomorrow for all.

Well said, @missy!

Hugs to you and yours as well ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
 
I echo @kipari - the division this has caused is heartbreaking. And like her over there in France, we have had 3 enforced lockdowns now, illegal to travel anywhere that you cannot walk to etc. It's been tough.

But you are right & there is light at the end of the tunnel. We just need to not get ahead of ourselves & mess it up. Both of our mothers are due their second vaccines early April, and then, once full restriction are lifted (proposed for June 21st due to the speed of vaccine implementation) we can all hug. But carefully, as the rest of the adults in my family won't be called for vaccination until end of June / early July.

There is going to be the mother of all parties with our families come summer!
 
I echo @kipari - the division this has caused is heartbreaking. And like her over there in France, we have had 3 enforced lockdowns now, illegal to travel anywhere that you cannot walk to etc. It's been tough.

But you are right & there is light at the end of the tunnel. We just need to not get ahead of ourselves & mess it up. Both of our mothers are due their second vaccines early April, and then, once full restriction are lifted (proposed for June 21st due to the speed of vaccine implementation) we can all hug. But carefully, as the rest of the adults in my family won't be called for vaccination until end of June / early July.

There is going to be the mother of all parties with our families come summer!

I'm so happy to hear your mom and MiL will be fully vaccinated soon ! Great news!

And yes yes yes to a big party! I'm afraid it'll be in autumn in Continental Europe, but fully intend to have a champagne pyramid 80ies style!!
 
A year ago school closed early, our youngest was in kindergarten and I knew when I picked him up he would not see those kids again but he didn’t, it was extremely sad for him. Our oldest wasn’t really fazed but the bullying in school on a nearly daily basis probably contributed to him not caring about school being closed.

DH was working from home, I was still working, the kids were remote learning but it was really disorganized. We had to learn the ropes of Seesaw. We had to learn to be teachers.

A week later it looked like the state was closing down, I was in denial about my job being lost. I had just gotten hired a month earlier, the job search was painful and I had finally found something. I was just so mad.

I sat around for a few months, depressed about not having a job, no motivation to do much. My company had promised I could work from home and I waited three months to file unemployment until I realized no work was coming.

In the end we all adjusted, the kids have done well with remote learning, DH never lost his job thankfully. We are all more resilient as a result of the pandemic.
 
A year ago school closed early, our youngest was in kindergarten and I knew when I picked him up he would not see those kids again but he didn’t, it was extremely sad for him. Our oldest wasn’t really fazed but the bullying in school on a nearly daily basis probably contributed to him not caring about school being closed.

DH was working from home, I was still working, the kids were remote learning but it was really disorganized. We had to learn the ropes of Seesaw. We had to learn to be teachers.

A week later it looked like the state was closing down, I was in denial about my job being lost. I had just gotten hired a month earlier, the job search was painful and I had finally found something. I was just so mad.

I sat around for a few months, depressed about not having a job, no motivation to do much. My company had promised I could work from home and I waited three months to file unemployment until I realized no work was coming.

In the end we all adjusted, the kids have done well with remote learning, DH never lost his job thankfully. We are all more resilient as a result of the pandemic.

You are so right. We are more resilient. And maybe a little wiser.

What’s that saying? What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. In this case tragically so many lost their lives due to Covid directly or indirectly.

We found out my mother in law died indirectly due to Covid. She had been given a powerful cocktail of chemo drugs due to a multiple myeloma diagnosis. The doctors told her she should have five years of good quality life left.

Unfortunately she developed a clot from the chemo meds and the hospital they needed to transfer her to for appropriate treatment (where they had powerful clot busting IV meds) was full because of Covid.

So she was sent to a smaller hospital where she lapsed into a coma because of the clot and died.

It is a bitter pill to swallow. She was vibrant and sharp as a tack. All her faculties intact. She died because she couldn’t be admitted to the big hospital where her life could have been saved with meds only they had. :(


And that story was repeated over and over and over across the world. Not exactly the same but similar. So many deaths from Covid not just directly but indirectly too. Covid caused a bit fallout not just from getting the disease. But in many other ways too. Mental health took a bit hit.
 
You are so right. We are more resilient. And maybe a little wiser.

What’s that saying? What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. In this case tragically so many lost their lives due to Covid directly or indirectly.

We found out my mother in law died indirectly due to Covid. She had been given a powerful cocktail of chemo drugs due to a multiple myeloma diagnosis. The doctors told her she should have five years of good quality life left.

Unfortunately she developed a clot from the chemo meds and the hospital they needed to transfer her to for appropriate treatment (where they had powerful clot busting IV meds) was full because of Covid.

So she was sent to a smaller hospital where she lapsed into a coma because of the clot and died.

It is a bitter pill to swallow. She was vibrant and sharp as a tack. All her faculties intact. She died because she couldn’t be admitted to the big hospital where her life could have been saved with meds only they had. :(


And that story was repeated over and over and over across the world. Not exactly the same but similar. So many deaths from Covid not just directly but indirectly too. Covid caused a bit fallout not just from getting the disease. But in many other ways too. Mental health took a bit hit.

This is awful. Big hugs to you & Greg.
 
So sorry about your MIL @missy

This is awful. Big hugs to you & Greg.



Thank you @YadaYadaYada. Thank you @Alex T ❤️

We miss her. Every day. I’m so happy we came to love and appreciate each other as we had a rocky beginning as some do with their mothers in law.

This was the last time we saw her before we saw her in the hospital.


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She was a force to be reckoned with and we all miss her. She was ahead of her time. A leader in her career and went into it at a time there were very few women entering the field. And raising three boys at the same time. She was smart and strong. May she RIP.
 
@missy...I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. I wonder if they had sent Covid patients to the ship if there might have been
hope for her? All hindsight...I know people were doing the best they could at the time...sigh
 
It’s almost a year since we were supposed to be going on a fabulous holiday with our friends. We’d originally been due to go on a cruise, but were notified in September 2019 that the ship wouldn’t be ready and the cruise was cancelled. That happened just after our lovely Dottie died, so it was another crappy thing in an already crappy time. Never mind we thought, we’ll use the flights and go somewhere else, so we booked Sandals in Barbados and St Lucia.

We were all excited about going, then there were rumblings about Covid. Our son rang us every day telling us we had to cancel, we mustn’t go, it was too dangerous, we told him we were monitoring the situation. He advised us to get masks because he’d been reading up and said it would be safer to wear masks if we needed to go out anywhere. The day before we were due to fly, our flights were cancelled, so that was that.

We then went in to lockdown, so basically couldn’t do anything or go anywhere. I spent a whole 24 hours on the internet trying to get a click and collect food order, but couldn’t find anything anywhere. My DH was particularly worried, and said to me numerous times, that if he got Covid make sure they didn’t just look at his age and right him off.

We ended up ordering food from anywhere in the country we could, so eventually felt a little calmer.

We gradually got used to our new life of staying in, not seeing anyone, or having any contact with the outside world.

Fortunately the months rolled in to summer and the good weather came. We worked on the garden, and when there was some easy of the lockdown, we met friends for a walk, and gradually, as the restrictions got less, we could meet friends in their garden and they could come to us. It felt a little more normal, but in the meantime, we’d missed a few trips, including those to see our son and future DIL.

Restrictions started to ease, and we even managed to go away for a couple of days with our friends in September. As a country, we were doing quite well, then it all went to pot and we were back in lockdown again. More cancelled trips, we’d hoped to spend Christmas with our son & DIL, but that was now off.

In January, our DS said they’d decided not to wait any longer, and they were going to get married, we told them, do it, who knows how long this is going on for, so they got married at the end of January, and we watched via FT. It was just the two of them, the official and their newly adopted dog.

Throughout all this, we clung on to the hope that an effective vaccine would be coming which would finally enable us to get back to some kind of normality. The vaccine rollout started at the end of December, and we were in lockdown again over Christmas (still are), but it’s been incredibly well managed and done on an age basis, so we knew it wouldn’t be too long before it was out turn. DH had his first jab 4 weeks ago, I had my first 3 weeks ago.

When this started, we watched the news avidly, listened to the daily updates, and felt helpless, hopeless and despairing at the ever mounting death toll. We couldn’t believe that people were denying this was happening, complaining about their lack of freedoms, and downright dismissing it as some kind of government conspiracy. After a few months, we decided not to keep watching the updates and limit the amount of news we read because it was getting to the stage where I was finding it hard to keep believing that we were ever going to get out the other side.

The turning point for me came during the summer when a friend realising I was struggling, invited us over to sit in her garden and have afternoon tea. It was a beautiful sunny day, and sitting outside, chatting, eating and drinking and feeling ‘normal’ really helped.

We’ve abided by all the lockdown restrictions, and it’s infuriating there are still people who just can’t think about others and do the same.

We consider ourselves lucky that being retired, we haven’t had to worry about losing jobs or our home, and throughout all this, we’ve had each other. I can’t imagine how awful it’s been for those who’re alone, or because of Covid, are now alone.

Let’s hope that this is the only time we ever have to live through something like this.

My heart goes out to all of you whose lives have been irreparably changed because of this.
 
Just before lockdown, I mean within days, I was at my daughter's high school for in person parent-teacher conferences. We could sense the dread, and the normally busy hallways bustling with parents waiting their turns for conferences were fairly empty. I heard from more than one teacher that at least half the parents canceled the conferences.

There were hand sanitizer stations set up in each classroom. There were signs outside each classroom asking parents to please not shake hands with the teachers.

And one teacher- I will never forget this greeted me with a handshake. I mean he grabbed my hand and held on to it and I had to pull it away from him. I told him that was not a good idea and he laughed and said the whole pandemic was exaggerated and would blow over in weeks. The entire meeting I kept focusing on not touching my face and immediately after I went to the bathroom and washed my hands!

Then a few days later I had to drive down to my daughter's college and move her out of her dorm because the college shut down. It was so depressing. She was a senior and she was realizing the reality that the rest of the semester would be at home and she would not have a graduation ceremony.

My son graduated high school last year too, no graduation ceremony. No prom.

I know that seems small in the big picture of the horrific last year, but we were just at the start of this and for my kids to not have a graduation and prom was really devastating to them.

Now they look at it and realize that was small compared to everything else that happened and so much suffering.
 
Thank you @YadaYadaYada. Thank you @Alex T ❤️

We miss her. Every day. I’m so happy we came to love and appreciate each other as we had a rocky beginning as some do with their mothers in law.

This was the last time we saw her before we saw her in the hospital.


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She was a force to be reckoned with and we all miss her. She was ahead of her time. A leader in her career and went into it at a time there were very few women entering the field. And raising three boys at the same time. She was smart and strong. May she RIP.

Missy, I am so sorry about your MIL. What a beautiful picture. Thanks for sharing!
 
Missy, I'm sorry about your MIL.
 
Very sorry about your MIL @missy

I've heard so many heartbreaking stores similar to this one.
 
I remember the very last fun time my husband & I spent together out in the world before lockdown. It was his birthday in very early March 2020. It was the last time I donned my sparklies and we went out to our favorite restaurant for dinner. It was a lovely evening and the memory of it has sustained us for over a year.

I thought 2020 was bad, and it was for much of the world, but for my family and me it was okay. We didn't lose our jobs and no one in our immediate family died or fell ill. We actually prospered which made us feel guilty (akin to survivors guilt perhaps?)

Yes, we were stir crazy at times, but we came up with new things to do to keep us busy and (mostly) sane. We appreciated the slower pace of life.

I had high hopes for 2021, but so far its been much worse for our family . We had a house disaster due to the Texas deep freeze and my father had a massive brain hemorrhage. His future is uncertain, but he is making some improvement.

Getting the first vaccine shot yesterday gave me hope for the future. My husband and I are allowing ourselves to dream about things that feel like crazy luxuries again, like going to the gym (gosh I miss the leg press! I love squeeeeeezing out all my angst and frustrations through my spindly little legs!) I dream about seeing my diamonds sparkle again under the lights of our favorite restaurant and listening to my dear, autistic-spectrum husband recite long rambling lists of facts about the wines on the wine list.

And I miss travel. I miss NYC and Paris and Chicago and Santa Fe. I miss going to the opera, the symphony and baseball games where I am in a giant crowd of enthusiastic people.

I want my dad to be strong enough and alert enough again to walk out the back door of my parents house and sit on their beach overlooking the Chesapeake Bay, with a bottle of wine and his toes in the sand.

Most of these things will probably happen again. I'm feeling hopeful. Cautiously optimistic.

I feel thankful for my husband and our strong, loving relationship. I feel thankful for our health (his and mine). I feel thankful my father didn't die when the blood vessel in his head broke (which he could easily have done). I am thankful for our prosperity which allows us to rebuild our home, feed ourselves and dream about future travel and jewelry. I feel thankful for our friends and our community, both IRL and here on PS. I feel thankful I live in a time in history where humankind can make vaccines for pandemics and give us hope for the future.
 
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Lol I just realized reading this that a year ago I flew into the US to give a talk. The whole event cancled (with no notice) while I was standing in a border control que in san francisco. I ended up canceling everything in the most horrendous way, became stranded in san francisco for a day (while I grappled with an insane lack of accomodation in palo alto due to a facebook conference/meeting which also subsequently canceled with no notice :lol:), and then going to Stanford. Which got covid in the medical school and officially shut the day I left. Funny thing is I had forgotten most of this :lol:. All I remember is a year ago my mother flew into the US to meet me and take care of my daughter. In the end I only really have good memories of it, and I think this is why.
 
I am thankful for PS; Being able to follow everyone’s posts helped me to feel connected and not so lonely when we were in shutdown and the world seemed so dark.
 
@missy...I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. I wonder if they had sent Covid patients to the ship if there might have been
hope for her? All hindsight...I know people were doing the best they could at the time...sigh

Thank you @tyty333. Yes Hindsight is always 20/20. I wish we had a crystal ball and I also wish we could change things for the better. I wish life worked like that. So much I wish that. I guess we do the best we can with the info we have at the time. But sometimes, we can see the accident happening in slow motion and there isn't much we can do. It is very frustrating and challenging. One day at a time and the best we can do. Thank you for your kind comments.

I am thankful for PS; Being able to follow everyone’s posts helped me to feel connected and not so lonely when we were in shutdown and the world seemed so dark.

So true. PS has been and continues to be a life preserver at times. A way to stay connected and share passions. ❤️

I feel thankful for my husband and our strong, loving relationship. I feel thankful for our health (his and mine). I feel thankful my father didn't die when the blood vessel in his head broke (which he could easily have done). I am thankful for our prosperity which allows us to rebuild our home, feed ourselves and dream about future travel and jewelry. I feel thankful for our friends and our community, both IRL and here on PS. I feel thankful I live in a time in history where humankind can make vaccines for pandemics and give us hope for the future.

100% agree. So thankful we live during a period where we can have a successful vaccine produced in record time. Amazing. And so grateful we have been able to afford living the way we do during a challenging time. I am very happy for you and your family @RunningwithScissors that your dad is OK and your family is doing well. Thank you for your kind condolences about my MIL.

Missy, I'm sorry about your MIL.

Thank you sweet @kipari. Much appreciated. XO.

Lol I just realized reading this that a year ago I flew into the US to give a talk. The whole event cancled (with no notice) while I was standing in a border control que in san francisco. I ended up canceling everything in the most horrendous way, became stranded in san francisco for a day (while I grappled with an insane lack of accomodation in palo alto due to a facebook conference/meeting which also subsequently canceled with no notice :lol:), and then going to Stanford. Which got covid in the medical school and officially shut the day I left. Funny thing is I had forgotten most of this :lol:. All I remember is a year ago my mother flew into the US to meet me and take care of my daughter. In the end I only really have good memories of it, and I think this is why.

I am sorry you got stranded but glad you have only good memories of what was a challenging time.

Just before lockdown, I mean within days, I was at my daughter's high school for in person parent-teacher conferences. We could sense the dread, and the normally busy hallways bustling with parents waiting their turns for conferences were fairly empty. I heard from more than one teacher that at least half the parents canceled the conferences.

There were hand sanitizer stations set up in each classroom. There were signs outside each classroom asking parents to please not shake hands with the teachers.

And one teacher- I will never forget this greeted me with a handshake. I mean he grabbed my hand and held on to it and I had to pull it away from him. I told him that was not a good idea and he laughed and said the whole pandemic was exaggerated and would blow over in weeks. The entire meeting I kept focusing on not touching my face and immediately after I went to the bathroom and washed my hands!

Then a few days later I had to drive down to my daughter's college and move her out of her dorm because the college shut down. It was so depressing. She was a senior and she was realizing the reality that the rest of the semester would be at home and she would not have a graduation ceremony.

My son graduated high school last year too, no graduation ceremony. No prom.

I know that seems small in the big picture of the horrific last year, but we were just at the start of this and for my kids to not have a graduation and prom was really devastating to them.

Now they look at it and realize that was small compared to everything else that happened and so much suffering.

Yeah, same here. My nieces both graduated and there was no ceremony and my youngest niece missed out on a special trip and other things due to graduating with honors etc. But both of my nieces are wise beyond their years and while disappointed they put it in perspective. They have many years of awards and honors and graduations to look forward to. This is but a blip (hopefully) on the radar. Glad your kids are doing well @asscherisme.

We consider ourselves lucky that being retired, we haven’t had to worry about losing jobs or our home, and throughout all this, we’ve had each other. I can’t imagine how awful it’s been for those who’re alone, or because of Covid, are now alone.

Let’s hope that this is the only time we ever have to live through something like this.

So grateful you came through all of it as well as you did and soon you will be reunited with your son and DIL. And yes please let this be the only pandemic for at least another few centuries. Fingers crossed. Be well and stay safe Austina. We are almost there.
 
I'm definitely a different person now than I was then. I remember not being initially worried, then the "toilet paper shortage" (which says a lot about supply management in many countries) It showed people's true colors as well.

My workload spiked to unbelievable highs and to this day has not let up. This pandemic especially at the start highlighted a lot of shortcomings in many areas of commerce and industry and unfortunately will remain high for the unforseeable future. While I'm happy and blessed to work (with so many who lost jobs) the pressure is extremely high.

I've sewed more masks than I can currently count. I stopped counting at 5K. I still sew them today but only for family as there is now parity with industry being able to meet demand in stores. But back then, ANYONE who could needed to.

We supported farmers more. Not sure about where everyone is, but Florida provides a lot of fruits/vegetables/meat to much of the country in the colder months. Because of some constraints getting those things OUT of Florida, it was opened up to go straight to the farmer.

So, we actually got some of the best nutrition ever! boxes and boxes of fruits, vegetables, eggs, meat.

I won't lie, if we didn't have another house, I'm not sure me and my husband would have made it...I probably (no not probably) drove him nuts sometimes. And he def. drove me nuts. Him wanting to go to conferences (which if you remember, he could not come back until he got tested) and going out to dinner with friends/business associates was some high sticking points. Thankfully we continue to discuss and hash out things, But we both agree that breaks (even for a day or 2) are super necessary as thats what keeps our relationship strong.


The covid numbers in Florida were eye watering. These days they are low and continuing to go down and I think it was said that about 30% of the population of FL had Corona which does not surprise me. There's now a variant going around but the numbers have not exploded, though I think some may have expected them to, considering what we know NOW, its likely that it may not get going as we're going into the wet season soon. As we all know, beyond the initial closures, we havent had one statewide. FL is highly dependent upon tourism, and so while it might not have been the right then to do, the state was opened for it. Certainly the counties in the south were the most highly affected and where most of the infections took place. And thankfully Marathon County kept people out of there (they don't have the hospitals space and it would have been pure devastation)

On the weather front hurricane season was kinda scary this past year as we got well into the greek alphabet. Not looking forward to this year as I've heard they're potentially looking at a start date of May 15.... :oops2: and will be on par with last season.


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There's probably so much I'm forgetting...lol I know I am, but its been absolutely crazy year. I'm hopeful we'll be seeing the back side of some of this by 2022.
 
I hope you are still planning on being our PS Hurricane Weather Person @Arcadian ? It really helps to have someone that's in the
know and someone to commiserate with in those scary times!
 
I hope you are still planning on being our PS Hurricane Weather Person @Arcadian ? It really helps to have someone that's in the
know and someone to commiserate with in those scary times!

Heck yeah! If I gotta live with it everyone else suffers...lol Seriously, I probably understand weather more NOW than ever, considering I live on a freaking sandbar! you didn't get many hurricanes in the NE, but you got them, they just never really came inland and we were a good 30 miles from Boston Harbor.

We did have some funky blizzards though! One year it took me 7 hours to get home... and I was only going from Brookline to Natick! (folks in Massachusetts knows thats not really all that far apart!) I went through some of my old pictures and my goodness, I've got pictures of the 10 ft snow walls from 2014 in there....lol
 
@missy Sending you a big hug and positive thoughts. I'm sorry to hear about your MIL, but glad to hear you and Greg are OK. 2020-2021 has been such a difficult time, despite all of our resilience and gratitude. Hopefully something positive (giving mother nature a break from all the commuting/pollution, mRNA vaccines for other diseases, a chance to reflect and slow down) and realignment of priorities (to cherish time with loved ones) can come of it. I'm cautiously optimistic with the vaccines that we will be in a better place soon.
 
Wow.. thanks Missy for starting this thread.
Your account was so gritty and real.
I loved everyone's recollections of the past year. It shows how similar we all are.
Nobody had any idea of what was coming down the pike for us.
We treasured our lives before, realized our strength and endurance during this past 12 months and feel hopeful and optimistic about the future.
 
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