lumpkin
Ideal_Rock
- Joined
- May 24, 2005
- Messages
- 2,491
I just found out my cousin who is less than a year older than I am has breast cancer and is soon to go into surgery for a double mastectomy. I haven''t talked to her in years and was never really that close to her, but she has three kids, one of whom is under 5, and I am just heartsick for her.
I have no idea what to say or do for her because, as I said, I don''t know her very well. I want to do something that would not be overly familiar, nor "OMG, you poooooor thing" (no one in her situation needs that), but something that would help her in some way. I could sure use some ideas from anyone who''s had a situation like this.
Also, what do I say to her mother? Again, I don''t know her really well, so it can''t be anything that presumes a closeness that isn''t there but is still helpful. They live in another part of the country so I rarely see them (as in years between visits).
Honestly, I can''t think of much worse than facing the possibility of death when you have young children, or as a mother, watching your daughter face death in this way. Anything you can offer in advice would be very welcome.
I have no idea what to say or do for her because, as I said, I don''t know her very well. I want to do something that would not be overly familiar, nor "OMG, you poooooor thing" (no one in her situation needs that), but something that would help her in some way. I could sure use some ideas from anyone who''s had a situation like this.
Also, what do I say to her mother? Again, I don''t know her really well, so it can''t be anything that presumes a closeness that isn''t there but is still helpful. They live in another part of the country so I rarely see them (as in years between visits).
Honestly, I can''t think of much worse than facing the possibility of death when you have young children, or as a mother, watching your daughter face death in this way. Anything you can offer in advice would be very welcome.