Wedding 5 more days....

[ephemery1]

... until my wedding!!!

I really can't believe it's here already... to make things even more surreal, I just ended my year-long internship and had my last class of the semester today... such a whirlwind of changes and endings and beginnings all at once!!

I have been a basket-case for the last few months... just way too much on my plate, and all the emotional work (contemplating my new identity as a married person, letting go of my single-ness!) has been SO draining. I had no idea I was going to react so strongly to all of that! But fortunately I think I've worked through the toughest stuff, so that this week I actually feel calmer than I've felt since... probably last year?

FI has been completely calm and cool and collected this whole time, with enough enthusiasm for both of us... every time I started freaking out about something, he was there to balance me out and remind me how happy and excited he is... pretty amazing, in retrospect. My MOH has been the same way... totally grounding and supportive of every single one of my crazy moods.

Although I think they spent some time conferring with each other about how to "handle" me.

Anyway, it's been a while so I just wanted to check in... and I'd love to hear other people's experiences with all the pre-marriage emotional stuff... I found a couple of great books on it, but otherwise I never would have known what to expect! Then again, I'm a therapist with a tendency to be extremely sensitive... my reaction really shouldn't have come as much of a surprise to me.

Oh, and as of now... May 5th forecast is calling for sun and mid-60s... keep your fingers crossed!!

 

[budgetbride]

Congratulations and goodluck. it''s like you are at the finish line of one of the races in your life!!!

 

[So_happy]

I am so glad to hear you have struggled but yet prevailed for you are officially stronger now than when you started You are entering your marriage that much stronger and secure than you were a year ago. That is a fantastic and even desired outcome. Just think.....throughout your life you will evaluate and reevaluate the path you are on....this is encouraged for we should not go blindly through our life......but evaluate why we are on a path.........and then choose to continue.

A wholehearted "congratulations" on being less than a week away from the next chapter in your life. Doesn't it feel great to finally turn that page???!!

 

[labbielove]

Wow you have a lot going on-
well, i haven''t been in the prewedding stage yet (ask me in September!)
but- my only advice would be to do some deep breathing and ENJOY the day...I understand it goes by soooo fast.

Can''t wait to get a full report, and the weather sounds absolutely perfect-

congratulations

 

[basil]

Yeay, Ephemery!

It must be so nice to be in the home stretch. I have to admit, I''m a little envious as I''m sitting here dreading the next year (for reasons totally unrelated to wedding planning). Good luck, and I hope the weather holds out!

 

[Jaders731]

Good Luck and Congrats (in advance) Ephemery!!!!

Sounds like everything is coming together.. and now you can take just a moment to pause and take a breath!!!

the weather sounds beautiful.. cant wait to see pictures!!!

 

[onedrop]

Congratulations! You''ve done a lot of hardwork. Now it''s time to sit back and enjoy, you owe that to yourself. We can''t wait to hear about it all and see the pictures!!!

 

[dani13]

Hi Eph!!

I can''t believe your wedding is like, so soon!!! Time flies!!! Everything about your day will be lovely and go smoothly, dont worry!!! I understand what you mean about the pre-wedding anxiety and being emotional about giving up your single-dom and everything...it is very hard..... just keep focusing on the fact that you are starting your new life with your absolutely fabulous husband-to-be!! You are about to begin a whole new chapter....Good luck with everything, and don''t forget to post pics!!!!

 

[FireGoddess]

Wow, time really flies doesn''t it! I remember your excitement when you first got engaged!!!

Have a wonderful wedding, and don''t sweat a thing. Just relax and enjoy.

 

[bee*]

best of luck on the 5th!! Enjoy the day!

 

[ephemery1]

Thanks so much, everyone.... FG, I remember that first-got-engaged excitement too... can''t believe it''s been 11 months since then!!

There are so many last-minute things we''re trying to get done around here, but tomorrow my mom is picking me up to head home (getting my dress on the way!), then Thurs morning everything (place cards, candy for buffet, cake knife set, other decorative things) gets taken over to the reception site, Friday I have a spa day with two of my bridesmaids and closest friends..... then Saturday!! EEK!!!

And so_happy, your post was really true... it is a really great feeling to have thought so intensely about all of this and still come to the same conclusion... that I am definitely marrying the right person.

Oh, and random side note: when I was 14 I started writing letters to my future husband.... I have about 8 years worth of them stored up (between the ages of 14 and 22), to give him on our wedding day (or maybe honeymoon).... how crazy is that?? It was so much fun (and slightly cringe-worthy!) reading through them...

 

[emilina22]

thats so cool ive got em too... and when my B/F and i started dating we passed back and forth this one journal when we were in highschool (we went to different schools) and so during classes we would write to each otehr he would have it one week i would have it another....i love our book and i made him a copy to give to him...when we get married....

 

[dani13]

Eph-

Not to side-track, but if you dont mind, are you treating your bm's/friends to the spa day on Friday or no? I think this is such a great idea, and something I would love to do, but taking 5 girls (my bp) to an upscale spa for the day might get kinda pricey, ya know? Besides, I was planning on paying for their hair to be done on the day of the wedding.....So, just wondering what you did??.... Thanks!!!

 

[rainbowtrout]

Wow! Congrats!

 

[Kaleigh]

My best wishes to you ephemery, I hope you have a blast!!! Looks like great weather on the 5th!! I''ll be thinking of you. ENJOY!!!!!

 

[Skippy123]

Exciting and congrats in advance! Enjoy your special day and don't sweat the small stuff! Try and take it all in

It will be a wonderful day!!!

 

[Gypsy]

WOW! So soon! Can''t wait to see the pics!

Best wishes for a beautiful sunny... and stressfree day full of love and laughter!

 

[Mara]

awww ephem i can''t wait to see your purty pictures of you in that fab dress!!! pre-congrats and ENJOY every minute of the madness, it makes for seriously awesome memories later...you will want to remember everything and not be able to. so just decompress and enjoy. have fun lady!

 

[Mandarine]

Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have a great time!!!!

M~

 

[Blenheim]

Congrats!

Dani -- I''m telling them that I''m getting my nails done Friday morning and that they''re welcome to join me if they want.

 

[akw94]

Congratulations!! I''m excited for you and sure you will have a wonderful day!

 

[Blenheim]

Now that I have more time, I''ll weigh in on the emotional aspects of engagement-

I''ve noticed that my FI is completely calm and collected too. I mentioned to him a while back that we seemed to be having opposite reactions to being engaged (I was all over the place emotionally initially, while he''s been very stable) and he said that it was because he worked through all of the tougher things before he ever proposed. I was able to work through all of the hardest emotional aspects in maybe the first six months of engagement, and now I know I just want to be married to him. I have one more week left than you do. I was very open with FI as I was going through all of these different emotions, and if anything it brought us closer together.

I think that we must have read some of the same books, and I''m really glad that I stumbled upon them. My mom hasn''t been there emotionally for me the way I was hoping. She and my father separated over Christmas, and I think that her own personal relationship issues were clouding all advice that she was trying to give me. The books really helped to give a more balanced perspective. (Like -- it''s normal to wonder if you''re doing the right thing before making a huge life-changing decision, and it doesn''t mean that you''re going to end up miserable and in the same situation as your mom is 25 years.)

I''ve got my fingers crossed for your good weather. As of today, the forecast for May 12 is mostly cloudy during the day, thunderstorms at night. It''s too far out to be accurate, and I was really worried for a moment that it would be thundering as we''re supposed to be saying our vows outside. But our backup room has two walls of windows and overlooks a waterfall, and I''m sure that it would be stunning in a storm. Just in a different way. I''m excited either way.

 

[jas]

Best of luck to you, girl -- I will keep my toes and eyes crossed that the day will be nothing but splendid! And it will be!

XO,
Jackie