Is it custom to ask both parents for their daughters hand or just the father? The main problem is that her parents are divorced but do live in the same city that is in driving distance for me. So should I ask the father at his home with his wife (my girlfriends step mom) present or just him alone? And, should I then go to her moms house who is not remarried yet and ask or tell her I am going to do it? The whole family basically knows it is coming soon, like within the next month or 2 soon. So I know it will not be a total shock but I do want to do the right and customary thing because I know her parents will appreciate that. They are both on the traditional side. Any help?