Wedding 2 weeks from my wedding and I just want it to be over!!

[karasue91]

So my wedding is two weeks from tomorrow, and I don''t even want to think about it. We have been scrambling to get renovations done on our house before the wedding because my family is staying there, and I am just so burnt out from thinking about the house, I don''t want to think about the wedding at all.

The thing I''m most worried about is that I haven''t written my vows yet, and I have no idea when I''m going to do this. Plus, renovations are stressful and FI and I have been at each other''s throats for weeks over the renos. So, I haven''t exactly been in a good frame of mind for writing wedding vows.

I feel like the outstanding things are pretty big, such as who is going to set up our centerpieces, no escort cards or seating arrangements, how the f am I going to get polaroid film for our guest book (without FI exploding that I spent like $300 on it since it seems like its going to be expensive), I have no idea who is giving speeches, we have no decorations for our ceremony, no idea what we are going to do for favors ( I know they aren''t necessary but I wanted to have something edible for people to have a little bite before dinner), and FMIL wants to do out of town bags too.

All of these things wouldn''t be that big of a deal if we weren''t so focused on the house....they would be totally manageable in the next two weeks. Except for the fact that we are actually moving into the house on Sunday, so unpacking and all that crap is going to take over.

I just want to curl into a ball and go to sleep and wake up when we are married and it''s time to go on our honeymoon....don''t want to think about the stress of dealing my family either, which is a horse of a different color.

ugh thanks for letting me vent

 

[matildawong]

Oh, Karasue, i'm sorry you've got so much going on. I don't have any wise words of advice but I just wanted to offer some support. Hang in there!

 

[doodle]

awwwww! you need a glass of wine, girl! seriously, can you delegate some stuff to a bridesmaid or something? would something like this work? best of luck to ya, and just keep in mind--two weeks from now, you''ll be married!!!!

 

[Gypsy]

Kara, get the book Violet recommended. Helped both John and me write our vows. It was so helpful, I can''t even tell you!

I picked mine up at BN but you can just order it online.

http://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Ceremony-Planner-Essential-Important/dp/1402203438/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1217050471&sr=8-1

100% stress relief from vow writing guaranteed. They have dozens of vows... mix, match, personalize. Best piece of wedding advice I''ve received is to get this book (thank you Violet!).

 

[karasue91]

thanks matilda, support is really all i was looking for. it does help, amazingly

 

[karasue91]

Date: 7/26/2008 1:28:33 AM
Author: doodle
awwwww! you need a glass of wine, girl! seriously, can you delegate some stuff to a bridesmaid or something? would something like this work? best of luck to ya, and just keep in mind--two weeks from now, you''ll be married!!!!

hi doodle, i only have 2 BMs and one of them lives in texas, so there''s not much she can do to help, unfortunately. i had considered asking her to pick up the film for me because everything is more expensive in Canada (where i live) but i''m afraid that the x-rays they use at the airport will develop the film. i need to look around for some film this week maybe.....work has been nuts the last 2 weeks too, which hasn''t helped!

the parts i''m most worried about are who is going to decorate the reception hall and when will i write my vows. i''ll focus on those for now...maybe see if my other BM or FMIL can track down some polaroid film for me....

 

[karasue91]

Date: 7/26/2008 1:36:24 AM
Author: Gypsy
Kara, get the book Violet recommended. Helped both John and me write our vows. It was so helpful, I can''t even tell you!


I picked mine up at BN but you can just order it online.


http://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Ceremony-Planner-Essential-Important/dp/1402203438/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1217050471&sr=8-1


100% stress relief from vow writing guaranteed. They have dozens of vows... mix, match, personalize. Best piece of wedding advice I''ve received is to get this book (thank you Violet!).

thanks for the book suggestion, i must have missed violet''s thread about that book. i''ll check out the bookstores around here, shipping things up here always seems to take twice as long as it is supposed to. I''m soooo looking forward to looking through it now!

this is terrible, but FI let me read the vows he has written so far. one evening we sat down and said we were going to write them, and i knew it was bad news when he finished in about 3 minutes!! all i said was "awww" and gave him a big hug, but told him i want to be surprised so don''t read the rest of them to me when he''s done. but, they weren''t great....hahaha they just felt rushed. so i''m crossing my fingers that this book will help!!

thanks gypsy

 

[Sabine]

Awe Kara, I hope things settle down for you! I''m sure everything will get done, but it stinks that you have to be so stressed before the big day. It might help to schedule out all your tasks, and only give yourself one main task a day, so that things seem more manageable.

 

[isaku5]

Aw, Kerasue, I can certainly understand why you''re feeling overwhelmed! You''ve got way too much going on, girl. As a veteran of one year of reno h*ll, I was ready to throw away a 44 year marriage. I was ready like you to choke my husband, and leave him for vulture bait,

and I wasn''t even planning a wedding.

In fact, there wouldn''t have been a wedding at all!

The fact that you''re still speaking to your FH, gives me cause for great optimism.

I suggest sitting down with DF and making a list of the items that still need attention. Then start delegating: decorations and anything else you don''t have to do personally. Stop working on the reno until after the honeymoon

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Your main job is to look after writing your vows and any other personal things that only you can do

What part of Canada are you from? I live in Ontario, and if I can send you anything you need, I''d be more than happy to do so.

 

[CJ2008]

Sorry you''re dealing with so much stuff right now...definitely try to delegate what you can...

I''ve never gone through renovations, but I hear they''re extremely stressful. But do what you can on your part to not to fight with FI too much...maybe go out to dinner and talk about things over a nice glass of wine...

 

[karasue91]

Date: 7/26/2008 10:37:17 AM
Author: Sabine
Awe Kara, I hope things settle down for you! I''m sure everything will get done, but it stinks that you have to be so stressed before the big day. It might help to schedule out all your tasks, and only give yourself one main task a day, so that things seem more manageable.

Thanks Sabine

Today my main task is golfing in the mountains for our company golf trip. I''m a terrible golfer but I can''t wait to get out in the mountain air and have some fun!

I spoke with FI about it, and he agrees that I need to focus on the wedding right now, and he can focus on the unpacking of our house. It''s a pretty fair trade off since I hate unpacking with a passion. I''m feeling much better, he''s awesome

 

[karasue91]

Date: 7/26/2008 11:38:34 AM
Author: isaku5
Aw, Kerasue, I can certainly understand why you''re feeling overwhelmed! You''ve got way too much going on, girl. As a veteran of one year of reno h*ll, I was ready to throw away a 44 year marriage. I was ready like you to choke my husband, and leave him for vulture bait,

and I wasn''t even planning a wedding.

In fact, there wouldn''t have been a wedding at all!

The fact that you''re still speaking to your FH, gives me cause for great optimism.

I suggest sitting down with DF and making a list of the items that still need attention. Then start delegating: decorations and anything else you don''t have to do personally. Stop working on the reno until after the honeymoon

.

Your main job is to look after writing your vows and any other personal things that only you can do

What part of Canada are you from? I live in Ontario, and if I can send you anything you need, I''d be more than happy to do so.

hahaha Isaku, you know exactly how I feel!!! It''s just that he has different priorities than I do when it comes to the house, and apparently my priorities are wrong, hahaha. I finally made him sit down and explain to me what exactly he feels is important right now and why. And then he agreed that I should focus on the wedding and he will do the unpacking of the house, which is totally fine by me as I detest unpacking. Our renos are done for now until we get back from the honeymoon and tackle the bathrooms

We live in Calgary, but you are so sweet for offering to help!!!

 

[karasue91]

Date: 7/26/2008 1:26:06 PM
Author: claudinam
Sorry you''re dealing with so much stuff right now...definitely try to delegate what you can...

I''ve never gone through renovations, but I hear they''re extremely stressful. But do what you can on your part to not to fight with FI too much...maybe go out to dinner and talk about things over a nice glass of wine...

Thanks claudinam, I am working on the delegating thing. Why is it so easy at work but so hard with my friends and family?? I have decided to follow FSIL''s suggestion and ditch the polaroids for one of those little digital photo printers so I don''t have to worry about the polaroids. She has been wanting to buy one for a while anyway, I''m just a little worried that the guest book I had made is a little small for that size of photo, since I had it made with the size of the polaroids in mind. Oh well, we''ll figure something out.

Now that the renos are over for now, we aren''t bickering so much. I just can''t wait for the honeymoon to reconnect and then come back and actually move into our house. We have decided that since we would only be able to sleep there for like 10 nights before my family gets here (we are letting my family have our house during the wedding), we will just continue living with FI''s parents until we get back from the honeymoon. I''m hoping I can convince them to move our clothes into our house while we are away on our honeymoon.....it would be so nice to not have to worry about that when we get back!! And then when we get back we''ll be living in our house together, it''s almost like we are just moving in together for the first time (except we''ve lived together for 2 years, but always with roommates or parents, hahaha!!)

 

[winston26]

You poor thing! It will all be ok now that rennovations and unpacking are off your list! I know where you''re coming from. If it makes you feel any better, I couldn''t invite anyone over for help because the house was such a mess......and that was only from replacing the kitchen and bathroom floors! Can''t really have friends over to make favors when a toilet is sitting smack in the middle of the dining room, right? I can''t believe I didn''t choke him.
So much stress I could not WAIT for it to be all over. Then when it was over, I was sad about it. So try to chill out and really take in the day.......forgetting all the garbage that led up to it.... and really have as much fun as you can!