Hello everyone. I have a unique situation in which my girlfriend''s Mom is now divorced and the Dad is somewhat estranged. Back in May, right before they would all be in town for her Graduate School graduation, I called her Mom to ask for her blessing. They still have a parent/child as opposed to adult/adult relationship and her Mom always wishes she''d come back home and she told me that she hardly knows me and that she hasn''t talked to her daughter about me a lot and she really needs to think things over and asked me to at least wait.
She raised concerns about her daughter stayin in DC just for me, and not really knowing what love is, thing slike that. Mostly cuz they don''t communicate openly and honestly I think, and cuz her mom went through a terrible marriage and divorce - even though it was 10 years ago. The father was slightly abusive.
So of course I defended myself and might of said some stupid things but she seemed ok with it until I wrote her a few days later saying i was going to go ahead anyway (but that i had thought about it). She went nuts and tracked down her daughter at my house that night and told her i was going to propose (even though i didn''t have the ring yet) and ruined te whole thing and upset my girlfriend.
Well months and months later, we have decided we are ready to get engaged (again) and are visiting her Mom next weekend to tell her. Any tips? Advice? I have the ring, would it be better to propose before we go or after?
She raised concerns about her daughter stayin in DC just for me, and not really knowing what love is, thing slike that. Mostly cuz they don''t communicate openly and honestly I think, and cuz her mom went through a terrible marriage and divorce - even though it was 10 years ago. The father was slightly abusive.
So of course I defended myself and might of said some stupid things but she seemed ok with it until I wrote her a few days later saying i was going to go ahead anyway (but that i had thought about it). She went nuts and tracked down her daughter at my house that night and told her i was going to propose (even though i didn''t have the ring yet) and ruined te whole thing and upset my girlfriend.
Well months and months later, we have decided we are ready to get engaged (again) and are visiting her Mom next weekend to tell her. Any tips? Advice? I have the ring, would it be better to propose before we go or after?