Circe|1367552833|3439358 said:AutumnNovember, I have no relevant psychic abilities. I do, however, have a long history of misplacing my stuff.
First thing: use kinetic memory. Like, literally, walk through what you remember doing, but without thinking about it consciously. You know how sometimes when you're trying to remember a word, you wave your hands a little until they mime the thing you're thinking of? Yeah, like that.
Second: be aware of the obdurate stubbornness of things. I once lost a favorite necklace for two months. How? Apparently, when I took off my shirt, it looped on a button and hung there quietly until the next time I chose to wear that shirt ... ages after I had stopped mourning the pendant. So with your ring, seriously, if you think you put it in the holder, look to see where it could have fallen and bounced to. It might be in a shoe, for all you know.
Third: since you genuinely don't remember, don't underestimate your own capacity for hiding things. I spent YEARS being faintly pissed off that a hard-to-find packet of synthetic rutile (a kind of simulant used in the 50s, very hard to find now) had disappeared off my workbench during a party. Like, ten years. And a few months ago, I found it in a box of jewelry tools I never use. Guess I must have "craftily" hidden them before the party. D'oh.
And finally ... dude, if somebody stole it, they suck. I'm pretty sure somebody lifted a ruby necklace I got for a long-ago birthday, and I'm bitter (and I wasn't insured either, so I know how THAT sucks). But it's not something you should kick yourself for, 'cause you can't control people's dishonestly.
And hey, who knows ... you could find it in a shoe, or a hiding place, or whatever. In the meantime, though, take your own advice - get a good night's sleep, and don't drive yourself nuts. You'll find it. We'll help!
manderz|1367553646|3439367 said:AN is younger with long dark hair.
arkieb1|1367555485|3439380 said:Lets ignore the cleaner for a minute. How long has the helper been working for you?
Circe|1367555933|3439384 said:Sorry - posted a thing, deleted it 'cause it didn't seem helpful. Hope it didn't offend if anybody saw it while it was up (just an alternative possibility).
arkieb1|1367556101|3439387 said:Circe|1367555933|3439384 said:Sorry - posted a thing, deleted it 'cause it didn't seem helpful. Hope it didn't offend if anybody saw it while it was up (just an alternative possibility).
Honestly I am not trying to accuse anyone of anything at this point. I am trying to work through who could have moved clothing, bags, trash and so on and where they have moved them to. So you didn't see the helper and you have no idea what colour she was wearing? Do they have a uniform? Were you wearing mostly brown or blue do they?
Autumnovember|1367557581|3439391 said:Im going to talk to cleaner again and make sure the story is straight. She doesn't speak English well at all so there are sone communication problems. I don't even think helper drives. Anytime she has come along, she drives with cleaner.
arkieb1|1367558087|3439392 said:This is a practical question not one from the universe if that makes sense. When you stash or hide stuff do you always put it somewhere in the cupboard closet? Have you ever put it in strange places like in the draws in the fridge in the draws of the car?
arkieb1|1367558237|3439394 said:Autumnovember|1367557581|3439391 said:Im going to talk to cleaner again and make sure the story is straight. She doesn't speak English well at all so there are sone communication problems. I don't even think helper drives. Anytime she has come along, she drives with cleaner.
O.K if she usually arrives and or leaves with the cleaner and she wasn't there, how did she leave? Did someone else pick her up, was there someone else in your place?
Autumnovember|1367559137|3439402 said:arkieb1|1367558237|3439394 said:Autumnovember|1367557581|3439391 said:Im going to talk to cleaner again and make sure the story is straight. She doesn't speak English well at all so there are sone communication problems. I don't even think helper drives. Anytime she has come along, she drives with cleaner.
O.K if she usually arrives and or leaves with the cleaner and she wasn't there, how did she leave? Did someone else pick her up, was there someone else in your place?
That's what I mean, I think cleaner confused the shit outta me. Lets ignore helper, only cleaner was there when I came. I'm gonna speak to her in person and see if she was even here. Major language barrier.
arkieb1|1367559567|3439405 said:Autumnovember|1367559137|3439402 said:arkieb1|1367558237|3439394 said:Autumnovember|1367557581|3439391 said:Im going to talk to cleaner again and make sure the story is straight. She doesn't speak English well at all so there are sone communication problems. I don't even think helper drives. Anytime she has come along, she drives with cleaner.
O.K if she usually arrives and or leaves with the cleaner and she wasn't there, how did she leave? Did someone else pick her up, was there someone else in your place?
That's what I mean, I think cleaner confused the shit outta me. Lets ignore helper, only cleaner was there when I came. I'm gonna speak to her in person and see if she was even here. Major language barrier.
I don't think your cleaner has taken the ring. I would be getting to the bottom of if anyone else was in your place like the helper, the helpers friends etc, just in case you don't find it.
O.K thats it for me you need to get some zzzzzzzs. I know its hard but if you wake up with a clear mind it will help you search tomorrow.
thing2of2|1367589873|3439555 said:Keeping my fingers crossed you find it!
Pray to St. Anthony if you're so inclined. (I was raised Catholic and that's what my mom does.) The prayer goes "Saint Anthony, Saint Anthony, please take a look around. Something is lost and cannot be found."
GemFever|1367586764|3439520 said:I wish I could come over to your place and help you search. I'm great at finding things -- but I have to be physically present and searching for it. Sending you great search vibes -- you'll find it! I also think it will be in an unlikely place where it got accidentally. Good luck AN, do not despair!
Elisateach|1367597604|3439640 said:Look carefully in the space under the sink near the cabinet. Check the vaccum bag! Dont throw away ANY garbage.
Dear St Anthony please look around, somethings been lost and needs to be found!
or this gem.... pray to St Dymphna patron saint of Mental Illness... Help me find ____________before I go out of my mind!!