diamondfan
Super_Ideal_Rock
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- Jun 17, 2005
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I am not trying to be non empathetic, but can you really control or worry about who might be sad or lonely or not able/want to go to an event solo? Can that really be something on the bride to be''s mind pertaining to all single guests who are not any type of relationship at the time? Versus you invite and have your delineations as you see fit (married or living together or engaged yes just casual dates no or whatever works for you) and let THEM decide if they want to attend as a solo? I have many times gone to things and not known a soul and had a blast. Most times, I do not hang exclusively with hubby anyway, I like certain people he is less fond of, and maybe he gravitates toward people he only sees at some events...so we mingle with each other very little anyway. I just think, it is your once in a lifetime (hopefully) day, and you can make it how you would like, be it based on feelings, space, or budgets. And invited guests have the right to not come, but to be adding in guests and such or to be deciding to attend someone''s wedding based on who you will know there just seems a bit selfish to me. I can easily find a reason not to attend certain events, but I just decide, hey, is the person important to me, and if so, I go and I enjoy myself as best as I can. Has EVERY event I attended solo been the best thing ever? No. But I am comfortable enough, whatever my preference might be, to say, I am cool with going and sharing the moment with them.