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Date: 6/24/2009 9:04:39 PM
Author:noreen925
Shouldn''t a girl LOVE her ring. Check out the pics. Gimme some advice/reassurance please!!!!
Date: 6/25/2009 12:28:59 AM
Author: jstarfireb
Date: 6/24/2009 9:04:39 PM
Author:noreen925
Shouldn''t a girl LOVE her ring. Check out the pics. Gimme some advice/reassurance please!!!!
It depends. If you had a specific cut or setting in mind, and he got you something completely different, then sure, you might not love your ring. For example, I mentioned to my husband that I wanted a princess, and if he would have surprised me with a round, I wouldn''t have loved it quite as much as the princess we picked out together. Same with the setting. I wanted a solitaire; if he had chosen a pave band or a 3-stone, I wouldn''t have quite the same feeling about it. I would still be grateful to have gotten a nice engagement ring, but it would mean that he completely disregarded my tastes that I clearly communicated to him. Know what I mean? Thankfully, he didn''t, and we picked out a beautiful ring together.
However, it seems that your main concern is about size. You may need some perspective on the issue. The average center stone size in the US, according to this thread, is 0.38ct. Yours is much, much bigger than that. Even bigger than the 1.6 that is quoted as the average for large metropolitan areas like NYC. Someone did a survey here and found that the average Pricescoper''s ring is 1ct. This is Pricescope, where everyone seems to have something huge and we all love diamonds, so that''s a pretty inflated estimate. Anyway, just saying that 1.8 is well beyond the norm of engagement ring size.
If it were me, I would certainly communicate with the fiance regarding a stylistic issue, but I would keep my mouth shut if it''s all about size. You will be perceived as ungrateful and demanding if you tell him you want a bigger rock right away. Selfishness and greed are not the way to start a good marriage...but compromise is. Consider resetting it into a halo or 3-stone for an anniversary, or upgrading the center stone later on. But for now, I''d suggest living with it and seeing if it grows on you.
Sorry if I''m being harsh, but I prefer to tell it like it is. There''s just something that rubs me the wrong way about people feeling entitled to a huge ring, or feeling that a rock that is substantially larger than my own is inadequate. Especially at the beginning of a marriage.
-JstarfireB, newlywed and owner of a ''small'' 1ct engagement ring...
Date: 6/24/2009 9:29:54 PM
Author: MakingTheGrade
Haha, I have a .9ct solitaire, and I''ve gotten so many compliments about what a huge, gorgeous rock it is.
So I think the 1.8ct is definitely big enough!
If you still want more finger coverage, maybe get it reset in a halo setting for your one yr anniversary? And you can reuse this setting later for a RHR. I also think your fiance would be less sensitive to changing the setting than the stone (some guys get pretty attached to the diamond itself, probably wouldn''t take to kindly to the idea of trading it in for something bigger anytime soon).
And I actually don''t know if the majority of girls are totally ga-ga over the ring if they didn''t have any input at all. It''s a lot to ask for a guy to pick out such an important and unique piece of jewelery that perfectly suits his girl''s taste. Most girls I know who got a ring that their fiance picked out alone love their ring, but it''s not what they would have picked out. I would definitely have picked a different setting than my fiance, but it doesn''t really matter, I love him and so I love the ring It''s not something worth worrying over.
Awwwww Noreen, I never thought you were ungrateful. On the contrary, I think your reaction is perfectly normal. Its like when you go to see a movie that you think you would like then after you see it you feel cheated and disappointed. Its normal. I guess "waiting for the proposal" make our expectation is so high that it becomes unreal. Then when reality hits, we lost our balance.Date: 6/25/2009 12:32:18 AM
Author: noreen925
wowwwww what a varied amount of responses. some really made me laugh (no gold floors for me, this is the first diamond I have ever gotten!!!) I am really not a spoiled brat, some people tell me it is because I have never worn a diamond ring before so it may come from that. I was honestly just looking for some reassurance and your thoughts on the ring. I do know it is a beautiful ring, i just am new to the whole thing and always thought it would just look bigger on my hand. The more I looked at it the smaller it looked to me! I just want to LOVE it and be sure it is beautiful! As I said I am no diamond expert and no one seemed to have said it''s ugly. I haven''t mentioned anything to the fiance at all, he just said ''i want you to love it and if you don''t we can change it'' and i don''t have the heart to say anything, but I do like the ideas about changing the setting for an anniversary. let''s see, so you all like it? once again, i am really not ungrateful, just more looking for reassurance about the ring !!!
no it won''t.!!Date: 6/25/2009 12:42:26 AM
Author: noreen925
in response to those asking what kind of ring i wanted ...he got exactly 100% of what I wanted, just the size of the center stone is what I was unsure about. But he got everything else right, and in fact I never said anything specific about what size it had to be. I haven''t even been wearing it 2 days so like everyone said, i hope it grows on me
with 3 ct stones all the way around!!Date: 6/25/2009 2:27:03 AM
Author: mscushion
Sounds like you just didn''t know how small diamonds really are. Did you try a lot of rings with or without your FI?
I remember another poster saying something similar a while back -- that once she had a diamond on her finger, she was disappointed by small it looked, regardless of the size.
I really think you have a gorgeous rock. Gorgeous. And HUGE.
If I were you, I would not say anything to your fiance. Instead, upgrade your setting to a halo setting, as others have suggested, for your wedding or one of your first marriage anniversaries.
Yum.Date: 6/25/2009 2:32:51 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
with 3 ct stones all the way around!!Date: 6/25/2009 2:27:03 AM
Author: mscushion
Sounds like you just didn''t know how small diamonds really are. Did you try a lot of rings with or without your FI?
I remember another poster saying something similar a while back -- that once she had a diamond on her finger, she was disappointed by small it looked, regardless of the size.
I really think you have a gorgeous rock. Gorgeous. And HUGE.
If I were you, I would not say anything to your fiance. Instead, upgrade your setting to a halo setting, as others have suggested, for your wedding or one of your first marriage anniversaries.
If you''ve never worn a diamond ring before and you got your idea of how big a diamond should look on your hand from pics like the ones below, well, yes, I can see why you''d be disappointed. I wouldn''t mind getting a nice 18-carat rock myself.Date: 6/25/2009 12:32:18 AM
Author: noreen925
wowwwww what a varied amount of responses. some really made me laugh (no gold floors for me, this is the first diamond I have ever gotten!!!) I am really not a spoiled brat, some people tell me it is because I have never worn a diamond ring before so it may come from that. I was honestly just looking for some reassurance and your thoughts on the ring. I do know it is a beautiful ring, i just am new to the whole thing and always thought it would just look bigger on my hand. The more I looked at it the smaller it looked to me! I just want to LOVE it and be sure it is beautiful! As I said I am no diamond expert and no one seemed to have said it''s ugly. I haven''t mentioned anything to the fiance at all, he just said ''i want you to love it and if you don''t we can change it'' and i don''t have the heart to say anything, but I do like the ideas about changing the setting for an anniversary. let''s see, so you all like it? once again, i am really not ungrateful, just more looking for reassurance about the ring !!!