Cehrabehra
Super_Ideal_Rock
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::heavy sigh::
At what point do you cut your losses and move on? I know this is different for everyone and I''m sure I''ve already pushed it way beyond what others would tolerate, but this has become very difficult for me. I feel like I''m in a relationship with someone I love but it just isn''t working. I always thought of myself as brash and blunt but through this experience I am discovering I may be more of a people pleaser than I thought - with no skills on how to reconcile it all.
And the worst part is I feel so isolated. I feel like I cannot talk about the experience without being disloyal or hurtful. I was IMing with a diamond lover friend and he opened my eyes about a few things. But I feel like I''ve become so invested both in time and money that the losses are too great to move in another direction. And that makes me feel stuck and bound and like I need to just say DO WHATEVER YOU WANT JUST GET IT DONE. The pull of an artist to do their own thing is very great.
A couple months ago I sent off a request for an estimate from pete at quest and he came a couple thousand under with a promise to have it done in 3 weeks. Honestly, even if I kiss the $1500 I''ve put down goodbye I''d still break even or save money. Now, six months after the first talk, five months after giving up my stone, I still haven''t seen a wax, and now I''m told we need a new estimate. I have no idea what the estimate is going to come in as, but platinum has gone up a lot in the last 6 months and... I''m just feeling frustrated and it makes me kinda mad that I have no one to turn to that really *gets* this stuff.
The wax was practically done before my first designer got sick. All I wanted was for it to be finished. Everything else has been me letting go of what I wanted to allow an artist to *feel* the piece. I have NOT been miss picky other than trying to hold on to as much of my original design as possible.
I feel like this has cost me a lot of time and money so far and yet all I can think of is that this is somehow my fault. I feel horrible even hitting send but I cannot shoulder this alone any longer. What sucks more than anything is I like ocean and wink both.
At what point do you cut your losses and move on? I know this is different for everyone and I''m sure I''ve already pushed it way beyond what others would tolerate, but this has become very difficult for me. I feel like I''m in a relationship with someone I love but it just isn''t working. I always thought of myself as brash and blunt but through this experience I am discovering I may be more of a people pleaser than I thought - with no skills on how to reconcile it all.
And the worst part is I feel so isolated. I feel like I cannot talk about the experience without being disloyal or hurtful. I was IMing with a diamond lover friend and he opened my eyes about a few things. But I feel like I''ve become so invested both in time and money that the losses are too great to move in another direction. And that makes me feel stuck and bound and like I need to just say DO WHATEVER YOU WANT JUST GET IT DONE. The pull of an artist to do their own thing is very great.
A couple months ago I sent off a request for an estimate from pete at quest and he came a couple thousand under with a promise to have it done in 3 weeks. Honestly, even if I kiss the $1500 I''ve put down goodbye I''d still break even or save money. Now, six months after the first talk, five months after giving up my stone, I still haven''t seen a wax, and now I''m told we need a new estimate. I have no idea what the estimate is going to come in as, but platinum has gone up a lot in the last 6 months and... I''m just feeling frustrated and it makes me kinda mad that I have no one to turn to that really *gets* this stuff.
The wax was practically done before my first designer got sick. All I wanted was for it to be finished. Everything else has been me letting go of what I wanted to allow an artist to *feel* the piece. I have NOT been miss picky other than trying to hold on to as much of my original design as possible.
I feel like this has cost me a lot of time and money so far and yet all I can think of is that this is somehow my fault. I feel horrible even hitting send but I cannot shoulder this alone any longer. What sucks more than anything is I like ocean and wink both.