Maisie
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Well I took the advice of my fellow PS'ers and confronted the man I work with over his behaviour.
Me David can we have a quick word?
Him Of course darling whats up?
Me I just wanted to say that I am getting tired of your suggestive remarks and the way you keep touching me. I don't like it and it has to stop.
Him I don't know what you mean....
Me Yes you do - I have told you to stop so many times but you don't listen. I don't like the rude comments all the time. Can't you just speak to me normally?
Him Well I'm a man. Its just the way we are. I don't need to change. You need to learn how to take a joke!
Me It isn't funny - in fact I actually find you to be very offensive. From now on if you can't speak to me normally then I would prefer it if you would just not speak to me at all.
Him Well fine if thats what you want.
About an hour after this exchange we started chatting about his kids etc. He really opened up about his life and his marriage. I tried to be supportive and offer him solutions to help him decide what to do about how miserable he is. I thought that everything would be ok now and that he had listened to what I had said to him earlier.
Wrong!
When we finish work we have to be searched. Its standard practice and we use one of those hand held scanner things. David was the one doing the searching. We have to stand with our arms out to the sides and the scanner is passed up our sides, along our arms, over our heads then down our backs. He decided to use the scanner to press against the sides of my breasts. I was furious. I slapped him really hard across the face but he just laughed.
I requested a meeting with the manager today. He took my comments seriously and scheduled a meeting with David after I left this evening. I won't find out how it went until the weekend when I am back at work. I hope this will be enough to stop his behaviour. I doubt he would be stupid enough to carry it on after being warned by management.
I think I was silly trying to help him with his marriage problems. He obviously saw that as me enocouraging him in some way. I wish I had just kept my distance. I won't talk to him again unless its work related. I am worried about how people will be with me once he tells them he was pulled up about this.
Me David can we have a quick word?
Him Of course darling whats up?
Me I just wanted to say that I am getting tired of your suggestive remarks and the way you keep touching me. I don't like it and it has to stop.
Him I don't know what you mean....
Me Yes you do - I have told you to stop so many times but you don't listen. I don't like the rude comments all the time. Can't you just speak to me normally?
Him Well I'm a man. Its just the way we are. I don't need to change. You need to learn how to take a joke!
Me It isn't funny - in fact I actually find you to be very offensive. From now on if you can't speak to me normally then I would prefer it if you would just not speak to me at all.
Him Well fine if thats what you want.
About an hour after this exchange we started chatting about his kids etc. He really opened up about his life and his marriage. I tried to be supportive and offer him solutions to help him decide what to do about how miserable he is. I thought that everything would be ok now and that he had listened to what I had said to him earlier.
Wrong!
When we finish work we have to be searched. Its standard practice and we use one of those hand held scanner things. David was the one doing the searching. We have to stand with our arms out to the sides and the scanner is passed up our sides, along our arms, over our heads then down our backs. He decided to use the scanner to press against the sides of my breasts. I was furious. I slapped him really hard across the face but he just laughed.
I requested a meeting with the manager today. He took my comments seriously and scheduled a meeting with David after I left this evening. I won't find out how it went until the weekend when I am back at work. I hope this will be enough to stop his behaviour. I doubt he would be stupid enough to carry it on after being warned by management.
I think I was silly trying to help him with his marriage problems. He obviously saw that as me enocouraging him in some way. I wish I had just kept my distance. I won't talk to him again unless its work related. I am worried about how people will be with me once he tells them he was pulled up about this.