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Date: 10/20/2009 7:07:15 PM
Author: lucyandroger
Date: 10/20/2009 4:52:38 PM
Author: radiantquest
It seems that you guys have good advice except for the simple fact that I doubt she will run up to her father and I and tell us she has had sex. She certainly wouldn''t tell her mother. He mother has never talked to her about any of that stuff. Nothing about puberty. Nothing.
I know that I was having sex before I went to the gynecologist. The only reason that I ended up going was because she caught me.I just really don''t think that she is going to tell us when she does so that means there could be something wreaking havoc on her girl parts in the mean time.
I think it''s great that you''re taking such an interest in your step daughter''s health, especially since it seems her mom is not.
Thirteen seems really young to me to assume she is sexually active. Can you have an honest discussion with her where you discuss sex, birth control, preventing STDs, and when the appropriate time to see the gynecologist is. Then without putting her on the spot about being sexually active, ask her if she thinks she should see the gyno.
You could also share your concerns with her pediatrician and have the pediatrician discuss sex and seeing a gynecologist with your step daughter in private.
Great in theory. My mother (and grandmother) talked to me repeatedly about sex. (Don''t do it. Do you need to see a doctor?)
They weren''t comfortable. I wasn''t comfortable.
I became active at 13. When I got found out at 15 (almost 16), they sent me to get an exam & BC pills (which I didn''t take -- just put them in my mouth and then spit them when no one was looking).
Much more, but too personal.
Needless to say, all the talking in the world won''t help if she isn''t comfortable.