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Brilliant_Rock
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Did you change your last name after you got married? Why or why not?
Last week out of the blue my coworker asked me if I am going to change my last name after I get married (I am engaged). I jokingly said to save company some resources (name tags, email change...etc) I will be keeping my last name. He said, "Wow that's outrageous!" I know he was totally kidding but that made me think back to my quite a few (unpleasant) conversations with my fiance. The deal is he wants me to change my last name. He said he's *disappointed* that I don't feel the same way and he feels he and his family are not *respected* if I don't. He's a lot more traditional than me. I don't see how changing my last name is he *respecting* MY last name. Anyway but I guess it comes down to how you *feel*.
I just feel like it's my name and I've lived with it for so many years. I don't see why I have to part with it just because I'm a girl.
I am sure this has been discussed before but what are the different views on this subject?
Interestingly my fiance's mom didn't take his dad's last name (they are still happily married). She kept her maiden name.
Last week out of the blue my coworker asked me if I am going to change my last name after I get married (I am engaged). I jokingly said to save company some resources (name tags, email change...etc) I will be keeping my last name. He said, "Wow that's outrageous!" I know he was totally kidding but that made me think back to my quite a few (unpleasant) conversations with my fiance. The deal is he wants me to change my last name. He said he's *disappointed* that I don't feel the same way and he feels he and his family are not *respected* if I don't. He's a lot more traditional than me. I don't see how changing my last name is he *respecting* MY last name. Anyway but I guess it comes down to how you *feel*.
I just feel like it's my name and I've lived with it for so many years. I don't see why I have to part with it just because I'm a girl.
I am sure this has been discussed before but what are the different views on this subject?
Interestingly my fiance's mom didn't take his dad's last name (they are still happily married). She kept her maiden name.