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Super_Ideal_Rock
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Every year my family "adopts" a family through my parents church. We are typically given a family that is large and needs a lot of help. The family they gave us this year is a smaller family (smaller meaning "only" 5 people) and the list is essentially giftcards. Normally we get a big family (like 7 or more sometimes) needing LOTS of stuff, and asking for specific stuff, this time we got "giftcards" to a variety of stores, nothing specific for anyone. That's abnormal for what we're usually given, since the organizers usually try to give us a family we can overload. We like to give them the things they ask for and need, plus a little extra to really give them a nice christmas.
The family this year has a 13 year old girl and I was thinking besides just gift cards, I wanted to get her a makeup bag with some neutral makeup. I was thinking about getting her a makeup bag, filled with brushes, an eye palette with neutrals, a neutral blush, a lip gloss or some tinted lip balm, and maybe a mascara and lash curler and some remover wipes or something along those lines. My mom liked that idea because it's starting her off right and it's something to open that's not just a gift card.
But when DH heard that he flipped out. His initial response was "you don't know if they are letting this girl wear makeup. You also don't know if she's white, black, latina, or asian or which race this child is, and she is a CHILD." (which is why I said neutrals, they work for all skintones.) He further went off screaming at me that "you people (meaning my family) do not get that what is "fun" for you is not "fun" for other people. They need help, and they're already probably ashamed to ask for it, and here you are trying to make what they need "fun" and going overboard with this crap every year. You don't get it. Get them what's on the list and quit trying to be heroic every year."
I am debating going and buying it all, setting it aside, and then if I discuss further with my parents and they agree with what he's saying, I can take it back.
Thoughts?
The family this year has a 13 year old girl and I was thinking besides just gift cards, I wanted to get her a makeup bag with some neutral makeup. I was thinking about getting her a makeup bag, filled with brushes, an eye palette with neutrals, a neutral blush, a lip gloss or some tinted lip balm, and maybe a mascara and lash curler and some remover wipes or something along those lines. My mom liked that idea because it's starting her off right and it's something to open that's not just a gift card.
But when DH heard that he flipped out. His initial response was "you don't know if they are letting this girl wear makeup. You also don't know if she's white, black, latina, or asian or which race this child is, and she is a CHILD." (which is why I said neutrals, they work for all skintones.) He further went off screaming at me that "you people (meaning my family) do not get that what is "fun" for you is not "fun" for other people. They need help, and they're already probably ashamed to ask for it, and here you are trying to make what they need "fun" and going overboard with this crap every year. You don't get it. Get them what's on the list and quit trying to be heroic every year."
I am debating going and buying it all, setting it aside, and then if I discuss further with my parents and they agree with what he's saying, I can take it back.
Thoughts?