Decision_Decisions
Shiny_Rock
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My son is almost 11. He has mostly boy friends but there is one girl in his group of friends. I don't think my son has any crushes yet. I think he basically considers her one of the guys, just nicer (boys can be such jerks to each other sometimes!). They play outside together, play online video games together, etc.
One of his boy friends and the girl have had sleepovers before. My son was invited to the last one but we said no. I feel at this stage that it's innocent but that it's a slippery slope once you say yes and I don't want to have to guess at what age it might not be innocent. My son was crushed and doesn't understand why having her there is an issue. I expect he will be invited again in the future.
Is a boy/girl sleepover a new thing? I just don't understand why the girl has to be invited at all honestly, but I'm wondering if I'm being too conservative. From what I understand they are in a shared sleeping space (playroom floor). Would you be ok with this for your tween child (boy or girl)? Are there certain scenarios in which you might consider it vs others? This is a new one for me!!
One of his boy friends and the girl have had sleepovers before. My son was invited to the last one but we said no. I feel at this stage that it's innocent but that it's a slippery slope once you say yes and I don't want to have to guess at what age it might not be innocent. My son was crushed and doesn't understand why having her there is an issue. I expect he will be invited again in the future.
Is a boy/girl sleepover a new thing? I just don't understand why the girl has to be invited at all honestly, but I'm wondering if I'm being too conservative. From what I understand they are in a shared sleeping space (playroom floor). Would you be ok with this for your tween child (boy or girl)? Are there certain scenarios in which you might consider it vs others? This is a new one for me!!
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