Hello, My husband and I got married without a ring, because we were both students at the time, he was
getting his phd, and I was working but also in school.
He of course promised to get me a ring as soon as we were not "poor" anymore.
Well, he has had a full time job now for 3 years, and makes alot more than the average guy.
but now he has changed his tune and says that diamonds are a brainwash, and that
we should be saving all our money for our future children (never the mind that I may
not be able to have children) and for our retirement (we are both under 30)
(we also did not take a honeymoon, and have never taken a vacation together, but this
is more of a time thing, as he is trying to get ahead in his field and is definitely a
workaholic.)
anyway, when we met he was much more romantic and was inclined to do anything to please me
but I can see now that he will never willingly buy me jewelry of any kind.
he cringes during valentines day and Christmas when the sappy jewelry commercials come on
and yells..what a brain wash!!! (So I know its inappropriate to ask for bling)
and these commercials he views from his brand new ginormous TV. He also bought himself
a brand new car. and he cries when he sees a scratch on it..
so I know he is not totally immune to the "brainwash"
its just that he is when it involves diamonds.
how do I make him understand that this is a romantic gesture to a woman, and that he is expressing
love, not that he is some fool to the jewelry industry if he buys me something???
getting his phd, and I was working but also in school.
He of course promised to get me a ring as soon as we were not "poor" anymore.
Well, he has had a full time job now for 3 years, and makes alot more than the average guy.
but now he has changed his tune and says that diamonds are a brainwash, and that
we should be saving all our money for our future children (never the mind that I may
not be able to have children) and for our retirement (we are both under 30)
(we also did not take a honeymoon, and have never taken a vacation together, but this
is more of a time thing, as he is trying to get ahead in his field and is definitely a
workaholic.)
anyway, when we met he was much more romantic and was inclined to do anything to please me
but I can see now that he will never willingly buy me jewelry of any kind.
he cringes during valentines day and Christmas when the sappy jewelry commercials come on
and yells..what a brain wash!!! (So I know its inappropriate to ask for bling)
and these commercials he views from his brand new ginormous TV. He also bought himself
a brand new car. and he cries when he sees a scratch on it..
so I know he is not totally immune to the "brainwash"
its just that he is when it involves diamonds.
how do I make him understand that this is a romantic gesture to a woman, and that he is expressing
love, not that he is some fool to the jewelry industry if he buys me something???