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You know, in a book by one of my favorite authors (Marge Piercy) the main character is going through a divorce, and as her husband whines and whines about the settlement, her attorney muses: "You know, it''s fascinating. It''s like he really believes that you earned different sorts of money, like you earned red money and he earned green money. You spent yours, and now he ought to be able to keep his ...." Luckily, as her lawyer observes, that is not how marriage *works.*
If you (specific "you") earn $1500 dollars and your (collective "your") rent is $1500 dollars and he earns more than twice what you do ... why the hell are you paying "your" (re: HIS) rent? What the hell is this man contributing to your household?
That''s completely aside from how in marriage, all these things should be shared. Just, logistically speaking: this guy has you to pay his rent and play the maid while he ... what, buys luxury items and calls it a day? Horse manure and poppycock, as Harry S. Truman would have said.
If he doesn''t make you feel loved and doesn''t in any way shape or form contribute to your quality of life, why are you with him? You''d get more fulfillment out of a good roommate to pay half the bills ....
If you (specific "you") earn $1500 dollars and your (collective "your") rent is $1500 dollars and he earns more than twice what you do ... why the hell are you paying "your" (re: HIS) rent? What the hell is this man contributing to your household?
That''s completely aside from how in marriage, all these things should be shared. Just, logistically speaking: this guy has you to pay his rent and play the maid while he ... what, buys luxury items and calls it a day? Horse manure and poppycock, as Harry S. Truman would have said.
If he doesn''t make you feel loved and doesn''t in any way shape or form contribute to your quality of life, why are you with him? You''d get more fulfillment out of a good roommate to pay half the bills ....