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is it really worth spending $25K for one day?
Hahaha, FI has a friend that was like your culture. Their parents finally settled on splitting in half...Date: 6/16/2008 3:21:18 AM
Author: Deelight
In my culture the grooms family pays in his culture the brides family pays in reality we will most likely pay the lot though my sister has said she wants to buy my wedding dress, silly sisterplan to hold her to that one.
Date: 6/16/2008 12:58:52 AM
Author:Dancing Fire
is it really worth spending $25K for one day?
Date: 6/16/2008 2:30:31 PM
Author: jewelerman
Sociery expects to much when it comes to weddings and most special occations....I SAY KEEP THEM SMALL...no more then a few thousand dollars tops...spend the money on a future together...rings,car payments,invest the money for the future,make payments on a house or childrens college funds...most wedding stuff is un-forgettable and stressful at best...who remenbers most people''s wedding details and the color of the mints and flowers...use the money to set up house hold and dont expect people to bring gifts that are going back for cash any way...a small church or garden or beach wedding is far more romantic then a large gathering!enough said...
Date: 6/16/2008 7:51:47 PM
Author: jewelerman
sna77,
sorry to hear that things are out of control...i think you are using the word ''we''to much...if they want to pay 50,000 for the wedding then let them...its their choice to spend their money the way they want ...but i would draw the line at going in debt yourself for a wedding they want...save your money for the house payments...unless of course the family wants to make the payments for you because you are still paying for one big party that may take years to pay off...
agree ! why spent that much for a day of fun.Date: 6/16/2008 10:48:40 PM
Author: sna77
Date: 6/16/2008 7:51:47 PM
Author: jewelerman
sna77,
sorry to hear that things are out of control...i think you are using the word ''we''to much...if they want to pay 50,000 for the wedding then let them...its their choice to spend their money the way they want ...but i would draw the line at going in debt yourself for a wedding they want...save your money for the house payments...unless of course the family wants to make the payments for you because you are still paying for one big party that may take years to pay off...
When I say ''we'' I meant everyone paying for the wedding, which is just the 2 sets of parents... I told FI that I was not contributing anything to the wedding fund b/c I HATED the idea of a big wedding... So, er... yeah not creating any debt at all for myself... I was saying $50k from the paretns would be helpful for the house payments (basically, I''d rather a really nice wedding present than the wedding itself... haha
Date: 6/16/2008 3:27:27 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
chinese tradition....the groom side pays for everythingand...we have two daughters
Date: 6/16/2008 8:53:42 PM
Author: Gypsy
We are paying for quite a bit of it but our families are helping out. Actually ours will cost very close to the 25K. And yes, I do think its worth it. Deelight, same thing here! My culture grooms family pays, his the brides. LOL.