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Date: 4/27/2009 1:00:41 PM
Author: suchende
Everyone does realize I was asking about money-managing compatibility, as in, how will we spend the money we do have, not what I will do if it turns out we don't have any, right? I feel like this has gotten obscured by some other discussion about priorities and earining potential's role in mate selection. I guess it's such a hot-button issue people cannot help but gravitate towards it.
I think we all understand that point...you both plan on having high paying careers and having money to spend on fun things. However, the married people that have responded to your original post also know that life and marriage don't always turn out as we plan...life has a way of changing your plans. Even the best plan can be waylaid by unforeseen circumstances, so the gist of the advice is to be sure you aren't marrying because you are both counting on that six figure income to be there forever. The six figure income is not what makes a good marriage and can dry up faster than you could ever imagine...honestly, what would you do if one of you lost your job, or had an accident and could no longer work? That is the more important question to answer honestly, than how you will spend your money...I know it's a silly saying, but you truly can't count your chickens before they hatch.