meresal
Ideal_Rock
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This is the "Toxic Friend" that I thought I was rid of after the wedding, but Nope! She started dating the roomate of my MOH's boyfriend.
I really thought that nothing she could do would ever bother me again. I have ("HAD") a pretty solid wall built up. I don't care that she doesn't visit... and why would it surprise me that even when I come home, she still can't commit to meeting up? She never did before, unless her "boyfriend at the time" wanted to go.
DH and I are going back to my home town for the weekend. NYE at MOH's lake house, where NFF (non-friend friend) and her boyfriend will be, and then one night back at my parents house, which is in the same city that she lives (10 minutes away).
I asked if we could all meet up on New Years Day evening after we relax and watch football all day... her reply, "Keep us informed. Hopefully (Probably) we will be down for whatever!"
In her world, this phrase means... I'm not going to commit to anything becuase I want to be with BF, and if he doesn't want to go, then I will cancel at the last minute anyway (or) she would come out for an hour and then complain about not feeling well so that she can get back to be with her BF.
DH's response to her text message above, "I hope you realize that if she doesn't meet up with you, I will never speak to her again, and she is not welcome in our home."
He is still pretty pissed that when I was home last, in October; because she wanted to go back to her BF's apartment that night, we had to meet at a loud smokey bar instead of meeting closer to her own apartment and our parents homes, which would have been a non-smoking bar my friends and I always meet at. Ohh, and she also lit up a cigarette at the table right in front of me. When I asked her what she was doing, her response was... "What? Do you want one?" (And yes, she has been pregnant before.)
I don't know what to do. Am I making too big of a deal about this? If she wasn't becoming best friends with my best friend, we would no longer even be talking... but I feel like, since she is part of the "group" now, that I would be isolating myself if I tried to disconnect with her.
I really thought that nothing she could do would ever bother me again. I have ("HAD") a pretty solid wall built up. I don't care that she doesn't visit... and why would it surprise me that even when I come home, she still can't commit to meeting up? She never did before, unless her "boyfriend at the time" wanted to go.
DH and I are going back to my home town for the weekend. NYE at MOH's lake house, where NFF (non-friend friend) and her boyfriend will be, and then one night back at my parents house, which is in the same city that she lives (10 minutes away).
I asked if we could all meet up on New Years Day evening after we relax and watch football all day... her reply, "Keep us informed. Hopefully (Probably) we will be down for whatever!"
In her world, this phrase means... I'm not going to commit to anything becuase I want to be with BF, and if he doesn't want to go, then I will cancel at the last minute anyway (or) she would come out for an hour and then complain about not feeling well so that she can get back to be with her BF.
DH's response to her text message above, "I hope you realize that if she doesn't meet up with you, I will never speak to her again, and she is not welcome in our home."
He is still pretty pissed that when I was home last, in October; because she wanted to go back to her BF's apartment that night, we had to meet at a loud smokey bar instead of meeting closer to her own apartment and our parents homes, which would have been a non-smoking bar my friends and I always meet at. Ohh, and she also lit up a cigarette at the table right in front of me. When I asked her what she was doing, her response was... "What? Do you want one?" (And yes, she has been pregnant before.)
I don't know what to do. Am I making too big of a deal about this? If she wasn't becoming best friends with my best friend, we would no longer even be talking... but I feel like, since she is part of the "group" now, that I would be isolating myself if I tried to disconnect with her.