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Shiny_Rock
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- Jul 15, 2006
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first of all, i am asking for no judgement because what i really need is some input, encouragement and maybe a "there there" regarding my 3 year old daughter. She will be 4 end of the month and she''s the youngest of five, oldest is 21(sister) and 3 brothers in the middle(19,14,5 1/2) gemma is strong, strong strong-willed, she screams like a B movie, she is sooo smart, she''s beautiful BUT she just doesn''t listen, EVER. last night, i prayed because all week, i have taken her and her brother who''s five to pumpkin patches and parks since the weather is so beautiful. she walks ahead, she walks behind, she buckles her carseat, she unbuckles it. i shake my head, becazuse i KNOW spomeone here has a kid like this and i want to know if they are in prison yet? (joke) i yelled, screamed, threatened, spanked, punished all week but to no avail. i can''t always just stop what i''m doing, and i don''t want to punish her brother if we are out having fun because it''s not fair to him. so in a perfect world, yes i could leave wherever, but you see, i can''t. like last night at 14yr olds soccer game, she took off running and ran the entire length of another soccer field and i had to run for my life after her. i told her the bad man could take her-it does seem to get her attention and i mean it! there are bad men and they do take little girls. i made her sit on the blanket the rest of the game. she was allowed to color adn look at books but that did not stop her from talking and begging the ENTIRE game to pwwweeeze pwwweeeze mama let me get off this stupid blanket...
i was really a devil-mother the last few days, so last night, with God''s help, I decided today I''d be calmer, more patient. It seemed to work somewhat today, but we stayed at home after I got her brother from school. He and her together is definitely the biggest catalyst for issues. when she''s here in the morning with me, she''ll do computer games, color, play with her dollhouse, she does talk/sing almost non-stop. it''s super aggravating to all of the men in this house! ha ha. i wouldn''t say she has been any more coddled than any of the otehr kids. she''s just sooo intense. i have felt like a failure at times and even worried about her safety as i was planting a few mums and she went intot he garage and i guess she tried to climb a metal shelf unit for a shovell to help me and she cut her finger. i am so afraid she''s going to do something that she can really get hurt. she''s sooo independent ALL the time. she''s affectionate and sweet and sooo adorable but she drives me insane, most minutes of my day.
i am a rather busy person, i am not a lounger, so i don''t mind activity but the screaming,whining, pleading patheticness that she does when i reprimand her drive me batrty.
Any of you have a daughter/son like this? I think she is really very very bright, maybe gifted. She is very detail-oriented with her drawing etc. Knows words to entire songs-she does so many charming and funny things, but the days are so long...
sorry this is fragmented-thinking it''s bedtime and i need to put wee ones there asap. i just need any concrete skills that may help me with this child. my first four have been generally quite compliant people(as i am too) so this is foreign to me, it really is-someone who does whatever the he** they please! thanks for any insight into my situation. i see her as a bright, determined, little person who''s going to go far in life, but it may kill me first!
thank you
i was really a devil-mother the last few days, so last night, with God''s help, I decided today I''d be calmer, more patient. It seemed to work somewhat today, but we stayed at home after I got her brother from school. He and her together is definitely the biggest catalyst for issues. when she''s here in the morning with me, she''ll do computer games, color, play with her dollhouse, she does talk/sing almost non-stop. it''s super aggravating to all of the men in this house! ha ha. i wouldn''t say she has been any more coddled than any of the otehr kids. she''s just sooo intense. i have felt like a failure at times and even worried about her safety as i was planting a few mums and she went intot he garage and i guess she tried to climb a metal shelf unit for a shovell to help me and she cut her finger. i am so afraid she''s going to do something that she can really get hurt. she''s sooo independent ALL the time. she''s affectionate and sweet and sooo adorable but she drives me insane, most minutes of my day.
i am a rather busy person, i am not a lounger, so i don''t mind activity but the screaming,whining, pleading patheticness that she does when i reprimand her drive me batrty.
Any of you have a daughter/son like this? I think she is really very very bright, maybe gifted. She is very detail-oriented with her drawing etc. Knows words to entire songs-she does so many charming and funny things, but the days are so long...
sorry this is fragmented-thinking it''s bedtime and i need to put wee ones there asap. i just need any concrete skills that may help me with this child. my first four have been generally quite compliant people(as i am too) so this is foreign to me, it really is-someone who does whatever the he** they please! thanks for any insight into my situation. i see her as a bright, determined, little person who''s going to go far in life, but it may kill me first!
thank you