MichelleCarmen
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This is just not a good week, with putting kitties up for adoption AND now, my son's friend has issues of sorts.
I posted on the health board, but now I'm just flustered over a horrible situation, so here I am posting again. My son has a friend whom he's liked A LOT since the beginning of Kindergarten and now half way through first grade he ADORES this kid! The mom had said a few times to me and my DH that her kid is a handful, but what kid isn't (?), so I never took her description with too much concern.
Well. . . he had a b-day date set up with my son and another kid. The other kid said he couldn't make it to the play date because the b-day kid is "too violent." Hearing this still didn't trigger the extreme alarm bells for me because I know kids say strange things, and I didn't have any solid proof that this was anything more than what a young imaginative kid might say.
When I dropped my son off at the b-day kids' celebration, the mom mentioned that her son "breaks things." This I questioned to myself. . .my son possibly has broken something, maybe, but nothing that I can remember and based on the mom's comment, the idea that the kid routinely breaks things on purpose crossed my mind!
I posted on Fri, wondering what to make of this all. My husband and I talked about having the kid over to get an idea of his personality, but our worse fears were confirmed within FIVE minutes of being around the boy. Last night, his mother dropped my son off and her son came along and the first thing he said about a video game was "does it have killing? I like killing games." He then said he wanted a pet rat and too other pets - I cannot recall the species, because he can watch them attack or kill each other. His only two other comments were killing comments! His mother walked him out the door while he was talking about beating someone up!
This is NO JOKE. Calling that kid violent is an understatement.
This is the kid my son considers his "best friend!"
My son is sweet and we've worked so hard in keeping him in decent company. He's only allowed to play video game on the weekends, we limit what he watches on TV, and he's for the most part a great kid! He's doing great in school and his teacher gives him a "thumbs up," in his school behavior chart every day.
Why would my son be attracted to the kid that has such a dark view on life? How do I break the charm this kid seems to have over my son?
My son seemed to sense how wrong the kids comments were as he was oddly quiet around us after his friend left. I told him he has to start playing with other kids. Is it wrong of me to forceable tell him NOT to play with that kid? He's going to have a play date w/another kid, but is that enough when I can't be there to hold his hand during school?
What a mess!
I posted on the health board, but now I'm just flustered over a horrible situation, so here I am posting again. My son has a friend whom he's liked A LOT since the beginning of Kindergarten and now half way through first grade he ADORES this kid! The mom had said a few times to me and my DH that her kid is a handful, but what kid isn't (?), so I never took her description with too much concern.
Well. . . he had a b-day date set up with my son and another kid. The other kid said he couldn't make it to the play date because the b-day kid is "too violent." Hearing this still didn't trigger the extreme alarm bells for me because I know kids say strange things, and I didn't have any solid proof that this was anything more than what a young imaginative kid might say.
When I dropped my son off at the b-day kids' celebration, the mom mentioned that her son "breaks things." This I questioned to myself. . .my son possibly has broken something, maybe, but nothing that I can remember and based on the mom's comment, the idea that the kid routinely breaks things on purpose crossed my mind!
I posted on Fri, wondering what to make of this all. My husband and I talked about having the kid over to get an idea of his personality, but our worse fears were confirmed within FIVE minutes of being around the boy. Last night, his mother dropped my son off and her son came along and the first thing he said about a video game was "does it have killing? I like killing games." He then said he wanted a pet rat and too other pets - I cannot recall the species, because he can watch them attack or kill each other. His only two other comments were killing comments! His mother walked him out the door while he was talking about beating someone up!
This is NO JOKE. Calling that kid violent is an understatement.
This is the kid my son considers his "best friend!"
My son is sweet and we've worked so hard in keeping him in decent company. He's only allowed to play video game on the weekends, we limit what he watches on TV, and he's for the most part a great kid! He's doing great in school and his teacher gives him a "thumbs up," in his school behavior chart every day.
Why would my son be attracted to the kid that has such a dark view on life? How do I break the charm this kid seems to have over my son?
My son seemed to sense how wrong the kids comments were as he was oddly quiet around us after his friend left. I told him he has to start playing with other kids. Is it wrong of me to forceable tell him NOT to play with that kid? He's going to have a play date w/another kid, but is that enough when I can't be there to hold his hand during school?
What a mess!