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Re: Sister-in-law's Destination Wedding: How Much Is Too Muc
Yeah what sucks is that these types of relationships mean that this wedding isn't in a vacuum. The bitterness and resentment on both sides will stay for a long time and it'll have a lasting impact on their relationship. I personally have negative events surrounding my wedding with my sil and mil that I don't think I'll ever really "get over".
This while thing is a mess
missy|1440850993|3920718 said:Niel|1440850505|3920715 said:missy|1440849824|3920712 said:Niel|1440849624|3920711 said:I agree with the others who say that a marriage is about to people and a wedding is a collective social event. To take it from an elopement to a reception takes it from a personal, "do whatever we want" to a, at least small, social obligation.
The catty side of me hopes no one goes no goes on the cruise so the 20k she was earning from his parents has to fund the cruise she's getting "for free"
Niel, a wedding is exactly what the bride and groom want it to be. It could be a collective social event or a more intimate affair between just the couple and a witness or 2. Or both as the case may be as in my experience. It really can be anything the bride and groom want it to be. I don't feel there is one right size fits all.
You're misunderstanding what I'm saying. I didn't even say wedding, I said elopement vs reception. They can have their wedding whatever they want but when the wedding is expected to involve others I expect some social obligation comes into play. If you want others to join in your day, it becomes an expectation you're placing on them, and I think at least some consideration for them should exist.
OK Gotcha. Yes if you want others to be there you have to take into account these factors. Like I said they have to live with the consequences of their actions no doubt about it. She sounds immature to say the least not to realize this. Or else she does realize it and doesn't care. I have learned a long time ago not to put more effort into a relationship than others are willing to put into that same relationship. Time will tell what matters most to her and her dh to be.
Yeah what sucks is that these types of relationships mean that this wedding isn't in a vacuum. The bitterness and resentment on both sides will stay for a long time and it'll have a lasting impact on their relationship. I personally have negative events surrounding my wedding with my sil and mil that I don't think I'll ever really "get over".
This while thing is a mess