dani13
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Date: 5/18/2010 3:46:18 PM
Author: LaurenThePartier
Jewelgal, you''ve got a ton of great advice in this thread. No one can make this decision for you, but if you''re putting too many obstacles in your way, they will stack up against you. Just make sure you''re honest with yourself and don''t have children for anyone but YOU and your needs/desires!
I''ve been a fence-sitter until about the last 6 months, and I completely identify with Mara''s & Bliss'' posts on their thought process to leaning toward the ''having kids'' position. I think DH and I would be happy with kids or without them, but I think we would be wonderful parents. I often think of my own family and tears spring to my eyes from all of the wonderful memories I share with those I call ''family''. My perception of the parent-child relationship speaks to me in a way that says ''joy'', and I would love to share that experience with the person I love most in my life.
Our approach is much like Mara and her DH. We figured we may as well try before we get too old (I''m 34, DH is 31). I can also relate to TGal''s advice to take it day by day. Coming to the decision to have kids was one we have mulled over for the last 4 years of our marriage, daily. I think we''re going to try and see what happens, and if it happens - great! If it doesn''t - well, that''s great, too!
This is how we feel too. If it happens, it happens