Jamester12
Rough_Rock
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- Dec 1, 2012
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Ok, so to start off, my man & I have been together a year as of August 2012 & he is currently away at Basic training for the Army. Back in September of this year, we flew to England for my cousin's wedding. He had known about the trip since January & I had purchased the plane tickets for our trip. A couple of weeks before we were scheduled to leave, I reminded him he needed to have money saved up because I could not afford to pick up the tab for the entire trip for both of us. He started doing a lot of side jobs apart from his regular job to have some extra money. The trip went off without a hitch and was a lot of fun. Our last day in England, we toured London. We spent all day sightseeing, taking tour buses, walking, etc.
So needless to say, by the end of the day I was tired, had blisters on my feet, & was ready to go back to my relatives house to get some sleep before our flight in the morning (grumpy is probably the best term to define my mood). Before we headed back to the train, he was VERY insistent on us heading to Piccadilly Square to see it lit up at night. After I tried to convince him I didn't want to go, I could see the disappointment on his face so I went anyways.
We were there just standing around & I made a joke about the two of us not being official (I can't really remember what we were talking about). Then he pulls out a red box from his jacket & says, "Maybe this will do." He opened the box & It was a ring. I was completely shocked. I didn't get a speech and he asked "do I have to get down on one knee?"
I told him "yes, you're supposed to" ... so he dropped down on his knee, asked if I would marry him, & then popped right back up. i was completely in shock & said yes as I was crying. There were loads of people around which made the scenario not so private & no one even notice he had proposed.
Well, it is now 2 months after the proposal & when people have asked how we got Engaged, he or I will say he did it in London. People say, "Oh wow, how romantic!" But if they knew the details, it really wasn't romantic at all. & I really hate how it happened because it wasn't romantic, it was just surprising.
To make matters worse, I do not care for my ring. The diamond is from a ring that was his mothers (from a FAILED marriage --isn't that tabu?) & I feel like it is small for my hands (I don't know diamond sizes). On top of that, he had the band made for it cost him $300.
I know he was having a lot of financial issues & I recently have helped him get it all under control. But I wish he would have waited to buy me a ring that was nicer or at least my taste. We had never even looked at rings before.
I probably sounds like such a snob, but I feel that an engagement ring should make you feel special. I do not wear a lot of jewelry & I think that is partly why I think a ring should be dazzling. I am not expecting something extravagant, but I do feel that an engagement ring should cost at least $1,000 and be similar to the womans taste.
He won't be home til April of 2013 & we are planning to get married in October 2013. But I really do not want to wear this ring for an entire year because it is not my taste at all. He says that he has a 'wrap' planned out for the wedding band, but I am not sure how I feel about it.
Does anyone have any advice? Should i just go out & upgrade my ring on my own? I don't want to be stuck with something that doesnt make me happy, especially if it's lifelong.
Here is a link to my ring **edited by moderator. please upload photos to forum directly per our policy**
So needless to say, by the end of the day I was tired, had blisters on my feet, & was ready to go back to my relatives house to get some sleep before our flight in the morning (grumpy is probably the best term to define my mood). Before we headed back to the train, he was VERY insistent on us heading to Piccadilly Square to see it lit up at night. After I tried to convince him I didn't want to go, I could see the disappointment on his face so I went anyways.
We were there just standing around & I made a joke about the two of us not being official (I can't really remember what we were talking about). Then he pulls out a red box from his jacket & says, "Maybe this will do." He opened the box & It was a ring. I was completely shocked. I didn't get a speech and he asked "do I have to get down on one knee?"
I told him "yes, you're supposed to" ... so he dropped down on his knee, asked if I would marry him, & then popped right back up. i was completely in shock & said yes as I was crying. There were loads of people around which made the scenario not so private & no one even notice he had proposed.
Well, it is now 2 months after the proposal & when people have asked how we got Engaged, he or I will say he did it in London. People say, "Oh wow, how romantic!" But if they knew the details, it really wasn't romantic at all. & I really hate how it happened because it wasn't romantic, it was just surprising.
To make matters worse, I do not care for my ring. The diamond is from a ring that was his mothers (from a FAILED marriage --isn't that tabu?) & I feel like it is small for my hands (I don't know diamond sizes). On top of that, he had the band made for it cost him $300.
I know he was having a lot of financial issues & I recently have helped him get it all under control. But I wish he would have waited to buy me a ring that was nicer or at least my taste. We had never even looked at rings before.
I probably sounds like such a snob, but I feel that an engagement ring should make you feel special. I do not wear a lot of jewelry & I think that is partly why I think a ring should be dazzling. I am not expecting something extravagant, but I do feel that an engagement ring should cost at least $1,000 and be similar to the womans taste.
He won't be home til April of 2013 & we are planning to get married in October 2013. But I really do not want to wear this ring for an entire year because it is not my taste at all. He says that he has a 'wrap' planned out for the wedding band, but I am not sure how I feel about it.
Does anyone have any advice? Should i just go out & upgrade my ring on my own? I don't want to be stuck with something that doesnt make me happy, especially if it's lifelong.
Here is a link to my ring **edited by moderator. please upload photos to forum directly per our policy**